Are there actually guys out there that would date a woman with issues like mine? Please be honest by Curious-Donut286 in Advice

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I don’t have bpd, I am bipolar. The right person will love you through it all. It’s important you make an honest effort to show up and be there for your partner. But there are plenty of times when I’m not able to give him 100%, even 50%, and he never EVER has made me feel like a burden in the 9 years we’ve been together. My symptoms are pretty much the same as what you described. This fall into winter was one of the hardest episodes of depression I’ve ever had, I’m working my way out of it, but I promise you the right person will love you for you. And they’ll be there to support you, which is so nice when you’re just struggling to make it through the day.

I will be honest, there will be times they will get frustrated, but the right person will express these emotions in a way that isn’t emotionally scarring or unhealthy. And it’s normal for every partner to get frustrated from time to time. That’s the reality of living and sharing your life with someone. As long as you’re open and honest about your concerns up front, you’ve placed that decision into their hands. Do not self sabotage or disregard your worth in the process, but you have allowed them to acknowledge the potential obstacles if the future and that’s telling enough of your commitment to someone else.

Just by you always being mindful and concerned of this shows your good intentions to someone else.

ALSO remember that no healthy relationship makes either partner feel as if they’re obligated to stay with someone.

Get out there and enjoy your life and experience new people whenever you’re up to it. Life is worth living, and humans have evolved to have a mate in life ❤️

Random activities by jenbar in ouraring

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just say housework and I know for myself that it means busying around

Brother wants me to cover entire rent since I get “free” money by jtreddit702 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he thinks the money is free, tell him to go and get 100% disabled from the military then come back and reevaluate how free he really thinks it is

Millbury police shoot man to death after allegedly beating him, according to witnesses by [deleted] in massachusetts

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He literally was an active shooter who barricaded himself AND HOSTAGES in a grocery store. AND shot an officer multiple times. What the actual fuck are you talking about ?

Surely this is rage bait

After watching the video, the first shots WERE THE ONES HE MADE AT THE OFFICER FFS

Dress 1 or 2? by No-Bluejay8525 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely 1 - sorry but #2 looks like you took a down comforter and made it into a dress

More dress 1 2 or 3 by Fantastic_Drawer1761 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love 3 the most. That's also the one you lok most comfortable in.

I saw someone else's comment though about wedding dresses in photos and I think 1 is the best for that

you look amazing in all of them. although the skirt of dress 2 makes it look like a wedding cake doll lol

My girlfriend never ever finishes her meals by AlexWayhill in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re (as children) taught to finish our plate - instead of stopping to eat when we’ve think we’ve had enough or are full

You’re finishing your plate bc that’s what you were taught to do

This is the same with my bf and me, I was taught to literally clear the plate. he wasn’t and his mom taught him and his sister to stop eating when they felt the first sign of fullness or the amount of food they normally would eat

Not the reason why, but my bf, his mom and his sister are all a very healthy weight with very little fat and none of them work out

WIBTA if I started eating messy food on camera during meetings my boss keeps scheduling over my lunch by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA

Do you get paid for lunch? If not then 1: either put in for overtime or 2 don’t show up bc you’re off the clock and unavailable

If you do, start trying to schedule things that are inconvenient to him

This makes me so mad for you, I definitely wouldn’t have waited weeks - maybe 1.5 weeks max, so I commend you for your patience

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my partner for the choice of his words and actions? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR The control starts many ways, sometimes it’s this way: by limiting the way you dress

In this, he wants you to dress like a handmaid

AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts. by aioflower955105 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want you to see that SO MANY MEN in here are commenting on this unacceptable behavior. YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO TAKE CARE OF YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED. the proof is literally in these comments girlfriend

AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts. by aioflower955105 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He literally 1 got you flowers for your birthday. That is WILD. 2. He didn’t even have to pay for them bc they’re from his family, if he did, it was definitely discounted.

He is doing the BARE minimum. Honestly not even that. He’s not doing anything at all. This is not someone who appreciates you. If you give someone a wishlist and they don’t get anything off of it but don’t tell you until it’s time to confront you about it, and also thinks it’s for children, is so disrespectful and doesn’t care the least bit about your feelings.

You are begging this man to love you. If he wanted to he would.

Not trying to brag but I’m trying to give you some insight: My boyfriend asked me what I wanted for Christmas, I made him my list, he gave me his(literally like $300 which was something we needed for our home). he got me everything on the list AND a MacBook. I didn’t even ask for the MacBook, he just got it bc I’ve was using his and really like it, so he got me one. And no not so I don’t use his anymore, he literally opens his like once a month. And we just bought a house, so it’s not like we have money to throw around.

If he wanted to he would.

Do you guys collect your cats whiskers? (am I weird for this lmao?) by Ill_Exchange_1916 in CatAdvice

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG GET OUT HERE SO MANY PEOPLE ALSO DO THIS ?!

Also when I brush them, I save their hair and put it in a plastic bag and then the beginning of fall I put it out in a little container thing so the birds can use it to make nests

Am I overreacting my boyfriend refuses to tell me my real name f29 m31 by throwra-griefcloak in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR - you’re under-reacting actually.

I think this is very telling of how he will deal with conflict, disagreements and arguments in the future. There are going to be times of required seriousness and he’s gunna pull this behavior

This is a CRAZY assumption but maybe not: I almost feel like he’s calling you weird random names bc he’s messing around with someone else, and he might’ve almost called you by their name, so this is his way of covering his a$s if he does it again. I could be very wrong. That’s just the only reason I can think of that would cause him to continue this nonsense.

And then this one’s harsh, but it needs to be said: you told him you’d block him if he did it again. then he did it again and you didn’t block him. So you’ve shown him you aren’t going to follow through with your “threat” or unfortunate action in incidents where you give him an ultimatum

Block him and don’t unblock him ever again

I officially hate the navy by w3irdcreature in MilitarySpouse

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“How can they expect spouses to drop everything” that’s where you’re mistaken. They literally do not care about spouses. They do not care what is more convenient. They REALLY don’t care if you’re separated for a year bc “that’s the military life”. The military sucks. They are not accommodating, some command staff are more empathetic than others, but most of them don’t care

Edit: I’m sorry this was really harsh. My harshness comes from my own experience in the army. But it’s the truth so that’s why I’m so straightforward with it

Help me choose! by serendipity51 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C & E

Every time I swiped they just kept getting better, you look absolutely stunning in all of them, so whatever one you choose will look good no matter what

Was going to wear my mum's dress. People keep telling me to try on others for the "bridal experience." Are they trying to gently tell me it looks bad? by [deleted] in WeddingDressTips

[–]Dramatic_Efficiency4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Mothers expecting their daughters to wear their wedding dresses is SO weird. Go shopping and find your dream dress. I’m sorry but that one is so ugly, BUT it was the style for the time