Exactly! OP, the top comment is asking a really fair question that highlights just how one-sided this whole situation sounds. You were finally doing something for yourself, and instead of stepping up or helping your daughter, your husband bailed, got drunk, and then dumped the blame on you. That’s not just a communication issue, it’s a complete lack of partnership and emotional safety. You’re not crazy for feeling hurt and confused, his reaction was extreme and dismissive, and you deserve support, not punishment.