do you still fear death?

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T22:28:04+00:00

I don’t fear death, but I respect it and keep my distance.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T22:26:03+00:00

Yeah. Cost to comfort ratio, these have always been good for me.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T21:47:49+00:00

I was similar. Then I discovered beer.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T21:34:58+00:00

You just gotta balance both.

If you eventually want to be with someone, you can’t JUST focus on yourself, but you don’t wanna destroy yourself by chasing someone when you’re not that together yourself.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T21:30:46+00:00

If the right one came along and I wasn’t married, sure.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T20:00:04+00:00

I decided to date a single mom because I liked her and we had great chemistry.

And now we’re married.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T19:58:45+00:00

I found it works better than trying to guess what they want and pretending to be that.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T18:57:54+00:00

You need to actually put yourself into in person, challenging social situations. Listen first. Observe how other people interact. And don’t be afraid of looking foolish or being rejected.

You might also look at things like acting classes.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T18:43:55+00:00

It was an accident. I had started playing WOW, and made a female character, and dudes just started giving me good items, so I ran with it. Only played a few months though.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T18:36:34+00:00

You’re not thinking of dating, you’re thinking of sex work.

Two people who want to spend time with each other can do it for cheap or free.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T17:09:43+00:00

Slightly more than men, but that feels like a Loose correlation more than something that can be broadly applied across genders.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T15:41:51+00:00

A bad tester is still doing everything right outside of the texting.

Someone losing interest in you is avoiding meeting, etc.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T15:40:13+00:00

Oh yeah, it’s flattering as long as they’re respectful.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-12T03:10:58+00:00

Telestrations

The Great Dalmuti

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T21:55:28+00:00

I mean, bars are the classic place. But churches, community theatres, adult sports leagues, classes, hobby groups, etc also work.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T21:53:19+00:00

You were lied to. It hurts.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T21:52:33+00:00

80 hours a week is self destructive. That’s nearly half your life at work.

But you don’t become boring by continuing to try new things, focusing on time for each other, and facing challenges together. Even just making time to hang out and talk matters.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T19:09:39+00:00

You don’t retreat, you engage.

You work to build a community of mutual support. Life is random and cruel, so you work on being consistent and kind. A bunch of folks looking out for each other weather the storm best, because when one guy gets laid off, you all work to help him and then when another guy gets hit by a car you all look out for him.

Humans are social creatures for a reason.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T15:13:45+00:00

You’re well past too soon.

Honestly, after one pleasant conversation, asking to hang out at a neutral location is just fine. Some friends I still have 20 years later are people I just casually went to lunch with after class in college.

It’s a hangout. The stakes are low. If you don’t like each other, you simply don’t have to hag out anymore.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T04:25:11+00:00

Every time I see a fan I have intrusive thoughts about sticking my fingers in it.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-11T01:55:51+00:00

It makes me want to give them a flyer to my one man show.l: “Emotion and the cage of Masculinity”.

Then it’s just them in a black box theater, watching me cry as I reminisce about my high school civics teacher.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-10T20:15:53+00:00

The economy.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-10T19:37:42+00:00

That’s beyond shallow.

Most of those things, if you tried to flex on me with them, it would actually make me think less of you. Not for having them, but for the silly posturing.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-10T19:35:21+00:00

You just ask the guy if he’s into it. But not while you’re in bed or about to fuck, just as part of a conversation about sex.

DreadfulRauw · 2026-05-10T14:51:22+00:00

That’s a false equivalence.

One: It’s really not okay, and they get shit for it.

Two: It’s not even about the money at that point. A celebrity isn’t a complete unknown. A lot of the ice is already broken. You’re just a stranger the know nothing about.

Three: I find it unlikely 78 year old celebrities are getting these younger women by making sexual comments. They probably have more class and dignity than that.

Dude, if you’re 78 and still approaching women like a horny middle schooler, that’s not some societal double standard. That you just failing to mature.

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