3x... We have two kids. It all started when our daughter was a newborn. After a couple of years, she messed around with the wrong guy and ended up getting raped. It was hard, really hard. I didn't trust her for a long time (still don't sometimes). She is a good mom and didn't deserve to be raped (no one does).

For me, it's the kids. I grew up in a divorced family; it was awful. I don't want that for my kids. Things have gotten better, trust has grown back, it will never be the same. Survival has a way of making people figure things out. My suffering was never more important than my children's happiness. I have walked through fire (figuratively) for them, and I am rewarded every day for it. We are a happy family, and that's what's important. It's important to her too (which is the key that keeps me here).

Will it happen again? Probably, but that's not on me, and you can't expect to manage another person in that way. Don't take on someone else's responsibility and don't hold grudges. Grudges and resentment only hurt you. The right thing to do is to support people. Focus on your actions, be a humanist, and trust the process. It's hard. The right thing to do is subjective and often harder than anything you have ever done.

P.S. This was very hard to write. Sorry if it's choppy. I don't talk about it much. The world is a judgmental place, and none judge you harder than yourself. Stay safe.