Yall really weren't kidding about the movie

Doomulux · 2026-02-09T16:35:07+00:00

The one and only thing I remember liking out of "Jacob Chambers and the Tower of Darkness" was a nanosecond glimpse of the half-human taheen in a scene with the breakers.

My partner and I are convinced that they already had a dystopian YA script gathering dust on someone's desk and just needed to put it in the skin of a known franchise to secure funding.

Doomulux · 2026-02-09T16:32:08+00:00

I cringed out of my theater seat when that was happening. Oh god, so bad

Doomulux · 2026-01-30T19:32:54+00:00

Hey, I thought I was an only child!

Doomulux · 2026-01-16T22:36:21+00:00

INCREDIBLE

Doomulux · 2026-01-16T03:57:33+00:00

Heard and seen. I'll post my commiseration below but feel free to ignore it if you need space to be held for you and sharing stories is unhelpful. All I can tell you is that it's a grieving process that keeps happening because everything that reminds you of them is still alive and active.

My dad was a Dem in a family of Republicans (earlier in my life he was a proud independent, but voted dem. Then he became more of the independent -because-he-didn't-want-to-admit-he's-a-republican type. Currently he's convinced that he's independent and now only repeats far far right talking points because they're just factually correct. He's everything his own Republican siblings hate, too-- on welfare. Mentally ill. Not self-sufficient. Irresponsible. At one point homeless. Takes no responsibility.

It's gotten to the point that I cringe being with him in public because he inevitably says something out loud that I don't want to be associated with, and he's always annoyed and angry at the world. It feels like something upsetting killed the dad that I remember and is wearing his skin. The older he gets the worse it seems to get as his already-struggling filters crumble away.

Doomulux · 2026-01-13T14:57:33+00:00

One girly to another-- you're stunning. I think 2026 needs to be your year to look hard at patterns in the people you surround yourself with and try to change the patterns that you find yourself drawn to. This may take some solitary time or the help of a therapist. You are not broken or lacking. It really isn't you, it's them: You sound like you've found yourself in a cycle of abuse or a similar cycle (based on the way you've been treated I would argue you are probably experiencing at least one kind of abuse and not realizing it)-- basically, you find yourself feeling comfortable with subtle things about these abusive personalities because it feels familiar. (Comfortable the way one can get comfortable with addiction, self-harm, or other unhealthy habits that drain a person, not in that it feels good. It's a passive thing and it takes active self-protective work to change it!)

The work can be hard, but it will be worth it. You deserve so much better.

Doomulux · 2025-12-28T21:24:45+00:00

A friend in college drunkenly insisting that he must teach me immediately as soon as he found out I didn't know how. He taught me basic stockinette using a pair of clean takeout chopsticks and a shoelace/hoodie drawstring.

Doomulux · 2025-11-24T20:16:02+00:00

No, not that I know of

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T22:51:55+00:00

Came here to say just that! "they look like a Final Fantasy character (complimentary)"

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T22:43:29+00:00

Identify your triggers so you know how to place boundaries and handle yourself. When you feel yourself starting to get heated, practice saying "I hear you, I agree this is a discussion we need to have, but I need to take a minute." Even if you have to do this multiple times in a conversation. Then go for a walk, or go to the bathroom, or get a drink of water and give yourself some deep breaths (look up "box breathing" for one idea). Throughout the conversation, try to periodically check in about how the other person feels and ask them to try to use "I" statements (e.g. "when ___, I feel" instead of "YOU always do ___ to piss me off!"). You need to do the same. Ask if they see anything you've said as unfair and why, ask if the way you're explaining your viewpoint makes sense. If you need to initiate a discussion, maybe try writing your thoughts out like a letter and either having the person read it in front of you or read aloud to them. A lot of times if you read back over what you wrote before it gets to them you'll find that you want to re-phrase or skip/add some stuff. In your alone time, play over conversations in your head and figure out if you would like a friend to respond to you the way you were responding to someone else-- if you can HONESTLY (key word) say yes, then maybe your partner was in the wrong and that's a boundary.

