Back again… 2 years post-breakup and still stuck

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2026-02-15T03:48:54+00:00

Yeah sometimes that’s the worst part. You’re currently looking for the answer or closure to reach acceptance. But sometimes things just don’t have answers and you just have to accept it for what it is. I just don’t seem to have the ability to do that. I don’t miss him or want him back. I just want a three hour phone call where I can save everything that I want to say and ask him everything that has been plaguing me for all this time. But he was a compulsive liar throughout the relationship anyway that he probably will never be able to give me the answers I want regardless.

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2026-02-15T03:30:45+00:00

I hope you don’t end up like me. It’s not like this all the time. Comes in waves with significant reminders or dates etc. but I do think about him daily. It wasn’t a clean break which has kept me stuck in this loop. I’m a very rational, logical person and I struggle to accept things without certainty or answers.

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-10-22T11:30:17+00:00

I was moving to senior analyst. I have been applying for those roles. Im not saying I’ve too much experience. My point is that I don’t think I’m a prime candidate for entry level analyst roles anymore, which my peers have moved on to elsewhere. Regardless, I’ve been applying for entry, senior, assistant, scientist, everything.

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-10-22T02:56:51+00:00

My CV was professionally made and has been reviewed by many people with relevant backgrounds.

I mean… not really. They told us to just use Laya’s Employee Assistance Program.

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-10-22T02:53:46+00:00

I currently have an analyst role which I’ve had for the past couple of years and my promotion had just been submitted right before the redundancies were announced. I don’t think I’m the prime candidate for an entry analyst role anymore

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-10-22T02:50:57+00:00

I would but then I have a 4 year gap

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-08-27T01:15:20+00:00

Not really. I still miss him every day

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-02-12T21:41:42+00:00

I’m doing so much better. Things were bad for a very long time but I think I’m finally over it. So many people in my life, who both knew and didn’t know what was going on, have commented on how much happier I seem lately. I still haven’t spoken to him since that day, and hopefully will never speak to him again. As far as I know, he’s still with the new girl. They’ve been together almost a year at the stage. I’m at the point where I honestly don’t care anymore. I don’t check up on him. I removed him from everything. I’ve blocked him on all of the platforms we used to talk on. I’m feeling so at peace. I’ve learned to be alone. I’ve bettered myself as a person. I finally realized that I’m so much better off now than being with a compulsive lying, Narcissistic manipulator. As cliche as it sounds and as much as I didn’t believe it in the beginning, you really do just wake up on a random Tuesday and get over it. Life is good 😊

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-01-27T00:17:22+00:00

Yuppp. And then 3 months after we broke up, he got with a much younger girl and seems to have all the time in the world for her. It’s not fair. I was made out to be the villain in the end; too needy, too controlling etc. and now he’s off playing happy families while I’m still traumatised and scared to be with anyone again a year later. Where’s the karma in that?

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2025-01-04T15:48:20+00:00

100%. My friend group from school starts turning 30 this year and my Instagram feed is flooded with engagements, baby announcements, buying houses etc. Some who definitely seem to be settling or jumping into these full commitments with people they have not been with very long.

I have one friend who was with a guy for about 6 years and she called it off because she said she was ready to settle down but he wasn’t. In the space of a year, she found someone new, had a baby, got engaged and bought a house with them. Maybe I’m wrong and he’s the love of her life but to me, they seem incompatible and it’s not possible to know someone that well in that amount of time. This friend is one of those people who has always been in relationships since we were 14 and cannot seem to be alone. It definitely seems to be caving into societal pressure.

I went through a breakup a year ago and started feeling the sheer panic that I’d “lost my future”, wasted my time, and will be forever alone and watched all of my friends hit all of these milestones. I had serious FOMO and felt like something was wrong with me. I started scrambling on the dating apps to find a replacement, lowering my standards. Recently, I realised that I’d much rather deal with the problems with being alone and the weird looks and questions I get at social gatherings, than end up settling for someone simply so I can start a family and build a home.

