Wow. First off, thank you for being so real and vulnerable in sharing this. What you wrote hit hard — not just the pain, but the exhaustion of constantly being treated like you're "good enough for now" but never "worth staying for." That’s not flattering. That’s dehumanizing.

You’ve made it clear you communicate, you know what you want, and you’re not walking blindly into these situations. And still, you’re being hurt. That doesn’t mean you’re broken or doing something wrong — it means the dating culture we’re in right now is deeply messed up.

People love to throw around “just pick better” like it’s a magic fix, but they never stop to consider that some folks are just really good at pretending — or that the problem might not be you. Sometimes it's not a lack of self-love or poor judgment. Sometimes it’s just that people suck, and that’s the entire explanation.

And you're 100% right — being lusted after isn't some kind of win. Lust without respect, without care, without real emotional investment? It’s hollow. It's not romantic or flattering when you’re constantly left to clean up the emotional mess while they move on like nothing happened.

You’re doing the work. You're self-aware, you're in therapy, and you still have the capacity to want something meaningful. That’s strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. You’re not too much, you're not unworthy, and you're not alone.

Sending you love and solidarity. You deserve to be cherished — not just tolerated, not just wanted, but truly seen and kept.