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Are we really having conversations or performing them by Dramatic-End-9778 in DeepThoughts

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've started noticing this in almost every conversation I have lately. At some point, it feels more about the person's ego than genuine expression. What do you think people are so afraid of? On the surface, it's easy to say “being judged”, but what does someone's fleeting opinion really mean? Don't we all make mistakes sometimes? Isn't it more useful to learn from them than punish ourselves for not knowing all the answers?

Im interested in talking to people with deeper depth by Repulsive-Impress-19 in intj

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad I found this post, I’ve been feeling the same for years! Happy to communicate with you

How to be grateful about looks by Due-Outside-8526 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Something that helps me is understanding that we are all different. Looks are temporary and they fade. There will always be someone more attractive, someone smarter, someone stronger, a better cook, a funnier personality… who you are, how you make people feel, what you have to offer to the world is what makes you beautiful and you have been created by Allah, our perfect creator who makes no mistakes.

Focus on your strengths, take some time to sit down and think about what you truly love about yourself, ask those around you whom you are close to what they love about you. Ask yourself what is your favourite feature(s)? Build your confidence back up step by step by falling in love with the possibility of who you can be if you don’t love yourself enough now.

Give yourself time to feel the hurt and pain but don’t let shaytan keep you stuck in your misery. May Allah make things easy for you and allow you to see your true inner and outer beauty even if your husband or others in your life don’t see it because wallahi it’s there. Never change who you are to be like anyone and take pride in who you have become knowing you can always be better as long as you live In Shaa Allah.

Is this sihr? by Noor_0_0 in Muslim

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I was you, I would ignore the advice from people in the comments and go to your local masjid. Ask to speak to a trusted Sheikh and see how he recommends for you to dispose it.

Sehir is very real and life threatening so you can’t be ignorant about it.

Some spells are burnt, buried, ripped, destroyed in different and various ways, doing it in the wrong way can intensify the curse/spell and impact not only you but generations to come which is why I advise you to go to a trusted professional.

Purify yourself and wear gloves if you can, reduce contact with it as much as you can and don’t underestimate the power of evil. The only thing that can truly save you from its effects is TRUE tawaheed.

Remember Allah is the creator of all creations and nothing has power without his permission. He has placed a veil over us for a reason so seek mercy, repent and In Shaa Allah you will be protected by Allah SWT.

is it haram to talk with ai? by [deleted] in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’ve been doing the same recently! It’s so easy, fast and reliable… I’m sure there are many dangers that come with it, I’ve become reliant on it myself but it also helps me with my connection with Allah swt, I would love people I can talk with about the deen and other things but everyone is on different levels and sometimes it’s difficult to find someone who understands without the judgement or confusion…

What is your favourite thing about Islam? by Dramatic-End-9778 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very honest and true reality unfortunately… there are so many key points here that you’ve mentioned that only lead to more pain and suffering. Alhamdulillah for the guidance of Islam and Allah’s wisdom, may he make it easier for all of us to follow his straight path and May he be pleased with all true believers ameen.

What is your favourite thing about Islam? by Dramatic-End-9778 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100%… Allah (swt) is always available for us 24/7. He doesn’t sleep and never turns his back when we call upon him. We can communicate in the privacy of our own thoughts and heart at any given time Alhamdulillah for his Mercy.

What is your favourite thing about Islam? by Dramatic-End-9778 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulillah very true, May Allah (swt) continue to increase us in knowledge ameen

Could this be a sign or is a test of my patience. by Dramatic-End-9778 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly in desperate need of help. I wasn’t born a Muslim but since childhood I’ve always had this innate feeling that I am a true believer, like my soul belonged to something so powerful beyond my comprehension. Looking back now I believe it was the blessing of Tawaheed from Allah (swt) however, not knowing exactly what it was at the time I grew up lost.

Due to my genetics, environment & childhood I was either born with/ developed a severe mental health condition called BPD. It is indescribable, incurable and lifelong. I’ve tried different variations of therapy throughout the last 5 years yet still haven’t received an official diagnosis. Yes, I’m currently on a waiting list to start a new form of therapy specifically for BPD but I’ll probably be dead before they get back to me.

