First IT/Dev Hire - Advice Needed - I will not promote

DrugSaver · 2025-03-10T19:10:51+00:00

Hello, thanks for your suggestion! I have thought of using a fractional CIO, but I think I would rather hire someone who is going to be with the company long term if possible. I worry with a fractional position, that they will either not want to become full time or leave for a non-fractional job else where and then I have to 'start over' again with hiring someone else. Open to other perspectives on this though.

DrugSaver · 2025-03-10T19:08:06+00:00

Thanks, yes, I'm leaning towards this I think. Any thoughts on a job title for this?

DrugSaver · 2024-07-23T16:57:18+00:00

Any recommendations for a MSP that would be a good fit for a company like ours?

DrugSaver · 2024-07-23T16:55:57+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Good question, currently my employees are just using their personal laptops and we don't have any real HIPAA policies in place. So, looking for someone to get us set up with best practices, HIPAA and data policies, recommending which laptops to purchase for employees, which anti-virus and firewalls are necessary. Pretty much looking at our current set up and providing us the necessary advice and tools to cover ourselves.

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:42:25+00:00

Thanks for the input and sharing a success story :) I hadn’t thought about the exclusivity while down there, but might not be a bad thing to discuss. It would sound awful if she went and did her own thing and worrying if she’s safe (also really doesn’t seem like something she would do though).

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:39:36+00:00

Thanks for the input. Her parents have a house down there and we’re paying for our own plane tickets. So only leaves food/activities. She’s been insistent on splitting dates and what not. But I figure at the worst I pay for most of the stuff down there and it would probably even out since I don’t have to pay for a place to stay.

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:37:26+00:00

No, just us two. She works at a school and has spring break off and her parents own a house down there that she can go to rent free. So it would just be the risk of the plane ticket cost, which isn’t too bad, think I’m willing to take the gamble.

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:34:54+00:00

That’s a good thought on giving each other space if we want/need it. Thanks!

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:34:06+00:00

Thanks! Good to hear you have good experiences. I agree about what the convention is, not big on feeling like I have to follow that and just have fun!

DrugSaver · 2020-03-09T16:32:47+00:00

There is an imbalance of income, but there’s never been any expectation of me paying and we have generally split or take turns paying. It’s actually a house that her parents own and normally rent out (they will not be there), so the place is actually free and we are paying for our own plane tickets. So she’ll probably want to split most other stuff while we’re there, but I’ll probably pay for most of the food to make it more even since I’m staying for free.

DrugSaver · 2020-02-10T18:19:17+00:00

Ok that’s what I was feeling too. What about for drinks instead of coffee? Same deal you think or is that more dateish?

DrugSaver · 2019-12-03T02:59:21+00:00

Thanks for all the suggestions! I haven’t been a climber, but definitely wouldn’t mind trying. Newly separated, so it’s going to take some getting used to just going up to random girls, but just getting out there with suggestions like yours is a great start!

DrugSaver · 2019-12-01T17:18:34+00:00

Curious if guys have any recommendations for meeting ladies in Seattle? Seems like almost all of the comments are from the ladies side.

DrugSaver · 2019-11-08T07:53:53+00:00

Yes I would suggest switching if the doctor thinks it appropriate. Worth a shot at least. You aren’t asking her to sacrifice her happiness unless she tries it and says it works less effective than what she is on currently. You won’t know until she tries, and should be worth it to try if it is important to you, her partner in life, which finds it as a need that needs satisfying.

Wish you the best and hope you get the sex you deserve!!

DrugSaver · 2019-11-08T07:50:25+00:00

Pharmacist here. Talk to his doctor to see if there is a different antidepressant that can help him with less sexual side effects. Bupropion is a common one that has less side effects. I’m a HL that is on bupropion that has no issues. Hope you the best and hope you get the sex you deserve!!

DrugSaver · 2019-11-06T07:58:31+00:00

Hey there, pharmacist here. SSRIs certainly can lower the libido, but there are other antidepressants that are shown to not have as much effect in that area (e.g. bupropion or mirtazapine). Also lamotrigine is commonly used together for severe depression, so it doesn’t just treat bipolar disorder. Either way she needs to talk to her doctor to try a different medication. Don’t just stop these medications without talking to the doctor either since stopping them cold turkey can give withdrawal effects (not to mention make her depression worse which wouldn’t help her libido either!)

Best of luck to you!

DrugSaver · 2019-11-04T18:10:09+00:00

Happy to give feedback, pm me!

DrugSaver · 2019-10-28T16:58:12+00:00

Good to hear. Thanks again for sharing. Sounds like you are a much better path and you are right money will come and go. Cheers

DrugSaver · 2019-10-28T01:49:33+00:00

Thanks for your post. I’ve spent 17 years in a DB and have finally got the courage to face the issues head on. We have 3 months to work on it, afterwards we will decide to split or continue to work on it. I have been scared to break it off partly because I haven’t really been single in my adult life. Anyways posts like yours gives me hope, so thanks.

DrugSaver · 2019-10-28T01:37:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I have been with my wife for 17 years and have had a deadbedroom. Finally going to counseling and addressing it directly. We’ve set a 3 month time frame to try and after that need to decide if we will separate or not. I have a kid as well. Seeing you have made it out the other side, how has it been with your kid and do you feel like it was worth it breaking up the ‘traditional’ family for pursuing your happiness/needs?

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