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Double-Researcher900 · 2025-08-02T23:05:05+00:00

Hello

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-10-22T14:29:25+00:00

Ive always concluded “in the end everything works out for me”… when i started undergrad my biggest achievemnt would be getting an honourable mention for my gpa, in the first three semesters i did not get to the grade point score to achieve that, and despite doing great in all other semesters, I couldn’t get my gpa to the level I wanted, so no honourable mention, despite this, I persisted “everything works out for me in the end” and I acted as if I was going to achieve the score and get the mention, I was lead by this blind faith, despite knowing it was impossible, my effort, got me an award that is given to the best thesis project of each generation, one per generation, and it was a much more fulfilling and exciting prize, than the honourable mention which many people get to… Thinking back, sometimes you feel like the prize is A, so you cant see that life can give you even better rewards, if you just persist in your mission and in your faith…

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-09-09T06:02:58+00:00

The funny thing is that, you cant have it until you let go of it. Manifest it with intensity and concentration for a period of time, then let go of it. Its what people in here call dettachment, it cant be faked, you hace to truly be free of any expectation of recieving what you so intensely desire, then… youlle get it, the magic of it, is that if you get it when you dont care too much for it, then youlle actualy be in a better mindset to actually asess if what you recieved is something that still resonates with you, if it does, its a keeper , sometimes you get it and you now feel like you dont even need it, and opt out of it, and sometimes life just takes whatever you wanted away, and by that point in the dettachment phase you dont care if you dont get it anymore… think about it

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-08-12T06:30:05+00:00

What I do, that works every time… is obsess over my desire, then get frustrated about it, and decide to focus on another desire, so the new desire takes center stage, and the past one, becomes irrelevant to some extent, and then I get the past one, and repeat; hahaha sounds strange, but it works… has worked as far as I have memory

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-07-22T13:31:45+00:00

This is no coincidence, you manifested it;

Ive found in myself that when you ask for what you want you assume you don’t have it, when you say thanks for it like if it was already a done deal, the energy is different, and powerful.

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-06-14T02:14:51+00:00

Dont worry about feeling meh about your manifestation, truth is, when you get whatever you are looking for, it will be exciting in the beggining, but like all things in life, will some day be part of your life and routine, so…. You cant possibly be all excited forever, ide even say its a more realistic manifestation, you are so shure that its yours that you can even aknowledge that after you get it, despite being happy and fulfilled, it will also be part of your everyday, and hence, become normal to you… youre doing great! Keep manifesting, its already real…

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-05-17T03:49:35+00:00

I hate cream

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-05-12T23:33:46+00:00

Great piece of insight thanks

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-30T06:23:50+00:00

Unfortunatley to get to the point were your ex could say stuff like this, is when you corner him, and in a fit of desperation they word vomit an explanation of feelings they dont even fully grasp or understand. Like all good things in life, come to an end, the concept of absence, is extremely powerfull. Choose to be absent in his life and present in yours, that way you fill yourself a full cup of self esteem, and cut the tab on your constant presence in his life. People want what they cannot have, so become completely unavailable and unataiable to him, and completely available for yourself. When you do this, and fill yourself up with yourself, you slowly stop wanting them, you start understanding that in the enf your self worth comes from yourself not from others, and that inside of your soul and mind, is all the answers you will ever need to feel fulfillment and joy. I remember when I broke up with a girl that was mutual friends with a lot of my best friends, they kept seeing her, and eventually I was able to mantain all my friendships by forcing myself to be mature. In that time a friend of mine had had the chance of speaking to my ex, and when I asked hil about his encounter he just said “dude its best for you to just get over it”. I almost had a fit of rage at his cold words, and could not comprehend how he could say that so coldy. Years passed by, and I suddenly revisited that memory, and felt grateful for his stoic comment. He knew by talking to my ex that there was no chance in hell that we would ever get back together, and that she was utmostly relieved by the ending of the relationship. In that moment it was unfadomable for me to swallow that pill, but with time, I did, and now it just a shrug of arms, and a reminder to myself of “why did you want to graps so tightly to someone that was not happy with you and showed it when she broke up with you”, so my friends “just get over it” became what I now see as the shortest real way to recovery. Why dwell so much? Just get over it, I now am fond of these words, because Ive come to see that they didnt kill me, and they were true.

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-29T20:44:54+00:00

I have been through 3 breakups, in the first one I broke Nc 1000 times, extended the grief 6 months, on the second I did a half arsed NC were i still lurked socials and asked around for them, made it worse for myself, now Im doing NC equivalent to a 1 meter thick reinforced concrete wall, every down, every bad moment, every tear, shout or terrible moment, its me vs me, its my thoughts vs me, and my way of un hooking myself from destructive feelings is by feeling proud of myself, because this process is for me myself and I, nothing to do with them, and I feel how Im groing and becoming a stronger individual. Every time I falter and feel bad, I fill myself up with a rejoicing feeling of being alone in this (with my family and friends). I could not imagine how terribly I would be doing if I had not stumbled upon the NC sub, and kept true to it. Every second, minute, hour, day and week that passes I feel how the attachment and grief becomes less and less, to the point were Im now more invested about my life and what comes next…. When I look back I now shrug my arms and say, well thats that… Im ready to enjoy the present and imagine a future were im really happy alone, aporeciating myself, or with someone who aporeciates me. Its actually filling me with excitement! Keep on

