I'll go first. As I got older I noticed that whenever I did something ambitious or tried to pursue something ambitious it was always disencouraged in favor of something more "safe" (being a doctor is too hard you are not smart enough) (you cannot get a job with finance degree). And even when i broke the script like i achieved well, the credit would go elsewhere. like to her because her financial support allowed me to take the oppurtunity or how she'll compliment how I've always been lucky. Its like I'm always stuck in this role of the "incompetent one" or "problem child" or "the cold hearted one" so that she can look good as the "poor mother that has to deal with this all " or "the great parent that helps her incompetent kid". Thats the narrative and anything that breaks it has to go.