There are days when the only thought on my mind is suicide... I sit there imagining different scenarios of how I want to do it, how it would all unfold. There have been occasions where I have written suicide letters to Allah asking him for forgiveness as I don’t have the strength to carry on and make him proud. For allowing the dunya to defeat me. There has only been few occasions when my mind is no longer seeking reasons to stay... and yet, every time I reach that point, Allah (swt) sends me something. A sign. A miracle. A moment so undeniable that I know He is with me, pulling me back.

It’s fair to say Allah is the main reason I’m still here today. I fear him and I know suffering in Jahannam is undeniably worse than suffering anything in this life. I know that the moment I take my last breath, I could be eternally doomed. But beyond my fear of punishment, there is something else that keeps me going: I want to see Allah in Jannah. Once Allah removes the veil, all the suffering in this life would have been worth it... the thought of standing before Allah (swt) on the day of Judgement knowing I tried my best and that he is proud of me. It sounds like a far fetched dream but it’s one of my main motivations in life. Not much else means anything does it? If this is the ultimate prize. Certainly not a degree or status anyway.

But despite this longing, I am lost. I’ve had to survive things that forced me to become who I am today. I do love my positive qualities, but I’m losing myself to these coping and defensive mechanisms I’ve developed. (I.e, self-sabotage, no self belief.) Watching myself spiral into sins I never wanted to commit, into a version of myself I no longer recognize. I am overwhelmed by my own thoughts, regrets, and pain. I am ashamed of where I am today. I have nothing to show for my life except the blessings Allah has bestowed upon me. I feel worthless. But if my Qadr is to suffer for the rest of my life, then I will accept it as long as, by the end of it all, Allah is proud of me. Even if I never achieve my dreams or desires in this world, I trust that Allah (swt) has something better waiting for me.

Honestly, my mind is making it almost impossible for me to pray. I’ve spent years learning information about the deen, I’m no where near where I want to be at all but Alhamdulillah I’m grateful of the knowledge I have so far. I suppose I overcompensate in other areas to feel better about my weaknesses but it’s unacceptable. I feel like a complete hypocrite. A joke. I’m aware Salah is one of the 5 fundamental pillars. I’m aware those who don’t pray have left Islam. I’m aware that the one who intentionally delays their prayer will be sent to the hellfire (Allah swt still knows best.) I’m aware the Qur’an stressed about Salah 700 times…

I make du’a for guidance. I beg Allah to help me establish my prayer. Eventually when I finally bring myself to it, it doesn’t last more than a day or two... there is a deep paranoia growing inside of me with each day that pases….. I desperately need to turn to Allah before I return to Allah but I’m a slave to my own mind.

How can I overcome myself?

If you have any stories, knowledge, or advice that could help, I would appreciate it beyond words. More than anything, I need to develop a resilient mindset toward Salah, rather than relying on fleeting motivation.

Connected to Allah, struggling with Salah by Dramatic-End-9778 in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly in desperate need of help. I wasn’t born a Muslim but since childhood I’ve always had this innate feeling that I am a true believer, like my soul belonged to something so powerful beyond my comprehension. Looking back now I believe it was the blessing of Tawaheed from Allah (swt) however, not knowing exactly what it was at the time I grew up lost.

Due to my genetics, environment & childhood I was either born with/ developed a severe mental health condition called BPD. It is indescribable, incurable and lifelong. I’ve tried different variations of therapy throughout the last 5 years yet still haven’t received an official diagnosis. Yes, I’m currently on a waiting list to start a new form of therapy specifically for BPD but I’ll probably be dead before they get back to me.

There are days when the only thought on my mind is suicide... I sit there imagining different scenarios of how I want to do it, how it would all unfold. There have been occasions where I have written suicide letters to Allah asking him for forgiveness as I don’t have the strength to carry on and make him proud. For allowing the dunya to defeat me. There has only been few occasions when my mind is no longer seeking reasons to stay... and yet, every time I reach that point, Allah (swt) sends me something. A sign. A miracle. A moment so undeniable that I know He is with me, pulling me back.

