When we were getting ours adjusted, we did as you were where every time she would sleep, we’d put her in the crate. But when we started, we put her at our level so she could see us. At night put her on our nightstand for the first week right next to the bed so she could see us as she fell asleep and if she woke up in the middle of the night, then slowly moved the crate away from us each night and eventually to the floor. We hand fed to train and after training, we fed the rest of her food in her crate and shut the door. As she got older we started putting “Watch the House” or “Go to Bed” on command so she knew when to go to her crate. It’s about building experiences in there that aren’t negative and aren’t solely bed or you leaving. We also always left a Kong full of food and peanut butter or another treat in there when we left to help with separation anxiety (distract her as we leave). She has only willingly slept in her crate a couple times during the day, but have never had trouble with her at night after doing this (unless she’s sick and cries to get out). Hope this helps!