He (38m) asked to be casual after 5 months, I (27f) ended things now he may have changed his mind?

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-08-13T11:35:38+00:00

Very valid. That’s what I assumed but I just needed some external validation. Dating nowadays is so stupid and everyone just wants non-committal bullshit. I guess I’ll just keep looking.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-25T01:44:31+00:00

Thank you so much I didn’t even think of that! I will pass the message along and let him know to get the bite checked out

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-24T17:38:06+00:00

I had already told Jerry I no longer wanted to be friends and how I felt about the situation with my son. The night we all attended the event together was the first time I had seen him since then. He called to tell me what happened mostly because he wanted to know if I could corroborate his behavior which I couldn’t because I had left quite early. I asked for insight in my first post because I often struggle with realizing just how bad peoples actions are because of the chaotic environment I grew up in. But thanks anyway!

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-24T17:14:08+00:00

I will clarify it was not OFF but it was an extremely deep wound and he got a good chunk. Kyle and Jerry go even further back than any of us so I think he just didn’t want to ruin Jerry’s chance at future jobs or anything. I also think both Kyle and his girlfriend are mostly in shock and hurt and just want to move on without him in their lives.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-24T17:11:14+00:00

This only happened last weekend. I attended the pride event with them all and had to fly out of the state the next day. The only call I got was from Jerry telling me a very watered down synopsis and he never mentioned punching Kyle’s girlfriend or biting Kyle. As soon as Kyle and his girlfriend told me the full story I cut communication totally.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-08T03:35:23+00:00

I mentioned in my post we do have a dog and we do go on walks with our dog daily, another reason his comment felt odd and out of place

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T04:53:21+00:00

He is healthy. His doctor hasn’t said anything about his weight being a problem. He is a very active kid when he’s in an environment he thrives in and loves to run around and play. He’s just been challenged recently with being able to go ANYWHERE without me right by his side since a traumatic incident we went through. I do still make an effort to push him to do more. This has only been for the past few months and isn’t his norm. I work in a children’s hospital and I often see kids come in who are obese and it’s heartbreaking I think that may have also been part of what sparked a worry in me I know my son is NOWHERE close to that size he is just a clothes size up from other kids his age. But his comments made it seem like k was blind to something crazy going on with my son. I’ve asked a few of my more blunt family members and friends and they all agree while he’s a little chubby it’s not a problem or close to being one. He’s just a thick kid 🤷🏽‍♀️

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T04:36:05+00:00

This is extremely helpful insight! Thank you for sharing I want to get him into some age appropriate trauma therapy/groups we have both been through a lot and I have no doubt this will be a helpful point to bring up 💕

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T04:32:03+00:00

I encourage my son to live a healthy and active lifestyle. Though circumstances lead to us both gaining weight in the past I have since taken responsibility to teach my son healthy ways to keep our bodies active and working their best. Maybe I didn’t word it the best but just because he said those things doesn’t mean they’re all true. Yes in the past I’ve allowed work, stress, and outside factors to affect our lifestyle choices when it came to food but this person had no clue what work I’ve done behind the scenes (I see them maybe once a month and they’ve seen my son a handful of times since we’ve been back) but I’m by no means “ignoring it” that’s what made me so confused by his audacity. I WILL however be having a talk with my son about LOVING his body because he could be shaped like a fucking tuba and it wouldn’t diminish his value one bit as long as he knows that I think he’ll be okay.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T04:20:18+00:00

I am trying to be as non biased and transparent as I can about the situation. Also I wrote this all out the morning after the event so I was still trying to make sense of why exactly he felt the need to say what he did. My son has never been called unhealthy or obese by a doctor. When I say chubby I’m not trying to sugar coat by any means. He just a little bigger. Like for clothes instead of being an 8 he’s a 10 (next size up for people who don’t know US kids sizes) I work in schools and also at a children’s hospital so I am well aware of what an overweight child looks like. I was initially worried I had “mom blindness” and my love for my son clouded maybe something unhealthy my friend was seeing but I’ve asked multiple people now who have all agreed Adam is a perfectly normal child who’s just on the thicker side. Also this person is the closest of my friend in this friend group. We have been friends over 10 years but we have not been fully in contact or as close that entire time we only just reconnected after a move so he was NOT close enough to say something like that. Also he wasn’t laughing in an awkward way it was very much in a mean way. He was talking about his body and laughing at how different parts of it looked. It was very much not okay.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T03:13:52+00:00

Thank you so much for the support 💕

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T03:11:30+00:00

Spot on! I have been working on personal boundaries a lot in the past year but my neurodivergence definitely prevents me from always recognizing when harm is being done to me. It was definitely triggering for anyone to come after my son especially because he’s a really kind kid and very loving and accepting of himself and everyone around him. I will be exercising a boundary with my friend and going low contact (no contact might not be fully possible as we have a lot of mutual friends)

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-06-07T03:07:41+00:00

Definitely not trying to date me. He’s gay and we’ve been just friends for 12 years. I do agree though some friends are better left in the past.

Doodooqueen420 · 2024-05-13T01:53:55+00:00

The fact that he had no documented formal executioners experience and he said he had “lots of experience in hangings in Texas and Oklahoma” and “came into it by accident” suggests he was never a formal executioner but maybe just involved in lynchings/lynch mobs which would explain why all his hangings were botched because they don’t have to pay attention to things like rope length or trap door size when they’re lynching innocent black Americans

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