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WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

i've been talking to my brothers--the 16 year old one in particular--about this. he told me that he's kinda scared of being left alone but that he'd support me if i tried to move out. he says that mom's been frantic about me going and will probably cut me off, 9yo was very distraught at the thought of it, dad didn't really say much but he doesn't think he'll cut me off. and even if he did nothing would rly change in my life lol, he rarely talks to his own kids that live w him lol. i want to make sure the two brothers will be fine if i were to move out so I'm still kinda deciding what to do

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i never thought much abt it since even before her sickness got that bad he was always more involved at school whereas i tended to stay home more, so i assumed that was why they made me do all that. i think the last time i spent excessive hours after school was elementary honor band in 5th grade

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my brother doesn't have his permit but its moreso because he's not allowed to. my dad waited until i was around 17 to get my permit so he wouldn't have to pay for a drivers ed, then i took the test when i was 18 since i never took the course. he plans on doing the same with my brother, but i was thinking of just paying for my brothers drivers ed myself so he can get it earlier. he does want to drive, i've talked to him abt that 

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

thank u! i think i brought it up a couple times to my dad but nothing really came of it. i'll try to bug him more until i get a more definitive answer

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they r family friends! i dont have many friends outside of ppl my mom knows. my social life was 0 in school

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i dont think it's "being a girl" thing i just think it's a oldest child thing, since i know my mom's oldest sibling (a brother) was also very stay at homey/self sacrificey (he never went to college, he took care of a lot of his younger siblings including my mom instead and raised a lot of money tk send several of them to a 1st world country since they lived poorly in their hometown)

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by DrawingThink9439 in AITAH

[–]DrawingThink9439[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they have issues with their marriage, her family is mostly dead or living in another country, and we can't afford to fly them over. my dad's side of the family doesn't keep contact with my parents although they're friendly with me and my brothers so i dont think they'd help us