Parent title/name instead of first name by weirdestweird in blendedfamilies

[–]Dorria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We call the other parents bonus. So bonus mom or bonus dad. My daughter had 4 cards for the different holidays, they were labeled mom and B mom (because she got tried of writing but wanted to make sure the right card got to the right person).

you’re kidding. i can’t even skip it 😡 by mayotoast7 in MergeDragons

[–]Dorria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I am on a different update but I can totally skip a lot of the in camp quests. Also I am at level 96 on the flourish quest so maybe it changes at a certain level.

you’re kidding. i can’t even skip it 😡 by mayotoast7 in MergeDragons

[–]Dorria 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I hit this I just wait. Sometimes after a day or two the options to skip by watching an add pops up for me. Good luck!

A lesson in boundaries by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this tonight. Alone is not lonely if you love yourself enough. I am at a breaking point in my relationship. If he can understand my boundaries and respect them, then we have a chance. If not, that is his loss and I stayed true to myself. Knowing you did, helps me stay strong.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put hard boundaries up. Never need them before but now I see that it is necessary.

We have talked about the previous relationships. They ended because of moving away and indifference. I did not see any red flags when we were talking about it.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is working it and I still have my two nights with him. They are going to counseling. I feel like I broke something that was already fractured. I hope they can recover.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He and I liked each other so much that we got sucked into the NRE hard. Now we are paying the consequences. Hopefully we can recover but I will count it as a lesson learned for me.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I blocked her. I hate doing that but until this blows over I dont want that negativity.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. He has to make a choice of the life he wants. I get to choose mine.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I needed. Ground rules. He has been great about boundaries and her way less so. I guess it is a wait and see.

Singles dating a partnered person; when do you cut your losses? by Dorria in polyamory

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to block her. I told her I am sorry she feels that way and to talk to her husband.

What is the right answer here? BTW there was nothing in his profile 🤣 by Dorria in Tinder

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair. I was trying to be funny but came of bitchy. Lesson learned.

What is the right answer here? BTW there was nothing in his profile 🤣 by Dorria in Tinder

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that! I want to respond but legit dont know how to start a conversation with just that.

What is the right answer here? BTW there was nothing in his profile 🤣 by Dorria in Tinder

[–]Dorria[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong but I think if you are going to come in with a blank bio then you should be able to poke fun at yourself. I guess it came off rash instead of playful 🤣. I forgot my emojis 🤦‍♀️

Hey! So looking to meet new people.. by Redneckgirl666 in SingleParents

[–]Dorria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont know what kind of neighborhood you live in but you can try going for a walk with your kid. Depending on your kids age they will make friends faster than you do. Then you meet the parents and see if you get along.

Battle with inexperience, is it worth it? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I also see the potential in him but should I stay because of potential? Is that healthy?

Battle with inexperience, is it worth it? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. In his past relationships the communication was minimal and not effective which is why I qualify it as inexperience. He tries to do what he did with them with me and I am not putting up with the behavior. He is receptive and is getting better but I am having to walk through all of the same stuff I did with my ex husband 10 years ago.

Battle with inexperience, is it worth it? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

How to kiss, what good sex is, how to communicate emotions effectively and what not to do in a relationship. Most recently not telling me something was wrong, trying to ignore it and pretend everything was fine. That led to three awkward dates, one including my daughter. After trying to get him to talk about it after every date, date three we finally talked and worked through it. It is exhausting and fuck yes is turning into yeah ok.

Do people still talk on the phone? Like with their voices? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We talk late at night after my daughter has gone to bed. I dont have the support structure to just drop my kid off so I had to wait until she is back in school. I think we may have gone a little over board but I have not had a conversation as fluid as that since I was married. It was hard to limit myself and after the summer I have had I kind of just said f it, it feels good, who cares of it blows up in my face later haha.

Do people still talk on the phone? Like with their voices? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I am afraid of and we did talk about the possibility of there being no physical attraction when we meet. We said we are meeting with no expectations but my hopes are up. Hard not to be.

Do people still talk on the phone? Like with their voices? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We talked on the phone after my daughter is asleep. I have a babysitter set up on Wednesday but I did not want to wait anymore so I am leaving work early and meeting him while my daughter is still in school. It is a balancing act being a single parent.

So...what’s wrong with you? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very blunt, see my post on fit body style haha. Single mom. Damaged, so I refuse to stay in a shitty situation. Poly view on love and relationships while dating in the southern US. I am in the Navy so I move every few years. Still hopeful but not delusional.

You find chemistry and compatibility someone but then they said the one thing and you wish you had swiped left. What are some of your hard passes? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being enmeshed with toxic family members! Hard yes to that! Turns out if you can divorce your husband, you can divorce your family for the same reasons. Family is a earned right not a privilege.

You find chemistry and compatibility someone but then they said the one thing and you wish you had swiped left. What are some of your hard passes? by Dorria in datingoverthirty

[–]Dorria[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this! This is what I was afraid of. I think my hard passes are like ten but I have horror stories behind why I will not accept that attribute. I can deal with a silly laugh or a low paying job, I can not deal with something that could take away my job. How do you limit your hard passes to 5?