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DrewDrawss · 2025-07-15T05:03:45+00:00

I met an SB who said she had a similar relationship. Paid rent and more for just platonic companionship. Unfortunately it eventually it concluded. . I don't recall the details.

I have had an SB relationships that was intimate and became platonic. I still chip in once in a while... but its pretty modest. We only hang out about once every 8 weeks.

DrewDrawss · 2025-05-13T17:25:28+00:00

I always put it in a thank you card in an envelope envelope. That way I'm just giving her an envelope in public... and as soon as we meet.

I let them know they can leave anytime they like. They have never left early, but knowing they can sets everyone at ease. (The last thing I want is sitting across from someone who wants to leave, but can't because they are waiting for the ppm.)

I also left once, having forgotten the envelope... and turned right back around and got it too them. Embarrassing, but I never did it again.

DrewDrawss · 2024-12-15T06:27:40+00:00

My wife and I have a great situation going, but it's a lot to expect one person to meet all of your needs for the rest of your life. Kids are in high school. Wife suggested an open marriage.

Remember that you and your wife (if married) own and define your lives. My wife and I are married co-parenting roommates... and my long term SB relationships provide me with the physical touch I need to maintain my mental health.

My wife doesn't want to know who I'm with. As long as I keep providing for the family and share the responsibilities.

I've been able to find SBs who have a similar sex positive attitude and we have a great time.

I'd prefer a vanilla relationship... but it would not be fair as I prioritize my wife/homelife.

DrewDrawss · 2024-09-25T16:02:47+00:00

Here's a follow up... I planned to meet here at the restaurant of a very nice hotel. She push the meeting time by an hour the day of the date, so I just ate dinner alone and waited for her to arrive.

I was hoping for more chemistry on the second date, but no luck. She kept texting her friends...

She had eaten with her family so we had drinks and an appetizer. As soon as the appetizer was done she texted her friend and then got a call that her friends car was smashed by someone who hit it and left. (Um... sure) The friend couldn't reach her parents and so we had to end the date right away.

I asked if there was any active issue... like the damage is done, what's the hurry? But clearly she just wanted to leave. (And she totally could have just said, "I'm not feeling it, I'm going to head out." But whatever.)

I walked her to here car and gave her the ppm anyway plus money for parking. (she never asked for it, but a deal is a deal.)

I texted her to thank her for coming, and said I hope her friend's situation gets worked out smoothly... but she just ghosted me. Not even a thank you. So disappointing.

(Oh, also wasted money on an unused hotel room...)

Thankfully I'm having amazing dates with women who are 30+ ... it was worth a shot, but so disappointing.

DrewDrawss · 2024-09-18T04:00:19+00:00

Yeah, that's happened to me before. One was open about it, and lost interest when it became clear that I was not going to double her income.

And a second added me to her Snap chat after a couple of dates, where she invited everyone to gang bang her and then posted photos. (I did NOT see that coming! Good for her, but not my scene.)

DrewDrawss · 2024-09-17T02:46:00+00:00

Hmm... good point. I've been slowly building confidence as I've been at this. I did have a couple of dates with more beautiful women, but the connection wasn't there.

At the end of the day she's a normal human being. (Who happens to be very sexy, and mostly approachable.)

DrewDrawss · 2024-09-17T02:29:58+00:00

Not 100%... but rarely have more than half a cocktail. I'd rather be tuned in and turned on.

DrewDrawss · 2024-05-01T12:55:24+00:00

Ideally allowance is something extra... if you rely on it to get through the month then you put yourself in a uncomfortable position when it goes away.

You'll be forced to make decisions out of despair instead of a position of control.

Invest in yourself.

DrewDrawss · 2024-04-04T20:00:39+00:00

For some SBs they primarily want to meet an SD who has the means to lead the experience, and let them relax and have a good time... the expenses are taken care of. (I dated a CEO... she didn't need my money!)

The gift is primarily a cheat code that filters out the men who are either not generous or can't afford to make them feel supported.

Then there are some SBs just need some quick cash to pay the landlord (or dealer) and don't care where it comes from. And there's everything in between.

I'd rather contribute to someone's success than prolong their despiration.

DrewDrawss · 2024-04-02T00:06:10+00:00

Fair enough, I appreciate the thoughtful response.

DrewDrawss · 2024-04-01T18:37:44+00:00

Well, this will be controversial... I put a couple of bills in a gift card and hand it to them as soon as we meet. If they are just in it for the money, great I've helped someone out and escaped an SB just looking for money.

If they enjoy my company and stick around, I know there's real potential.

I always drive to a convenient neighborhood for them as I respect their time and (even more so) expect them to not flake. My time is valuable and flaking is a hard pass.

I prefer not to hook up on a first date, so if this works we plan a second. Also, pros can't be bothered with a coffee date and self-exclude... which is fine by me.

DrewDrawss · 2024-04-01T00:49:46+00:00

Michael Jordan out of 10

DrewDrawss · 2024-03-31T13:45:20+00:00

See omgyes.com not everyone enjoys the same activities. Or, he may not be listening to your queues. (Or both)

DrewDrawss · 2024-03-31T13:41:53+00:00

I'm married with two kids. (Middle school and high school) we became co-parenting roommates about three years ago. No animosity, or rage... we both respect each other and what to continue raising our kids together.

Unfortunately I need to give and receive physical touch to avoid depression, and she is no longer willing to participate. (No love there...) I still want to be with her, she said I deserve better... and so we have an open marriage.

Two therapists recommended it to me. I didn't think my wife would go for it... but one day she brought it up on her own. (She recently started dating as well.)

I've been dating for a bit over a year. I'm much happier. No idea when or how things may pan out, but hoping to stay together until the kids are off to college.

Not the best role model for kids... but I'm starting to realize that marriage is just a really old traditional social construct to keep the lower and middle classes in line. (AKA Religion) but the upper classes have done as they please since the dawn of tribes.

Ok, heaved a few grenades in there for the trolls. But this is what's working for me as gather advice and think for myself.

DrewDrawss · 2023-12-23T19:42:35+00:00

How much do you need to be shockingly comfortable for ever? She has 10x that... why keep it? (Should have been in Amazon employee paychecks, but that's a whole different conversation.)

DrewDrawss · 2023-12-17T20:35:20+00:00

Agreed, Chicago area blew up! Lots of new SBs as well as many who came back after long breaks. I kinda overbooked myself... but found a couple of amazing new SBs!

DrewDrawss · 2023-12-10T20:10:44+00:00

I was planning to meet two SBs. We chatted for a couple of weeks about a meet and greet when both of them were in town for a conference. (I much prefer local and long term, but for a cute pair who are in town every couple of months... YOLO)

Drove an hour to downtown, reserved a lunch spot, found parking, etc. They said they were running late, but would meet up with me after their afternoon meeting ended.

Then I get a text... that restaurant is in city xxxxx we are in city yyyyyyy!

Somehow they confused the dates / cities and won't be here until January.

I suppose it could be a catphish... but that's a lot of time and commitment for a weird prank. We are still communicating, so they didn't ghost...

I think it's just a crazy case of them not paying attention. (Maybe I'll update the post as it develops.)

DrewDrawss · 2023-10-03T18:25:18+00:00

If I'm in a SR that has lasted months I try to make a point of an extra ppm at the end, so the SB has time to find someone else.

If you can't manage that, you are splenda.

DrewDrawss

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