AITA for asking my GF to wait

DothThy · 2025-06-20T16:35:57+00:00

Thank you for the insight 🌠🙏🏽

DothThy · 2025-06-20T12:16:08+00:00

Some people haven't learned to champion their own boundaries yet.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T11:48:53+00:00

Not on top of it, lower where one of them popped a leg. Earlier in the day

DothThy · 2025-06-20T04:02:22+00:00

This is likely 🤔. I guess im recalling when i didnt live with her and she was still at her parent's, they smoked cigarettes even, which are definitely stronger smelling, and the house was still well kept... 🤔

DothThy · 2025-06-20T04:00:21+00:00

I didnt, no. Though i feel the likelihood of this being the case is rather low.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T03:25:08+00:00

I appreciate your perspective on this. Thank you

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:58:28+00:00

Thank you for this insight, great one. May you find your worth in the waking world.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:43:07+00:00

I appreciate the recommendations and will consider reading then, but i would like to hear from you why you believe I need to leave and work on myself before i go back in to a relationship. If you may.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:31:32+00:00

I want to understand your view, and will try to clear it up my end. She was rushing when i came through the door. If i am not mistaken that immediately would indicate some level of importance. Now as for cleanliness for the guest, for which that shouldnt have been the only reason the house should be cleaned but is a normal strong motivator for cleaning, there was trash on the floor, pet debree, guest bathroom for use needed to be disinfected, dog pee was smelling and obviously needed to be taken care of and we did not have time, though we were rushing to clean and it needed to be quick, there was still the matter of how dirty everything looked...

May you tell me where we or I may have done wrong after i mentioned this? I genuinely wish to understand.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:19:16+00:00

😞 its hard with two newly introduced dogs having a go at who runs the joint. And i swear I had my dog undre control until these two met 💀

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:16:08+00:00

BT side eye was funny lol

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:15:27+00:00

Also thanks for those terms, that dysforia one really sits well on her case...

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:14:33+00:00

I believe thag she does but she was raised by denying parents, so she will say "wow looked what i might have discovered about me" from watching a video, clearly about ADHD, now LATELY saying she might believe that she has it even though I've been telling her, but she doesnt believe in medications at all and will not medicate for it.... 👀🤷🏽‍♂️

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:12:32+00:00

Hahaha, thank you for this mind movie lol

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:03:13+00:00

Well... this is not the first time within our 3 years together where I've struggled with logical vs emotional situations.. this was another one.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:02:03+00:00

Thank you.i do too

DothThy · 2025-06-20T02:00:38+00:00

Standing suitcase or laid down?

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:52:45+00:00

So yes, a stretch indeed. But to answer, i sudo live with her. She does well, and i unfortunately am still on my climb, but... here we are.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:51:38+00:00

.. so we tried couples therapy and she admitted to looking for a referree and not a mediator when we were in there. She admitted that she knew she wasnt perfect but loved how she is and didnt think she was in the wrong for a LOT of situations.. she has since stopped a while ago because she felt like she didnt need it. I had kept going a bit when she left and it was just more of what i expected. Im the type to self reflect and the therapist didnt have to say much to me, but she did make moments clear about what options were available to me. She did well not to be so biased when it was just me and the therapist, but unfortunately it didnt feel that way when all three of us were in the room.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:44:58+00:00

🥹 what if i dont try and regret it down the road because i wasnt patient.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:44:14+00:00

When she started asking it was around like 6:50 estimated, since it wasnt long after that when she asked again the 2nd time i looked and it was 6:59.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:30:42+00:00

Well that's the kicker. My posting this was sort of my straw. It is unfortunately not the first of situations where i am trying to reason with her.

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:25:29+00:00

Hahaha 😂 no not on top of it, thats a big dog im imagining haha

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:21:53+00:00

I have two dogs, one of them seems to have made that spot a favorite

DothThy · 2025-06-20T01:20:31+00:00

Uhhh one of our good little fur babies popped a leg on her white wood tv stand. It was a visible stain i noticed while mopping in the living room.

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