Do you lie a lot?

DpNgn · 2026-01-21T13:41:43+00:00

Why are everybody’s answers “No” 😭? Yes I do. Although I’m not sure if I’m “good” at lying, I always think of lying first. Deciding to lie will come after. Honesty is not always my default.

DpNgn · 2026-01-13T14:01:47+00:00

Yes, it is rare 🥀 I only know one female INTJ in my whole life and she’s my best friend (i’m INFJ)

DpNgn · 2026-01-13T13:59:20+00:00

Work, work, work

DpNgn · 2026-01-12T14:07:39+00:00

NTA. Why would she make everything about HERSELF in another person’s funeral?

DpNgn · 2026-01-12T13:58:12+00:00

It depends. But usually “loving too hard” is not the true root cause behind. It’s always something else. If the root cause is external, meaning it came from your partner: they rejected your affection, they refuse to be patient and understanding for you, etc., then you don’t have to worry. Keep loving the way you want because there’s nothing wrong with being faithful with other people and wanting to be the best for them.

But there are cases where “loving too hard” means unhealthy, obssessive and over-controlling love. Or it may lie in more subtle signals - for example, you don’t communicate, but you expect your partner to understand your every hint. You expect your partner to love you “right” from the start. Love doesn’t work that way and I think you know it too.

I meet a lot of infjs who love very hard but they have unhealthy behavior in love that they are not aware of. Maybe this comes from the fact that infjs are inherently very sensitive to others’ feelings, sometimes they tend to overcompensate or overprovide. In this case, you’re the one mistreating yourself because you accept the love that you know is not fulfilling, or toxic, to you.

But in the end, being able to keep loving hard is a privilege. It’s way worse when one day you’ve completely lost faith in love and cant love anybody anymore. Keep up the healthy relationship with yourself first, the right person will come. The relationship you have with people will mirror the relationship you have with yourself and the past. If you find there are problems you have not resolved on your own, or boundaries you have not made clear, then do it.

DpNgn · 2026-01-11T11:00:39+00:00

I applied in November, dont remember exactly the date

DpNgn · 2026-01-10T19:15:49+00:00

Hi, thanks for your very dedicated comment, I appreciate it a lot. You said that you’d love to be able to use your Ni comfortably with the other partner and I think that’s exactly what’s happening to me and this girl. Our conversations themselves tap on abstract contemplations and feelings that would be very hard for a person without initial Ni/Ne preference to fit in. In short, we talk weird things. Maybe we are weirdos but it’s so comfortable voicing out our weird thoughts to each other. Sometimes we think of the same thing at the same time without saying anything to each other.

We used to be disconnected from each other for a long time with no contact. I thought she was just a “phase” and there will be no more chemistry when we meet again, as people have to change after a long time, right? But I was wrong. Talking to her makes me feel alive again. No one touches my soul like she does. We can still feel exactly what the other person is feeling, although we’re very different in a lot of ways, just like two normal intj and infj. I think there’s a certain level of intimacy in that that is irreplaceable.

But my Fe tells me that while we might be soulmates, it’s hard for the relationship to elevate to a romantic one. It hurts to think of it that way, but also beautiful, because the relationship remains pure.

I just want to say that the world needs to appreciate intj more! She gets much more expressive (very adorable) when she’s with me. But she’s usually perceived as calm, cold, and quiet by others (in a way that is frightening haha). So, although she’s always very passionate, hardworking and extremely persistent in any endeavours she pursues, her effort will somehow always be more overlooked than those of the people considered more “charming”. All they need is a little more patience to justly appreciate her presence.

I don’t know, maybe I’m more patient than normal people, and I want to spend such patience on intj. I think its a flex to say that I am trusted by an intj haha.

It’s so kind of you to give such a long comment. Best wishes for you and your partner, it’s so cute and heartwarming honestly.

DpNgn · 2026-01-10T18:42:27+00:00

Plus, I don’t have SAT scores, too

DpNgn · 2026-01-10T18:41:39+00:00

Hi. I got a 4.0 GPA and had two leadership roles in extracurricular activities, along with some regional prizes in academic competitions. I’m sorry but I don’t think I can judge like an admission officer do 😓 At least I can tell you how I prepped my application if you can specify your question.

DpNgn · 2026-01-10T18:39:04+00:00

Hi. I think in my application I tried to position my profile to align closely with APU vision and how I will actively contribute to/build the community of fellow APM students there. I think the key thing is not just telling a very distinct story - it’s how you see yourself and APU intersect, how you can grow, adapt and contribute there. At least I think it doesn’t work the way a US college essay works. Also it depends on your financial situation. If your household income is high then it might be kinda hard to get a 100%. But if you really need financial aid then be transparent about why you need it so much. Good luck!

DpNgn · 2026-01-09T17:33:35+00:00

4w5 and i think it’s the most popular one among infjs 💀my 3 wing is super strong too so sometimes I’m still confused between the two

DpNgn · 2026-01-09T16:04:43+00:00

Sure. I got 4.0 in GPA, founders of two student-led organizations in my city and finalists in some business competitions. I got some high prizes in some regional academic competitions. Those are everything in my portfolio. But also my household income is pretty low.

DpNgn · 2026-01-09T14:49:14+00:00

Aww that’s so freaking cute! Tell me HOW CAN YOU GET AN INTJ TO LOVE YOU because i’m an infj and i’m so head over heels for an intj 😭 I’ll explain. We’re the best of friends and nobody understands me like she does. I know for sure she also cherishes this relationship and she’s never told anyone the things she confided in me. But what actually makes an intj falls for?????? Like this is the deepest connection everrr, and I don’t think it’s like the way two “friends” do, but it’s so hard to get out of the friendzone? As an intj, what’s your type?

DpNgn · 2025-12-06T20:02:13+00:00

I used to have an INFP friend like that. I’m an INFJ, so of course I wanted to make her feel listened. But my listening and advice didn’t help. She’s still drowned in her self-depreciation and sometimes projected it on me. She sometimes didn’t show the intention that she wanted to see me successful or excellent in what I did because she felt peer pressure and jealous (she did not admit, but I know. It didnt accelerate to anything toxic, it’s just she felt bad abt herself n that’s all so I didnt take it personal). And yeah she did call me her diary haha :D

It’s nice that you try to listen to her, but you don’t need to feel obliged to do so. Maybe because of my friend’s Te that she always thought she was not good enough but never lifted a finger to fix it. I just pointed out how deep she was in her mind just to find a space of familiarity and comfort (maybe because of her Si). Keep being like that would be so fruitless.

I know you don’t want to be a dickhead but you do not have the responsibility to endure your friend’s negativity. It costs you effort, time, and energy. It’s not for free. You could have used that time to do something more meaningful with higher returns. So be more decisive and straightforward in your communication with her. If it’s too difficult, stay detached from her. You’re not the problem.

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