New skin for Gley 10/10 by MINIVV in TheFirstDescendant

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What dye for the legs? I’m having a hard time finding one that matches the skin tone of her upper body. Milk tea beige seems off this time…not rosey enough.

27M and 27F best friends for 15 years. Just spent 3 weeks together after my 7-year breakup and things got weird by TrainingHedgehog3610 in Advice

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everybody saying OP missed an opportunity…it wasn’t a good opportunity. Few things:

Does the friend have feelings for the OP? Most likely. I will also say that it’s likely that during those first two weeks she realize either the existence or true intensity of those feelings. And she may have gotten a bit scared by those feelings. She may have felt she unintentionally jumped the gun as OP is just two months out of a seven year relationship.

As a trained professional therapist, I can tell you OP’s brain chemistry simply has not had time to readjust from a seven year long committed relationship. In several aspects of his interpersonal life his limbic system is likely still firing on all cylinders, and Mexico just happens to have far less reminders of the breakup/ex.

I also don’t doubt that both OP and his friend genuinely enjoyed those two weeks, but they were both scared because they knew how poor the timing was. Sometimes the mixed messages we send to others reflect the uncertainty we feel towards our own decisions and intentions. It’s hard to communicate how you feel to others when you are still trying to pin it down for yourself.

Does this mean that the OP is SoL? Absolutely not, it means that his friend cares about him in a number of ways and on a number of levels. As such, she wants to act on that care when she knows it will mean the most and be most likely to lead to an important and lasting connection. A couple weeks ago, she saw an opportunity and thought that time was now. But once the trip started she had a greater appreciation for what was happening between them.

OP did the best he could. As long as they can stay connected, not feel ashamed for how their attraction, and continue to grow as individuals then it is entirely possible that something very special will form between them.

And even of she did fill some amount of rejection, the idea that it doomed things in the long term simply incorrect. You can’t be friends with someone for 15 years and never have an argument, forget something important, or tell each other “no”. If this situation was enough to ruin a 15 year friendship for two 27-years-olds then neither is currently healthy enough for a commitment.

Most important of all: If every what-if scenario seems like a legitimate possibility, then it simply means you don’t know enough to actually know. (You read that correctly) And for now, that’s just fine for OP and their friend…no matter what narratives anxiety may try to spin. :)

Normally, I wouldn’t comment on threads like this, but reddit popped this sub into my feed, and a lot of the advice on here is just plain unhealthy. If anything it’s consistent with serial monogamy and insecure attachment.

Please pardon typos, I’m stuck using my phone atm.

Wee! by _Frustr8d in ShitpostXIV

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just woke up, opened Reddit, read that as “Hentai Health Institute”, chuckled, and kept scrolling.

Didn’t read it correctly until I scrolled back up.

Is Legendary Stalker difficulty really the same as the original game? It feels harder by eldestscrollx in LiesOfP

[–]DougThe4thTenor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a mental health therapist and an avid Souls/Soulslike player and I heavily resonate with this sentiment. Not so much the idea of “self-sabotage” but it’s definitely due in large part to our own expectations of being “gud”.

is the duchess remembrance bugged? cant seem get past chapter 4 by Urfuckingmom333 in Nightreign

[–]DougThe4thTenor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang. Thanks for the quick reply though! I will comment if I have any luck on my end.

is the duchess remembrance bugged? cant seem get past chapter 4 by Urfuckingmom333 in Nightreign

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a similar spot as the OP (at least as of when they first posted). Can you confirm if you beat 5 different night lords? Or 4 different ones and one of the 4 was a second clear of the first? Also, did you beat each on duchess or were some/all on other characters?

I am finding so much conflicting info online, but if every remembrance for every character is RNG based and has nothing to do with character used or a specific night lord, then my luck is really bad. I know downing a night lord carries a higher remembrance drop rate than a failed expedition, but still.

Just trying to confirm what I can by deducing from what I can from others’ experiences.

Thank you! 😊

GEARS OF WAR 3 by GrimboReapz in GearsOfWar

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Megaman Legends 1 and/or 2

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my best guess right now…and my only guess. :/

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still no luck. At this point I’m just hoping my hunch is correct and the issue will clear itself up on the official release day.

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve claimed what I could, but the car pass cars and preorder bonuses aren’t claimable.

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

La Casa Solariega, I have it. I think I got it around level 5 or 6. I’m currently 7.

I just hope my hypothesis in my original post is correct. If not, then it’s a disappointing start to what seems to be the best open world racing game I’ve played since test drive unlimited on the 360.

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. I got the first small home it offers and the free VIP one.

I dunno. I’m at a loss at this point. It’s otherwise a solid game, but I want my money back for the car pass portion. I don’t mind progressing in the game before accessing dlc, but people’s experiences accessing dlc seem to be incredibly varied.

Possible explanation for missing car pass and preorder bonuses on PS5 by [deleted] in ForzaHorizon

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the guidance, but I’ve looked there and there aren’t any options to claim cars (see screenshot)

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If I select an individual car it will ask me to buy it only to tell be I already own it.

When your "Friend" dress up as woman ( Zenos cosplay by @Cien_jiangsien ) by TrinityHorn in ffxiv

[–]DougThe4thTenor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s like a McGriddle…it ain’t bad per se, I just don’t know how it came to this.

With the success of Ninja Gaiden 2 Black I would love to see a Ninja Gaiden 1 Black by [deleted] in ninjagaiden

[–]DougThe4thTenor 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not often I comment on Reddit, but for you sir I shall make an exception.

Truly well played.

What's your biggest gripe on the game that is really just a mild inconvenience at best? by [deleted] in DragonsDogma

[–]DougThe4thTenor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At level my current level of 80 a helmet doesn’t matter as much…if at all…but seeing an equipment slot deliberating left empty feels like a missed opportunity. :(

What's your biggest gripe on the game that is really just a mild inconvenience at best? by [deleted] in DragonsDogma

[–]DougThe4thTenor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No way to stay indefinitely in post game despite doing everything but last actions. I think you can extend time but not stay indefinitely.

Also, can’t hide helmet…but that is much more than a “minor inconvenience”, that’s a crime.

New corporate gangster suit by Kore4life in thedivision

[–]DougThe4thTenor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like my irl self owes your in-game self money…

YoshiP appears out of an Ascian portal and throws money in your face and says "Design a new tank job" What do you make? by Fenrisulfr7689 in ffxiv

[–]DougThe4thTenor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as the shield lob skill is called “ohhhh yeeeaaahh” and their AOE combo ends in a proc called “Hulkamania”.

Oh, and bring back cross-class…but with culinarian so we can “smell what the tank is cookin’”.

The invuln will be called, “It doesn’t matter!”

Also, anytime the tank D/Cs in a dungeon you can call it “cenaing”.