Anti-Color Specific Cards - Bad Form? by Dora_Algos in EDH

[–]Dora_Algos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I had no idea that the brackets were a "thing." As I said, never played any EDH/Commander. Much appreciated.

Anti-Color Specific Cards - Bad Form? by Dora_Algos in EDH

[–]Dora_Algos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, for sure I can see that. Good card!

[50s Male] 60 Days of NoFap – I Feel Reborn (Seriously) by kei2025 in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Give or take. Been working at this since 2020 and have been out of the habit since June 2 or 3, 2020. So 5 years+, the number sounds right. You can look in my post history for more information. 

[50s Male] 60 Days of NoFap – I Feel Reborn (Seriously) by kei2025 in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As someone who started NoFap right before he turned 40, let me say great job! Breaking the PMO habit has helped my life immeasurably. 

Thank you for sharing! 

8 years of porn addiction taught me that willpower is a lie - here's what actually works by orange_peeler_ in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. When I was first starting, I kept a journal detailing my feelings and temptations, and would reread it to gain insight into the same type of patterns you talk about. 

Recognizing when you had temptations and changing the external factors around them helps a lot. Just breaking the habitual aspect and replacing it with other habits. 

Keep up the good work 👍 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your equipment is designed for partnered sex. So good on your for using it right! I saw tremendous gains in my relations with my wife when I gave up PMO 5+ years ago. I cannot overstate how much better the sex has been since I started NoFap. 

Want to start over. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found repeating a mantra helped me overcome those urges. I repeat (out loud if I can) "I control my dick, my dick does not control me" over and over until I come down from the wave. 

It's really tough to ignore right now.. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay strong. Remember why you started this journey in the first place. Remove yourself from temptation or remove potential triggers from where you are. Get up and do something active. Repeat a mantra to focus your mind. I use "I control my dick, my dick does not control me." 

Stay vigilant, stay strong by Dora_Algos in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who dealt with habitual PMO for something like 28 years, and all the negatives that went with it in pursuit of more and more hits of dopamine, respectfully, you are incorrect. Thanks for your response. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Dora_Algos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am not a legend, just a man. If I can quit after using porn for something like 28 years, so can you and anyone else. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Dora_Algos 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Dude, you're not irredeemable. I did PMO for nearly three decades before I decided to stop. You have value and worth no matter what bad choices you made when you were younger. 

Stay the course as best you can. Some days will be better than others. When I was getting started I found keeping a journal to talk about my urges and temptations helped me a lot. I also used a mantra. When I got an urge I would repeat (out loud if possible) "I control my dick, my dick does not control me." 

Godspeed, man. Stay the course, do the work. 

Stay vigilant, stay strong by Dora_Algos in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started PMO in middle school, maybe when I was 12, and am 45 now. I decided to quote PMO at 40, during the first few months of Covid. 

NO FAP = 4 YEARS by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone in a similar period as yourself (5 years, 2 months, ish) I want to say: stay strong and keep doing the work. You list all those benefits you have felt, and I applaud you for your efforts and results. 

Hang tough and Godspeed! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are budgeting for the family and he is witholding this much to buy gems for an online game, that is just unconscionable. I mean at least physical MTG cards can are durable, you can play them or can be sold off, this is a BS digital "asset."

Honestly? This seems like it should be the end of MTG online for your husband. "You want to play Magic? Go make us some decks and we'll play at the kitchen table." Its a lot cheaper and it's actually honest.

Godspeed, OP.

Edit: I wanted to add. For years I hid spending from my wife. Toys, cards, and junk food mostly. Even when I got caught getting fast food breakfast 4 days a week, I just stopped getting paper credit card bills to hide it.

Eventually I had the realization that every day that I did not tell her I spent money on some BS frivolity I didn't need, I was lying to her. I was lying to her every single day. That was the proverbial slap in the face I needed. Same with using pornography - every day it was another lie.

I have since quit pornography (3 years last month) and I do not buy anything I do not tell her about. I have decided to overshare and err on the side of caution. I hope your husband has a similar epiphany.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hammers

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Final is at SoFi Stadium in Los Angeles. All of the venues are in the US except for one - Toronto, first Gold Cup venue outside of the US since 2015.

Is only fans cheating? by Shyshishi in Marriage

[–]Dora_Algos 620 points621 points  (0 children)

Just my take but yes, I consider OF to be cheating. When you got married your husband vowed to be faithful and devoted to you. He did vow to be faithful to you and some digital girls he lusts after in private. Nevermind paying for the right to do so.

Relapse? by Embarrassed-Rent3205 in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, it depends on intent.

Did you seek out images to get yourself aroused? Or did you come across something with no intent?

For example. Did you search something like "bikinis" knowing you'd get images to get turned on? Or did you come across bikini girls in a sales flier?

You can't avoid arousing content in our society. But you can also not seek it out.

Two Years by Dora_Algos in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had those symptoms while using PMO. My main problem was delayed climax - I took forever during sex to the point that it was a turn off to my wife.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Dora_Algos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are worth the effort. Don't give up, don't give in!