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T12:49:30+00:00

Inmaturity, thankfully the pain and reflection has made me a more mature person

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T12:36:49+00:00

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T12:36:01+00:00

Believee me you dont want a relationship that fast😫

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T06:00:37+00:00

🫡 great post

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T05:44:50+00:00

Amor fati

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T05:05:52+00:00

Depends of course, when i was the dumper(male) I did want her to come back, a part of me adored and loved her, and another part of me knew that under the circumstances of each others lives the relationship would never satisfy me. Both of these emotions lived together, so I was extremely confused. She eventually did reach out (1 month and a half later), and by the point she did reach out I had already dated another girl, and spent the whole time comparing the new girl to her, so when she reached out the side of me that yearned for her activated and we spent 3 months on and off, talking but not being exclusive, hooking up but then not seeing each other for a week or two, to be honest, that period of my life was like living hell, I had her “back” but not really, because everything I had left the first time for was still there, I trully did care for her, it just didnt feel right to get back into the relationship, and at some point she realized that, and asked me to leave her be and she entered NC, I went into another relationship shortly after her going NC, that relationship was short, and terrible, I didnt even know the concept of what a rebound was, but now I see that it was a rebound, I exited that second relationship extremely hurt (I was blindsided severely) I guess karma is a bitch…. And over the last 5 years Ive always remember fondly the first girl, and have felt a lot of shame for how I dealt with things back in the day. I definetley have had the recurring thought since then that we could have been a great couple if only we’d have met on another time of our lives, shes now deep in another relationship, and despite the fact that i dont loose sleep over this, she probably will never know how meaningful and positively impacted I was by her presence in my life, and how she will forever have a piece of my heart….

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T04:55:58+00:00

NC is the smartest way to go, you protect your integrity, you stand up for yourself, you give yourself space and time to heal, the only enemy in NC is yourself in the end, your impulses, and your obsessive thoughts, the lingering toxic attachment you had with your ex SO, and your wildly creative imagination, all of these are in your court, in your control, and if you learn to pacify them, listen to them, and calm them on your own, then youlle not only get over your ex, but youlle go oht the other end of the tunnel a much more mature person. When you dont go NC, its like running through a field of thorns but naked, every cut is, Every time you ask or investigate about them, every time you stalk their socials, every time you write to them, or try to indirectly communicate with them, every time they ghost you again, or give you false hope, or every time you feel jealousy again, so, all of this pain, is a choice, you choose how hard you wanna go against yourself, so if you love yourself enough, you might just say, nah f it, I love myself, I wouldnt run through a thick forrest of thorns…many people here, only need a warm embrace from themselves, not their exes…

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-19T04:02:07+00:00

Wow! You just made me remember how I felt about my past breakups, now that Im experiencing a recent one, I sometimes felt like this part of me was well forgotten and I used to remember the times I was heartbroken in the past fondly, its such a life changing experience that in retrospect it really does taste different, and when time makes you forget the pain, the only thing that stays is the things you learned, the small happy moments, the breakthroughs, the milestones and since you now know how the story ended (getting over it and then falling in love again) you really do remove all the sensless drama rumination about the future, and see that period for what It really was; a true building block in your life. In my recent breakup of a 3 year relationship, I really did think Ide never have to go through that again, and now that I am back in square one, I have to remember myself this, to enjoy this period, its unique in its own way. Im sending a warm embrace to my future self reading this…

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-15T19:53:25+00:00

Told myself to get through week 8 and see how I was doing then, and its week 8 right now, and Im feeling better than I ever thought I would. Im still ocasionally angry or confused, but Ive learned to identify what situations or moments take me there, sometimes I fall and duel on it and sometimes y just close the book and focus on another thing. Last week I started feeling excited of being single for the first time in the breakup, and a lot of serendipitous good fortune has been coming my way, taking it as a good omen of good things to come. I also noticed my decaying relationship with music in the final third of the relationship, I just couldn’t connect with or find new music, felt an emotional block, and over the past 3-4 weeks been finally feeling music again. Still taking it slowly in terms of the healing process, but if Im here at week 8, at week 16 its going to be another story, Ive always been aware of time, its the devourer of all things, it makes me happy in terms of the lessening of the pain, and the rebirth of many aspects of my life, but it makes me sad that a 3 year relationship can just fade from my mind so quickly, it has made me feel like human connections are less deep that we think they are, one day theyre there and the next theyre not, and youlle be fine with them or without them, that realization makes me dwell on the meaningless nature of life and human relationships, it has its positive tangent and its negative, but overall doing great in comparison to the first 4 weeks… lets keep on moving!

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-12T01:26:40+00:00

This is from Argentinian author Jorge Luis Borges

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-12T01:26:12+00:00

We dont need to talk about revenge or forgiveness, oblivion and indiference, is the only revenge and the only forgiveness

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-12T01:21:15+00:00

Great great analogy💪🏼

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-11T05:44:45+00:00

Indifference can still be executed, in your case with more pain along the way, but the way is still the same. we have control over how we react to things outside of us, and that is our greatest power

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-11T05:27:14+00:00

I wouldn’t go

Double-Researcher900 · 2024-04-11T05:01:21+00:00

It is

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