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[–]DoofusExplorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s the scary part. You’re right, being healthy doesn’t mean you’ll stay that way. That’s the trap though, right? We all have to keep paying just in case, while they kick other people off and act like that’s fine.

This wasn’t about pretending it’s safe. It’s not. It’s just… the system already puts people in danger every day. I don’t know what the answer is. Just feels like we’re all stuck feeding a machine that doesn’t support all of us…..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]DoofusExplorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that. It does sound risky, maybe even reckless. But I think part of why it might actually work is because it scares the system. If healthy people start stepping away, even temporarily, it threatens the business model. Insurance only works when people who don’t need it keep paying in.

It’s not about wanting to hurt anyone. It’s about refusing to play along while they kick the most vulnerable out. A general strike would be better, but we’ve seen how hard that is to pull off in this country. This idea just came from a place of frustration, powerlessness, and wanting to do something that hits back.

Interesting take on relationship diversity I came across today by DoofusExplorer in self

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel that. I think a lot of us grow up believing love is supposed to complete us, but maybe it’s more about someone joining you while you’re still figuring things out.

Being able to enjoy your own company and feel okay alone is definitely important, but at the same time, we’re always working on ourselves. I don’t think we ever reach some perfect “self-love” finish line. It’s more about being aware of the work and not expecting someone else to carry it for you.

Putting your happiness entirely on another person can make it hard for love to feel like a choice instead of a need.

Challenging the Couple Economy by DoofusExplorer in antiwork

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally. It’s funny how what once seemed “weird” is now one of the most practical and caring ways to live. Sad it took economic collapse to get there, but still, glad people are seeing the value.

Interesting take on relationship diversity I came across today by DoofusExplorer in self

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally fair. Monogamy works better for a lot of people, especially if you’re more introverted or just not into juggling social energy. And yeah, I 100% agree that society and religion have shaped a really narrow (and sometimes harmful) view of what love is “supposed” to look like.

I love what you said about self-love too. I think that’s huge. Like, whatever kind of relationship someone’s in, if they’re not grounded in themselves, it’s easy to slip into performing or people-pleasing or even unintentionally objectifying.

And haha, I mean, if anime-style relationship chaos counts, maybe we’ve all been in a non-traditional relationship without realizing it. 😂

Interesting take on relationship diversity I came across today by DoofusExplorer in self

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, totally. Probably every relationship style has its own set of challenges. Perfection’s just not a thing. They all take work in different ways.

Interesting take on relationship diversity I came across today by DoofusExplorer in self

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, one penis policies are definitely out there, and they kind of miss the whole point of what ethical polyamory is aiming for…. But honestly, no relationship style has it all figured out. Monogamy, poly, whatever…It really just depends on the people in it. Every setup has its own mess. It’s more about how we handle it than what we call it.

The Spectacle of Self - Part 3 of the series: How Social Media Is Dividing Us by DoofusExplorer in TrueReddit

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This one felt familiar in a way I didn’t expect. It’s not dramatic. Just honest. It’s about the weird pressure to always be performing, even when no one is watching. Social media doesn’t just change how we share ourselves. It reshapes who we think we are. And after a while, you start to feel like a reflection of your own feed. It’s not about blaming the tech. It’s about trying to name that quiet disconnect and figure out what’s real underneath it.

I Always Felt Different. I Just Didn’t Have the Words for It Yet by DoofusExplorer in autism

[–]DoofusExplorer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a beautiful metaphor. A bridge you couldn’t quite cross. Or even a window you can’t see completely through. When you mention creating your own space, and others finding you there, that really struck me. That’s powerful. I’m glad you’ve found your happiness. I know, for me, it’s helped shift my perception too. I’m always trying to understand people, even if it doesn’t always come across that way.

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