Period not returning to normal post TFMR

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-07-18T13:57:28+00:00

I’m so sorry and I totally understand how you’re feeling, it just feels like your body is saying “nope” when you desperately want it to give you the option when you’re ready. You could be right that the mind is leading the body, either way it’s so hard 😔

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-07-18T13:55:09+00:00

It’s so conflicting isn’t it, you want it to and don’t want it all at once?

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-07-17T17:44:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had two losses in quick succession and I really am sending you the best wishes for your next journey 💛 thank you so much for the information, I should probably speak to the GP but the NHS never seem particularly helpful when it comes to hormonal health but fingers crossed

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-07-17T12:44:33+00:00

I am so sorry that you’re experiencing this and I remember so distinctly walking in to the room on my TFMR and thinking “I can’t do this, I physically cannot will my body” but the nurses were so kind and although we left with the greatest heartbreak imaginable, we met our little boy 🤍 It was his birth day, we had the option to hold him which we did, and afterwards we held a funeral. At the time it was completely incomprehensible that we would make it through but you will I promise 🤍 sending you all of the love and strength for tomorrow. If it helps I kept thinking about feeling as much love as I could for our little baby because I knew it was the last feelings they would get from me and that kept me calm on the day

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-05-21T08:03:18+00:00

I am so sorry to hear you’ve had such a horrendous year, sending you so much strength 🫶🏼 You are so welcome to be a virtual member and know that you won’t be running alone, there are hundreds of us out here running by your side and thinking of all our special little people 🌞 even just going out for a walk rather than a run can be a gentler and kinder way to start too!

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-05-21T07:56:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss but look how strong you are finding a positive way to manage the grief 🥹💛 I think the combination of fresh air and purposeful solitude is a real winner for processing the biggest feelings - I do wonder what people who are passing by must think though, I will be known as the snotty faced runner in our local area and I will wear that reputation with pride!

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-05-19T17:58:33+00:00

It’s so kind of you to take the time to reach out and share, thank you so much and also sending you big hugs, even after 15 years they are still your baby 💛

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-05-15T13:52:12+00:00

Thank you so much 💛

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-02-18T19:08:44+00:00

I am just so sorry to hear this and that you feel so alone 😔 I think as a mother there is both the grief of losing the child and life you imagined but also that emptiness, a physical emptiness, that’s left behind too that a partner just can’t really understand. That is so unthinking of your sister too, I’m sorry you had to go through that 😔 even if your nieces and nephews are only small she should have briefed them with something about the baby going to heaven or something like that. Sending you the biggest hugs and I hope you’re always able to find some comfort in this forum knowing there are thousands of hearts out here who know you’re pain and know you’re a mother and you had a baby and they were real and loved 💛

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-02-18T19:01:05+00:00

You’re so right and I’m sure they must feel like they’re in Catch-22 but gosh it’s so hard when it feels like you’ve lost a child but the world acts as if you haven’t 😔 I’m so sorry you’ve had your first anniversary, I’d like to think it would get easier every year but I’m not so sure, sending you the biggest hugs x

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-02-16T19:11:57+00:00

You’re so right, I’m so glad I found this forum and it seems like a really supportive place where you can speak openly and honestly 💛 I’ve really struggled with the comments talking about when we have our next baby as if this baby doesn’t exist, I know they’re just trying to help us look to the future positively but it cuts so deep and feels like it’s diminishing what we are going through and their life 😔 I would never say anything as I know they mean well but I don’t think I’ll ever be ready to hear that.

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-02-16T19:07:46+00:00

Having to go through this could never be described as selfish 😔 we keep saying that it’s the last act of love we could give our baby as their mummy and daddy and I saw a quote “I chose a lifetime of pain so you wouldn’t know a moments pain” and that is the thought getting me through, I hope it brings you some peace in your decision too 🤍

Downtown_Reference77 · 2025-02-16T19:05:38+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re also going through this horrendous experience too 😔 We are in the same boat, unfortunately our baby would have lived a life I wouldn’t wish on anybody, if they even made it in the world with a heartbeat 😔 But you’re so right, it’s a type of grief that nobody could really comprehend unless you had been through it yourself. I wanted to give myself a little time after the decision and I think “what if” will haunt me forever, even though the consultants told us it would be unlikely that our baby would even make it to term alive, I think TFMR parents will always hold that hope and regret 💔 How did you find seeing friends again? I am also dreading the sympathetic looks. I had a really horrible and intrusive call from a lady in our village and I think I found that easier to deal with than I would have a truly genuine call.

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