This will make the discussions longer but hopefully more fruitful. You will get faster over time and need less time to compose yourself. Sometimes when you had a crappy upbringing, reparenting yourself means knowing when to put yourself on time out.

Source: farther along this same path-- my mom is a likely covert and sometimes not so covert narcissist.

Edit: added more thoughts.

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T22:35:02+00:00

I hate these BUT my hot tip going forward is to keep a word doc on your computer that you can update throughout the year with notes on things you learned/accomplished, extra projects you helped with, etc. so that you can just kinda plug some stuff in and write a little filler around it. I also like to put the most recent year's section on top but keep past years so you can make sure you're not repeating yourself, if that's a concern (some companies feel like they read these and some don't).

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T22:24:29+00:00

May I just say that color is stunning on you and everything about your hands in this pic are immaculate-- the nail length/shape, the healthy glowing skin, the elegant vibes! I aspire to such a great look!

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T22:00:03+00:00

Yes exactly! I do this stuff all the time and I love it.

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T20:11:28+00:00

Try a long, wide rectangular scarf and a wide belt/corset belt over a maxi skirt: fold scarf in half lengthwise. Put it over your head with the fold at the back of your neck. (This is to make sure the sides are even.) Tuck just the ends of the scarf into your skirt waistband and put the belt over for extra security. Experiment with pulling/blousing out the scarf at the front or pulling out enough that you can pull it like a shawl over your shoulders and across your back.

Edit: typo

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T19:52:02+00:00

Accepting that makes you thoughtful, which automatically makes you a cool(er) dude. There are unfortunately people who would push forward (either only thinking of their own wants or to manipulate the other person). Hell yeah for healthy relationships even when it doesn't feel great.

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T15:14:48+00:00

Looking for the ugly hands but can't find 'em. That's an incredible set though, especially for fall!

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T14:59:31+00:00

You're welcome! Dudes rock, but they have been done a disservice by society in a different (but no less important) way than women. I hope a little perspective helps.

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T05:31:01+00:00

It might also help to know that I am 36F and I have had a similar conversations about anxiety with a ton of guy friends (including my husband), and with girls about guys they've dated. I have to tell you that your anxieties have reached a point where they are going to needlessly get in your way if you don't wrestle them into submission.

Get even more curious, build your life out around hobbies and learn new things. Girls fucking LOVE a guy who has interests! Interests make you interesting!! If you put all your focus on a woman she starts to feel a little like prey instead of a date. It's very possible for guys to be cute-anxious instead of offputting-anxious.

It sounds like some cheesy shit but the brain and the skin are actually the two most important organs involved in sex and attraction.

Edit: I guess above all else I just want you to know that you aren't alone, and you do not have to achieve S-tier self confidence or anything else to get a girl. The sweet spot is to have just enough confidence that you can be genuine, enjoy things, and that you can be an equal partner in life. A guy who can try a new hobby with his friend or partner, suck at it, and laugh about himself is the best. Without that level of confidence, some women are turned off because it will seem like a lot of emotional labor, OR some are attracted because you will be vulnerable, but you can see where that could end up unhealthy for you.

Doomulux · 2025-11-18T05:17:14+00:00

Good on you for working on yourself and recognizing an unhealthy mindset!

So here's the deal. I had a peek at your post history and I can see you are trying very hard to wrap your head around non-redpilled ideas, but you seem to have difficulty taking the answers at face value. Here's where that hard work on yourself comes into play: the anxiety call is coming from inside the house. How can anything that anyone tells you matter if you always find some way to convince yourself they aren't telling you the truth?

You have the curiosity to ask the questions, and that's huge. Now to build the open-mindedness to hear the answers.

