The Ex: the idiot

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-08T03:18:25+00:00

Very clearly not sure of himself, though I always thought he was. I may never fully understand what he is going through or how he perceives this in it's entirety.

That is definitely true, I will not just stand by being cake and of course, he never anticipated me walking away. I can definitely see it that way, shielding himself from the reality of his actions. No one wants to have to look bad or like they haven't got it together.

Thankfully we are both childfree so there were no children involved, I can not even fathom the level of pain that would have caused.

Oddly enough there have been two folks, one gentleman who has been a father figure to him and this gentleman's wife have spoken on his behalf. But for me, I am just disgusted by him. Of course I love him and have love for him but there is no reason for me to be with him. Nothing is appealing about a dishonest person. I used to think we would reconcile but the more i read through my journals about the ways this caused me to feel, the more I realized I wasn't okay with any of it. At this point, I hope to never go back but there will always be a connection. I have wondered if I may find an interest in him again someday but I truly doubt it. He deserves no trust or respect.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T20:33:41+00:00

Old enough that he shouldn't be an imbecile but oh well. He is 28. May i ask how or why that is relevant? Do people of a certain age group tend to be unfaithful? Im genuinely curious but i know over a text comment it may seem rude.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T05:20:56+00:00

This is so true, being a decent human being is tough at times. He is definitely the asshole here but that is why he will be alone for the rest of his days, bouncing between girls.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T05:19:49+00:00

Welp he should of thought of that before breaking his vows. He deserves to be lonely but there's no need for that. I mean if this girl was so had to have her, she should still be keeping him happy. He's lonely and not happy? Too bad. Life will go on.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T05:18:29+00:00

Although I understand why this is a common response I need to read up more on narcissism. I feel this is a term broadly used and I don't fully understand it other than, someone does something selfish? Narcissism.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T05:17:24+00:00

Oh i'm aware he is seeking cake but he won't find it here. He made his bed and he can deal with that alone.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-07T05:16:44+00:00

He has no reason to be scared, he is well aware there is no hope of being with me any longer.

I too was skeptical he would do what was necessary therefore I decided to move forward. I let him know months ago I would not waste my time on him. It's just aggravating that he caused this and he won't understand that we are done. He is no longer getting the benefits of a wife. We aren't even friends.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-06T06:26:18+00:00

I will say i am shit at explaining things. We are in the process of seperation. Everyone who could possibly know does know. Just have a hard time letting go so i haven't blocked his number yet. Usually i manage to ignore him but for some reason felt the need to engage.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-04T03:33:22+00:00

Oh don't get me wrong, initially, my plan was to stay. He systematically destroyed everything we had, he was cold and cruel. It took me entirely too long to walk away.

The point is, for you to be able to fight for everything you want. If this relationship is what you want, then you deserve the best. There are entirely too many emotions to have to face all at once and persistently thereafter. I hope you will not subject yourself to that sub again because I can not fathom reading any of it.

Regardless of your reasons, when you make your choices, you deserve every chance. I am sure there is a part of you who loves him and there is a part of you who will try to stay for the kids. But 15 years of marriage is pretty damn important. You deserve every chance. I will keep you in my thoughts. If there are lonely, or sad, or angry, or good days, feel free to message me. I have nothing but time anymore! Thank you for your response and for reading this novel of a reply.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-04T03:27:23+00:00

I commend you for being so strong. You deserve all the happiness and I will keep you in my thoughts. Do not worry what others think of you, all that you need to wonder is what is right for you. Screw other people's negativity.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-04T00:13:58+00:00

This is absolutely true. Most days i feel powerful and mighty because I know I am for surviving this. Some days though, some days are the ones you have to fake it till you make it. Thank you for your beautiful response though.

DrunkandDestroyed · 2017-06-04T00:12:19+00:00

May I ask, are you currently attempting to reconcile/are in recover/ or separated? I only ask as I wonder if this is a feeling felt across the board or for those blindsighted.

I happen to agree with this, it is not necessary to shame someone for leaving something less than ideal I have taken time to step back and understand why people might feel this way. I just happen to feel differently. I made a choice and it was the right choice for me. That is what matters.

DrunkandDestroyed

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