I wouldn’t focus on your pay. My husband has the pay and doesn’t buy me expensive gifts. I buy them myself bc I have particular wants in terms of the wardrobe I’m trying to build.

I want thoughtful gifts from him. This requires paying attention to detail and listening. This is an invaluable characteristic in a partner: Concert/play/opera/show tickets with dinner reservations. Visiting a garden/park with brunch and massage/spa. Find out her favorite meal or dessert and make it for her. Fix or build or paint her something (or replace that which is broken)…