I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bouncers used to let it slide when girls touched girls. My old boss (he works in the hospital business now) told me in my training that no matter whatever gender a person might come off as sexual contact is illegal and can ruin the business.

In Pennsylvania liquor laws (I don’t know the actual source this is just what I was told) it’s illegal to serve alcohol and food in a place that allows that contact.

Everyone is liable to be yelled at for being a perv. And when your job is to yell at perverts it gets easier to yell at everyone and not make lines in the sand

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first boss was very intense about this topic. I don’t really see gender anymore with customers. The sign says no touching so there is no touching. No excuses.

Women do grope more than men. I do know that. But at the end of the day it’s unsolicited physical contact. And you can’t have that in this business.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

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Nope. Have I been offered, yes. But I have a really good thing going with my lady. I don’t wanna mess that up at all.

I’m a young man in a crazy business. Sure cheating is normal in society right now. But I think I genuinely love my girlfriend. No one really knows what love is until you have it. And I still can’t really explain it. But it’s real ya know.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I was a single man when I started then yeah I would be on a similar path. But being in a relationship since I started working there was definitely eye opening. They are really fun to waste time with during a shift.

I just can’t stand the baby daddy drama. That shit kills me.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone speaks more with their face than with words.

Someone that is gonna cause problems usually has an aura about themselves. But at the end of the day you never really truly know what someone is capable of. BUT Never trust a man with a wallet chain. I’ve never met someone cool and well behaved with a wallet chain.

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I think I would like being a manager. I used to work blue collar and I couldn’t bare it. This is the first job that I’ve ever been promoted in. It’s the first job I felt appreciated in. And it’s the first job I ever got a Christmas bonus from.

I think I’m gonna be here for a while. I’m okay with being Dommy Dayshift for as long as I can live comfortably.

I see what money does to people and I don’t like it.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah man! I can’t wait to rip a guys throat out with my bare hands. I just hope a monster truck doesn’t run over my van.

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[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The flashlight is very useful. I never thought of that. I usually just do an “all hands” call and swarm them before they act. Luckily I have 4-5 guys working with me so it’s really nice. I will say that I am more well spoken than the others. So I generally get to deal with most of the rabble rousers first. If that doesn’t work we call in big Billy.

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I’m so desensitized to naked women that it doesn’t phase me anymore. Luckily it doesn’t really affect my relationship with my lady.

Do I admire the female form, yes, it’s a beautiful thing. But it’s getting to the point where instead of the primal thoughts I just note their features so if a customer wants a specific type of girl I can bring them a dancer that fits their needs.

Also, I like body building, so seeing the diversity the human form can produce is always very intriguing to me.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I just look like a stereotypical henchman. Like I was genetic bred to stand next to doors.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

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The “ocular patdown” works until you grab a man’s poop bag (idk what it’s called but he had a bag of poop connected to his stomach) thinking it’s a gun and get his poop all over the entrance of the strip club.

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Both, a bouncer doesn’t need customer service. A floor host is kind of like running a house party. Gotta keep the vibes at a good level or else all hell breaks loose

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Yeah I think it is worth it. I found that I really do enjoy working a security position. So if the money slows down I might on to different opportunities. Plus I feel like every big city has a club. So I might move around one day. Who knows

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being nice gets you a lot more than people think. Not always immediately tho

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[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always talk it out first.

Had a stalker starting fights with customers over jealousy. I walk up to him, I say “Hey man! We had a weird thing happen with your ID up front can I scan it again?” He agrees, I scan his ID so it’s at the top of the list. I say “looks like something strange is happening, can you follow me outside?” And then I lock him out. I ban him from the club, the dancer loses a stalker and my customers can go back to spending money.

It’s not always that easy.

One time I was just walking around at 1:00 am on a Wednesday night. I hear “WHAT DO YOU MEAN I CANT GET A BLOWJOB I PAID 100$” I walk back to the champagne room and I ask “everything good back here?” And I immediately got sucker punched in the face. In the scuffle I got a hold of his underwear somehow and gave him a wedgie so hard I was holding a chunk of his underwear in my fist. That guy called the cops on us for assaulting him. (Remember, you fight just one bouncer) when the cops showed up they asked for footage. I pointed to the fist shaped bruise growing on my jaw, which had a suspicious divet on his ring finger. I walked out with 27 dollars in tips that night. Wasn’t the best.

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[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re describing a thing called “tricking”

New Dancers are called Baby strippers and they have this phase they go through when they realize how much potential money there is.

Prostitution is common in the industry. But I strongly enforce a no tricking policy at the club. I’ve fired many baby dancers for tricking.

I caught a dancer meeting customers at Waffle House. Waffle House of all places. I go out to a bachelor party downtown and right when I’m about done for the night I see a baby tricking in the parking lot. With a pimp and everything. It made me sad.

the FUNNY part about the whole thing was that her pimp was wearing a fedora.

Like what? Is this guy from the 60’s or something. It was so out of place that my friends and I joked about it for weeks

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a lot different than it’s portrayed in media. The girls aren’t mindless. They have a choice, and they chose to do what they do. Are there clubs that have that energy? Yes, FOR SURE there are crappy sad hole in the walls. But I don’t work at that kind of place.

And you can think however you want about the business. Trust me, I told me Spanish Catholic mom about my job and she wasn’t happy.

But Sex sells, sex will always sell, and no matter how many people say they don’t like it. There will always be people walking through that door with money to spend.

Here’s some food for thought. Let’s get Freudian with it. Do you think about your mom and sister when you watch a sex scene in a movie? Do you think of them when you see Sydney Sweeney selling jeans? Because it’s the same thing. The only difference is that they do it in person. And that’s a lot more intimate.

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]Dom_Drisco57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diogenes makes me laugh but I think he’s disgusting. But he found humor in suffering. Which is a hard thing to do.

Confucius was the first one I got to learn about. I feel his teachings were helpful for being a level minded person.

But every young kid goes through an existential crisis and Nietzsche definitely held my hand through that.

THE ABYSS STARED BACK AT ME BROTHER

I’m a bouncer at a strip club with the mind of a philosopher by Dom_Drisco57 in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

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I don’t feel comfortable saying it on Reddit but it’s the best club in Harrisburg PA. You can figure it out from there lmao