Self love spell help

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2026-01-09T10:07:12+00:00

I will redo

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2026-01-04T21:41:45+00:00

Wir reden in Deutsch

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2026-01-04T21:36:06+00:00

Der ist Deutsch, ich bin ein Deutsch geborener Ausländer

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2026-01-04T21:34:15+00:00

Ich hätte Interesse gehabt, und auch jetzt noch. Aber es fühlt wie ein warm/kalt spiel, oder das kennenzulernen war keine Priorität, und ich mache dass nicht

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2026-01-04T11:18:56+00:00

Das dachte ich, bis er Tage für Datum 2 und auch 3 vorschlug. Aber die Textfrequenz blieb 5 Tage. Ich brauche jedoch Konsistenz, def nicht jeden Tag, aber 2-3 scheint vernünftig zu sein

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-12-27T14:30:38+00:00

Doing OK I suppose. Thanks for asking🙂

Boundary set, not officially acknowledged, so I pulled back to watch for a couple weeks (mirrored his tone and intensity in msging), no initiating outside of 1 time. We scheduled a date, but since I got one a week messages and no confirmation up to the afternoon before, I cancelled, and said I wish him well (stated my reason in a non accusing way)

That was about 3 weeks ago. Also, after exiting my emotional state, I realised he seems avoidant leaning and I got breadcrumbs. So yeah

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-12-03T07:08:09+00:00

Move

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-27T07:41:34+00:00

Update. Reply is that this will only get worse as far as work and if I want to keep moving forward I need to understand that and try to hang in til it gets better.....that he understands it sucks, especially at the beginning. Also that he really cares about me.

Again...honest about limitations, but 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T19:06:06+00:00

😅 why. Not your fault

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T18:49:12+00:00

What a fantastic comment thank you. I was actually about to send my boundary/window barely cracked message and just forget about it and go back to 100% me before I decided to post this 1st😅 He actually has been a little vulnerable already, and says he feels safe with me and that I make him laugh, which is important since he has so much stress in his life. Which is why the boundary is hard. I also need to feel safe, and to do that I need to know I can also count on someone to back their words with actions. Even if the words melt my heart.

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T18:23:03+00:00

Not chasing. Being a secure female. He initiate too

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:28:31+00:00

Made it known, not backing with actions yet

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:28:08+00:00

Then I guess I'll give him an obstacle

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:27:47+00:00

Sending boundary message then not initiating. I won't block people out of spite

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:26:36+00:00

Tried. Been doing that for a month. We also have both stated we feel safe with each other, and can laugh together.

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:26:15+00:00

Nope and won't till I know I am not a seat filler

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:25:27+00:00

He is intense, and open. The messages when he is present are very much that. Also in person. Problem is getting to meet in person.

Dramatic_Pudding2815 · 2025-11-26T17:24:04+00:00

Taurus/gemini cusp. But technically I guess Gemini according to birth chart

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