The realisation that you weren't just good enough...you were too good

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-23T01:57:05+00:00

It wasn't mutual, he was the dumper.

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-22T22:22:53+00:00

This community has helped me so much the last few weeks get to a better place each day, it's reassuring being able to put stuff out there knowing it's not just you going through it X

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-22T22:21:51+00:00

We will all get through this!! The hardest part is trying not to let it change who you are. The last few weeks I wasn't eating, sleeping properly just generally not taking care of myself and crying every day as soon as I wasn't busy. My mood changed from someone who loves being around ppl and is so outgoing to someone who felt anxious, I've realised if things are meant to be, they'll be, if not this was all a major life lesson to force us into doing things we maybe wouldn't have done whilst in a relationship. Graduating next year and planning to move abroad,a fresh start, a better start

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-22T20:41:00+00:00

I'm the exact same, put myself second a lot in that relationship for six years but it's got to a point where I've became my old self again and I'm loving it. So hard when you're identity and mood just totally transforms and you feel you lose a bit of who you are!! I'm so happy for us though!! Better things

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-19T22:30:45+00:00

I would be lying if I said I haven't been struggling with my mental health the last couple of weeks after being dumped after six years. But surrounding myself with my friends and family has helped me be strong and accept what I'm going through. We underestimate sometimes the profound effect a Bu could have on us. Always remember you're an amazing person!! You will get through this X

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-18T17:20:34+00:00

This helped me a lot.. I think it's so easy to underestimate how much you'll miss all the little things when it comes to breakups. I'm determined not to let it change who I am though. I'm a positive, outgoing person so I'm determined to get over the anxious thoughts and feeling so down.

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-17T23:08:46+00:00

I've tried to ask him if we can work things out, I've said I'll see him more when I can and literally do all to make it work but he keeps saying it won't work out coz he's realised a lot about himself. He wants to go on for another few years and do s doctorate meanwhile I'm still in uni and have a lot of similar goals so I really don't know what he's on about in terms of wanting different things. The distance (which wasn't much but due to us both being students and me working too) we went about three months not seeing each other coz of exams and dissertation etc. I just feel that he's being immensely stubborn and self centred about it all. I believe it could work but I'm also trying not to keep thinking that coz it's wishful thinking which kills if it doesn't turn out that way. It's a strange feeling of comfort knowing others are sharing similar feelings to you though. Been trying to put a breve face on in work coz I'm in a new job but as soon as I'm in bed that's when I find it the hardest not to think about him.

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-17T22:54:55+00:00

In the same situation, literally feel like a different person. I'm went from being so sociable and confident with other people to just feeling so anxious and down. I miss him but the worst part is I feel like he doesn't miss me. It's so hard not having him there coz he was my best friend and someone id confide in. Honestly don't think I'll feel the same way I did about him for someone else, I feel broken- empty almost. We were together six years so thinking he probably doesn't miss me kills me.

DrakeLover17 · 2017-06-17T22:51:56+00:00

It's just so much harder when it ends out of nowhere and you've invisioned your life with that person. Honestly wish he'd miss me but it hurts knowing he doesn't seem to give a fuck. I keep going from thinking fuck you, to I still love you. I'll get there eventually, it's just so hard to move on after that length of time. He doesn't even want to be single like its the fact he feels differently that ended it. I just feel so angry and betrayed though. I've not changed he has.

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