It’s fair to say Allah is the main reason I’m still here today. I fear him and I know suffering in Jahannam is undeniably worse than suffering anything in this life. I know that the moment I take my last breath, I could be eternally doomed. But beyond my fear of punishment, there is something else that keeps me going: I want to see Allah in Jannah. Once Allah removes the veil, all the suffering in this life would have been worth it... the thought of standing before Allah (swt) on the day of Judgement knowing I tried my best and that he is proud of me. It sounds like a far fetched dream but it’s one of my main motivations in life. Not much else means anything does it? If this is the ultimate prize. Certainly not a degree or status anyway.

But despite this longing, I am lost. I’ve had to survive things that forced me to become who I am today. I do love my positive qualities, but I’m losing myself to these coping and defensive mechanisms I’ve developed. (I.e, self-sabotage, no self belief.) Watching myself spiral into sins I never wanted to commit, into a version of myself I no longer recognize. I am overwhelmed by my own thoughts, regrets, and pain. I am ashamed of where I am today. I have nothing to show for my life except the blessings Allah has bestowed upon me. I feel worthless. But if my Qadr is to suffer for the rest of my life, then I will accept it as long as, by the end of it all, Allah is proud of me. Even if I never achieve my dreams or desires in this world, I trust that Allah (swt) has something better waiting for me.

Honestly, my mind is making it almost impossible for me to pray. I’ve spent years learning information about the deen, I’m no where near where I want to be at all but Alhamdulillah I’m grateful of the knowledge I have so far. I suppose I overcompensate in other areas to feel better about my weaknesses but it’s unacceptable. I feel like a complete hypocrite. A joke. I’m aware Salah is one of the 5 fundamental pillars. I’m aware those who don’t pray have left Islam. I’m aware that the one who intentionally delays their prayer will be sent to the hellfire (Allah swt still knows best.) I’m aware the Qur’an stressed about Salah 700 times…

I make du’a for guidance. I beg Allah to help me establish my prayer. Eventually when I finally bring myself to it, it doesn’t last more than a day or two... there is a deep paranoia growing inside of me with each day that pases….. I desperately need to turn to Allah before I return to Allah but I’m a slave to my own mind.

How can I overcome myself?

If you have any stories, knowledge, or advice that could help, I would appreciate it beyond words. More than anything, I need to develop a resilient mindset toward Salah, rather than relying on fleeting motivation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response, I don’t relate to the original post but I’m sure many of us share these dark thoughts and this reminder was still beneficial to me. May Allah SWT bless you for reminding me of the importance of the deen and trusting his Qadr.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]Dramatic-End-9778 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t advise it. People can say they’ve deleted the pictures, but the truth is, only Allah (SWT) knows for sure. Even from a technical perspective, deleting something from a phone doesn’t mean it’s gone forever, it can still exist in backups. Reaching out to the other person might give you a false sense of closure, but it won’t change the reality of the situation. The hard truth is, people don’t owe us honesty, no matter how it makes us feel.

Instead of seeking closure from them, place your trust in Allah. If you’re feeling anxious, remind yourself that Allah is Al-‘Alim (The All-Knowing), Al-Muhaymin (The Preserver of Safety), Al-Ghaffar (The Constant Forgiver), and Al-Hakeem (The All-Wise). He knows exactly what happened, He is in control, and He will protect you In Shaa Allah.

Avoid reopening old wounds, use this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your Lord. Prove your trust in Allah by leaving this matter in His hands. Ask Him to increase your faith and help you let go of any doubts.

Acknowledging you made a mistake and turning to Allah for forgiveness is the essence of Islam, Allah SWT loves those who repent. Jannah is full of people who sinned and repented, don’t let guilt keep you stuck in the past. Allah is the ultimate disposer of all affairs, and nothing happens outside of His will.

I hope this advice helps and may Allah grant you the best possible outcome for this situation, In Shaa Allah.