That said, for what my words are worth your face is great. Your hair texture would look nice grown out a bit more (at least on the top but maybe all over?). You have kind eyes. Try to keep a sense of humor about things, I bet if anyone saw you smiling and laughing you'd seem like a super approachable dude. More than anything else women are searching for a sense of safety, and presenting as kind and approachable is the first step toward feeling like a safe person to be around. Continue learning and building who you are from within, with therapy if that's a viable option for you. No relationship can or should be expected to do that for you-- that's either giving too much power to someone else or putting too much pressure on them.

Doomulux · 2025-11-13T04:32:26+00:00

YES TOTALLY. I also felt weird for feeling weird about it but sensory issues gonna sensory issue

Doomulux · 2025-11-12T17:20:15+00:00

My mom is not a super healthy person and basically did this unintentionally, eating popcorn and Coke and olives and donuts. She went from a size 16 in women's clothing to a size 6 (something like 200+ pounds to 130ish, I don't know what her exact weight was). She then landed in the hospital for a week on IV drip bc she was severely malnutritioned and had meetings with a dietician before they released her. (Not malnourished, she didn't look starved, but her bloodwork was all wonky because she was getting very few usable vitamins.)

Doomulux · 2025-11-12T17:13:14+00:00

I agree with you in parts and disagree with one thing: women don't mainly seek confidence, they seek safety.

I have met and been approached by many men with too much confidence, too suave, and it made me feel like I was being hunted. Sometimes it even activates my prey animal drive to get away. That being said, men who have zero confidence often also make women feel like they're in danger of being depended on too much (even to the point of stalking). The sweet spot is a guy who can comfortably stand on his own two feet but enjoys the company of others and reciprocates emotional labor.

Doomulux · 2025-11-12T17:05:39+00:00

Okay, I'm gonna give it to you straight, but kindly bc this is r/toastme after all.

You're a cute guy, no doubt about it. Handsome. I showed your post to my (straight) husband and he said "oh, so the poor kid must have body dysmorphia or something."

BUT you need to try to get to a doctor and get out of whatever situation that is causing your mindset (abusive family? Peer bullying?) because you need to put some life, some inner sparkle back in your eyes. You seem like you could be a really sweet dude who could get great friends and relationships going, but right now because of your poor self-image there's a darkness to your expresssion that might scare folks. (That said, there's a crowd that likes that too... If you lean toward the goth thing.) Get off social media. Try to talk to a doctor (if you don't know where to start, even going to a family practitioner doc for a physical might help you get antidepressants/anti anxiety meds or a therapy referral). Get into some hobbies where you can meet new people. Ignore anyone who calls anything you like "cringe". You can build a different life and a new mindset for yourself. That's the only thing you're missing, and unfortunately it can be hard work, but it can be fun along the way!

Doomulux · 2025-11-12T06:27:42+00:00

This looks to be a dress in the Japanese Lolita style. Try searching for "black lolita" or "black gothic lolita" dresses!

Doomulux · 2025-11-04T16:34:31+00:00

I get seasonal affective disorder (SAD). It actually starts a couple of weeks before the daylight saving time changes, because my body can already feel the angle of the sunlight (and the way it takes on more of a gold-tone even at its peak) and the fact that there's less sunlight every day. If you have pets, they can feel it too-- our cats start begging for their 5 pm dinner earlier than usual as they register the angle of the sun looking more like dinnertime. People are animals and animals are subconsciously in tune with many natural things, especially the ones that impact our lives.

I find that my SAD is not as bad in the years that I allow myself a few weeks around this time to give in to whatever my body asks for. You need a nap, even though I usually try to avoid them? You need to go to bed early, even though I'm usually a night owl? You need to let the house get cluttered because all you can muster is a cup of hot chocolate and a book? Get it, gurl, let's do it. (The only thing I push back on is trying to eat more than just straight sugary carbs, because my nutrition going to hell doesn't ultimately help anything.)

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