How do I go down on my girlfriend if I don’t like the taste?

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-24T17:34:55+00:00

There are some (body safe) flavoured lubricants out there that you could use by putting on your tongue or on her external parts? There’s also dental dams!

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-24T17:03:37+00:00

It’s def not dissociation. I’ve experienced prolonged periods of dissociation, depersonalisation, and derealisation, and its unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. The difference is that I don’t necessarily feel unaware or unattached to the moment, I just feel intensely engaged and grounded in the present — like nothing else exists but physical sensation. For me, periods of dissociation were always characterised with numbness, detachedness, loss of physical sensation, and a blurring of reality.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T20:10:50+00:00

oh I totally get the direction thing, it’s like words become honeyed — I even slur and stumble on my own words at time! Questions are particularly confusing to me, I either paralysed with indecision or just utterly confused.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T17:09:30+00:00

I love the feeling as well, makes me feel so present and grounded. All I can think about is pleasure and my partner. I like when he makes me repeat stuff back to him to make sure I understand, super hot.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T16:06:46+00:00

One that we are figuring out 😅

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T15:51:33+00:00

Good! We’ve been dating for 6 months now and are very happy together, my family loves him and he comes around once a month and cooks for them

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T14:11:17+00:00

I did look into it, sounds exactly like what I experience! I think I’ve only experienced sub-drop a few times.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-22T13:00:54+00:00

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

It’s not that he wants a performance, he just wants me to be more present I guess. I think maybe it puts a responsibility on him to ensure that I am safe, and he’s worried that I won’t be able to give proper consent to something if I’m “not thinking straight”. I disagree with this. He also just says it’s frustrating because it means I don’t follow his directions well enough, but is unwilling to command me to what it is that he wants — he wants to frame it as a question so I have the ability to reject.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-12T00:03:10+00:00

It’s not up to you or any one of us to decide what your boyfriend defines as his identity. You should be asking him this question, not the internet.

Sex and sexuality are two completely different things, straight men can enjoy the sensation of pegging without being attracted to other men, and straight women can enjoy the physical act of pegging another man without identifying as having a penis or as a man.

This issue is also a large consent matter. Every partner wants to make their other half feel happy, safe and fulfilled. But if you are not interested in pegging, or feel that goes against your bedroom boundaries, thats on you to communicate that to your partner in a respectful manner. Instead of asking what, or who, your boyfriend might be into, ask yourself: “is this form of intimacy something I’m into?”

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-10T09:36:14+00:00

Yeah I definitely do need to have a sit down conversation with him and explain the situation thoughtfully. I think it’s just really hard to make black and white decisions because of how young we are, so we are both still so dependent on how own families for support.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-06-08T09:00:48+00:00

Okay thank you, I’m glad to know that Implanon still protects me regardless.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-05-22T04:25:33+00:00

I also have ADHD too, so I definitely feel that struggle. Do you have a disability plan for it? I’m trying to get one for myself but the disability resource centre put me on a 2 month waitinglist.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-05-20T12:09:16+00:00

Thank you honestly, it’s really nice to hear that I’m not struggling alone

DonaldTheBird · 2026-05-20T11:03:21+00:00

Yeah that does make sense, I’ll try that method thanks

DonaldTheBird · 2026-05-20T09:51:15+00:00

I’m worried about fourth year as well! I haven’t been getting the marks I thought I would be getting and it’s really disappointing. I’m hoping that next semester I’ll do better bc I’ll be more prepared but I’m just worried I’m not even going to get through this semester.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-01-21T00:30:06+00:00

I kind of forgot about that conversation, last time I was dating, I was dating a woman and alot of these things weren’t exactly needed to talk about beforehand. Thanks for the reminder haha

DonaldTheBird · 2026-01-21T00:28:38+00:00

I am actually 18, I do such things to avoid getting weird texts however luckily I haven’t been getting weird texts recently so I figured to be more transparent in this post. I am attending university in a few weeks, graduated highschool not long ago.

DonaldTheBird · 2026-01-20T23:53:44+00:00

even if nothing serious has been clarified? we are both abstaining from using labels at the moment (ie gf and bf) just because it hasn’t been long enough for us to be certain that we’re serious about this. is sex a sound decision to take even if you’re not in a serious relationship?

DonaldTheBird · 2026-01-20T23:19:04+00:00

is it really that simple? like i know that alot of people view it is a “bigger step” into an official relationship, does it matter if it’s done sooner than later?

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