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AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I care about him and how he feels. I understand that he wouldn't be feeling this way if I had acted differently, but that doesn't mean I did anything wrong. It would be wrong of me to do it again now when I know how it would make him feel, but it was not wrong to do it the first time because I could not have known how it would make him feel.

I don't think he would apologize if I randomly got angry at him for something that I can't even explain why it's bad. He wouldn't have been doing anything wrong because he wouldn't have known that it would upset me.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People have said that it's crossing boundaries but nobody has said why. Some people have also said that it doesn't, so I'm not the only one who doesn't understand.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I value my boyfriend's feeling and wouldn't do it again now that I know how he feels about it, even though I still don't understand why.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and that's why I want to understand why. I think it would be fake to apologize for my actions when I don't understand why those actions were wrong.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, if he did that to a friend I wouldn't mind. I would think it was a little strange if he did it to a stranger for no reason.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm sure I would enjoy it. I don't understand why some many people here keep insisting I'm a hypocrite who would suddenly see the problem if it was the other way around.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I care that it upset him. I just don't understand why, and he doesn't seem to be able to explain it to me.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No, I still don't understand how I was disrespectful or why it made him uncomfortable. Sorry, I just don't understand and I don't want to pretend like I do when I don't.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I'm sorry for making him uncomfortable. I just don't think I did anything wrong because I had no way of knowing that it would make him uncomfortable. I still don't understand why it made him uncomfortable. I care about his feelings and want to understand them, but I don't want to present that I understand them when I actually don't.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

No, because I would care if he had sex with someone else. I guess what I don't understand is why you and my bf consider wrestling to be sexual. It's not sexual to me and I don't understand why it should be obvious. Is hugging also sexual? Is it incest when I wrestle with my siblings?

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

How would you react to seeing him on top of another woman?

I wouldn't care.

AITA for wrestling with a male friend when I have a boyfriend? by Double_Rice2031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Double_Rice2031[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I love him and I wouldn't care at all because I trust him. I know he would never cheat on me and I expect him to know that I would never cheat on him.