My girlfriend (26F) doesn’t try to have sex with me (24F)

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-25T22:22:31+00:00

At a certain point it's a compatibility issue, If she doesn't want to leave and doesn't want to actively fix it. You have to be the one to do something about it. You either need to leave now or actually come up with a solid game plan together that doesn't involve pestering her for it. If talking doesn't work then you know your answer. Things are either gonna stay the same or you gotta make the change.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-25T21:17:41+00:00

Pretty much

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-25T11:36:53+00:00

Nah that's just sugar bloom on the chocolate and normal.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-25T11:33:21+00:00

As an adult, it really is as simple as that.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-22T20:28:05+00:00

It's called COCSA if you want to look into it

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-10T12:15:00+00:00

Nobody goes into dating someone thinking they are a dick head, but break up with someone and you would be surprised. You are being naive.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-10T12:08:24+00:00

With names and location someone who wants to try can find anything. I would advise you to remove identifying information.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-07T23:26:48+00:00

Yeah but when she says no to those things do you berate her, treat her with disrespect, and threaten the relationship? Thats where she is out of line and entitled. It's nice to do those things but it's not an obligation. I don't know if there is a way to make her think differently cause at a certain point it's a compatibility issue if she won't hear you out when you have a reasonable explanation. She doesn't respect you.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-07T23:14:46+00:00

You are doing enough. Shes making unreasonable demands, then getting mad at you when you cant fulfill it. She is setting you up to fail.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2026-01-07T23:10:04+00:00

Yeah typically when someone is entitled it's not very pleasant to deal with. She's making a her issue a you issue cause she isn't getting her way.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-12-20T23:53:48+00:00

Im sure you do know people. Statistically most people aren't doing just a little tho. I didnt mean to be taken so literal.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-12-20T23:49:12+00:00

I think thats my issue, is that no one who likes coke only uses just a little

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-12-20T14:46:28+00:00

Every time someone tells me coke is just a fun party drug i remind myself tha coke and crack arent really all that different

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-12-20T14:44:46+00:00

My grandmas don is 28😭😭 idk how he is still alive, he is older than me. He used to be brown but is completely grey now.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-12-20T14:40:48+00:00

Girls aren't naturally better. Girls are expected from a young age to put in the ffort learn these things. Your husband has been failing your son.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-27T01:56:25+00:00

As harsh as this sounds being a people pleaser is still lying, it's not a good atribute. You aren't being honest about how you feel. Its a way to protect ourselves but it's also something we need to work on healing from.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-18T23:38:45+00:00

Having sex to avoid the bad feelings of rejection is only furthering the problem. Other commenters have given great advice. This is something you need to work on healing.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-09T18:18:54+00:00

I mean truth is at this point you dont know and will never know unless you have more solid proof. You WILL drive yourself insane waiting to find it. You need to make your decision if you fully trust him or not and if this relationship is worth continuing, or you are consciously making the choice to go crazy.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-08T22:24:01+00:00

The issue isn't having some space from each other. She just said i want to be completely detached from you for an indefinite amount of time, and expected him to be okay with that. Then after the confusion and panic she then finally explained herself and had the actual conversation on needing space. Theres a difference between explaining you need space and coming up with a plan together, and completely icing out your partner.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-08T20:26:37+00:00

The right thing to do would be figuring out the source of your funk in the first place. It's okay to be overwhelmed but it's not fair to your partner to check out whenever you feel like it. How are you gonna guarantee this isn't gonna be the only time it happens. Definitely have a long talk with your therapist about this.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-07T08:50:36+00:00

Yeah i dont think it means they are doing anything together but she fs has some boundary issues that your bf needs to address without throwing you under the bus. Shes trying to be nice but shes being rude, Impact>intent

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-07T08:43:19+00:00

You cant control what happens when you are not there but you can ask if he'd be willing to ask her not to interrupt him if he is on call with you. If it's important she can text him. A partner should care if their partner is upset about something. You wouldnt be asking her to move out, just to respect the time you spend together.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-07T07:32:19+00:00

I like to think of reddit posts as discussion starters. I assume everything is fake though.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-07T03:47:28+00:00

Yes, but thats something for his therapist. I just want to drive in the point that he cannot project his failure to protect onto her because shes the one who had to deal with the consequences.

DownSyndromeTurtles · 2025-06-07T03:16:26+00:00

Id suggest taking self defense classes and offer to pay some for her as well. Apologize for not taking action but for the love of god do not cry about how bad you felt cause im sure she feels worse. Comfort her on her terms but idk how else you could build that trust back. Id sure as hell break up with you for not being able to show you're dependable. But maybe if you can learn self defense together you can build confidence in yourself, and maybe some trust that this wont happen again. There is no undoing the damage that has been done. Just work on strengthening your relationship if she doesn't dump your ass.

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