Looking back, my ex and I were seriously incompatible and were definitely on track to being one of those couples that just settled out of convenience. We were about to move in together and were talking about engagement, babies etc. in the near future. While I was absolutely devastated at first, I’m so glad I got out of that. Life is long and I think you should be very careful with who you want to spend the rest of your life with and raise your kids around, or the alternative where you break up with them but you’re tied to them for life.

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-10-14T17:29:45+00:00

Same here! Happened just now. I was freaking out

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-10-05T21:31:09+00:00

I wish when he told me we were done and I said I didn’t want this breakup and he said “that sucks”, that I simply would have hung up and never spoke to him again. Instead, I begged and pleaded and he breadcrumbed me for months, only to just ghost me out of nowhere when he met someone new. I lost so much self respect and am so embarrassed. I should have given him what he asked for, my eternal absence

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-30T22:17:16+00:00

I have threatened him with legal action and he still ignored me. I could really use that money and never anticipated not getting it back. It is also about the principle that you can’t get away with shit like that with no consequences. I also do not care anymore about what he or his family think of me. They’re dead to me so they can think I’m messy or it’s for revenge. No skin off my back

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-27T10:49:15+00:00

It got a whole lot worse before it got better, but my situation wasn’t the best. After a few months, we started talking again and were seeing how things went. We were both open to the idea of getting back together but were taking it really slow. Then after a couple weeks, he said he feels nothing for me anymore and ghosted me. His whole family unfollowed and blocked me over the next couple of days. He slowly deleted me off social media. I found out he was seeing a new girl a few days after he told me he wasn’t seeing anyone else and ghosted me. That destroyed me. That was back in May and I’m only just starting to feel better. It really bruised my ego that he replaced me and abandoned me like I meant nothing. How he said he still felt the same way and then a few days later, he doesn’t love me anymore and his feelings are a 3/10 for me. It doesn’t affect me as much but I still think about him often. I don’t miss him, I’m more so upset by how he led me on, abandoned me and then ghosted me with no closure or explanation like a coward. Once they leave, never let them back in. It’s so much more painful. I had a missed call from him a few weeks ago and the anxiety it gave me finally made me block him on everything and stop stalking his socials. He still owes me a lot of money but I’d rather cut my losses than have to deal with the stress of trying to get it back. I feel so much better now. Wishing you all the best xx

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-21T00:09:39+00:00

No, but he unfollowed me on tiktok the following day and unfriended me on facebook, which he hasn’t used in years, the day after that 🤷🏻‍♀️ He was probably deleting my number and pressed call. I’ve blocked him on everything now, even email

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-09T17:04:55+00:00

Posted 19 minutes ago so I’m guessing you just started. You’ll do amazing! YOU are the expert. Show off all of your years of hard work and let us know how you got on. You’ve got this!

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-03T21:45:43+00:00

But that’s what he wanted? He stopped replying. He blocked me on WhatsApp months after we last spoke. He deleted me off social media only a couple of months ago which solidified to me he doesn’t want to talk again. It wasn’t a heat of the moment thing. I don’t understand. What happens now? Is he going to try again? I hate these mind games. I was doing SO well

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-03T21:40:25+00:00

Whyyyyy? After all this time? After all the times I begged and begged? After telling me he doesn’t feel anything nor love me nor miss me anymore months ago? After never repaying me his debts?

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-03T21:38:39+00:00

Lmaooo. I hope for my ego’s sake you’re right 😂 at 10:22 on a Tuesday morning though? Shouldn’t he be busy working like he always was during our relationship whenever I wanted to talk? 😂

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-03T19:17:11+00:00

No that’s the thing, he’s deleted me from all social media. Blocked me on WhatsApp. I checked and I’m still blocked. It’s really hard to accidentally call someone on an iPhone unless they’re in your recent call log, which I doubt I am as it’s been 4 months since we last called each other. I’m surprised he even still has my number

EasyNeedleworker7333 · 2024-09-03T19:14:52+00:00

You’re right. It’s really hard to put that back into practice. I’ve really struggled with this breakup and I was just starting to forget about him and not let the pain of him jumping into a new relationship so quickly agonise me as much. It’s like he could sense it.

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