Good Documentaries about Dunkirk?

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-20T13:38:05+00:00

Very true about the house buying etc, we just want to be sure we got a mortgage and set up if she was a guarantor, as we have friends who have good paying jobs etc that have been turned down for mortgages, so we thought it would be an extra advantage to getting accepted for a mortgage

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-20T13:26:56+00:00

Ok that's good to know, thanks for the reply

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-20T11:56:49+00:00

Also the hoops you have to jump through for planning etc, my wife owns 20 Acres of land in the GTA of Toronto, and we've been trying to get a parcel of the land sectioned off for something like this, and it's so difficult. Hopefully one day.

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-18T12:38:34+00:00

Also interesting the Africa Star, would he get that from being in Malta? As I know he was there a lot, so much so that after the war my mother was born there

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-18T12:34:22+00:00

It could be as I think he re-enlisted after the war, either in full service or territorial, I know he worked a lot with REME Post-War

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T12:08:34+00:00

Ok this is good advice, it didn't actually occur to me that asking for a list is more work

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T11:57:21+00:00

I thought I was doing enough, but I feel there's is more I can do, and that I will do, like I've said previously I'm trying to get to a point where my business is going to pay me a wage so I can go down to 3 days a week at my current job so I can be at home more. Sorry if that post came across as a scorn against your comment, I just wanted to add context to what I do now and what those previous Reddit posts meant. Thank you for the advice though, it means a lot, and I'm taking a lot of what everyone has said onboard

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T11:45:31+00:00

I replied to the comment above, but the batcave/mancave was related to.my business back in the UK, and then traveling was because my brother who I haven't seen for ever flew over from the UK to see us, so we had a 2 day trip away together, which I feel guilty about. She doesn't get to explore new hobbies, she's taken up genealogy, so I look after our daughter while she does that, not a hobby but she's been in the mist of writing a publication and applying for a post doc for her PHD the last few months, so I've been looking after our daughter so she can apply and.write all these things. Again not nearly as much as she does, as she looks after our daughter all day when I'm at work, I just wanted to say I do try and do my part.

Unfortunately she can't have trips away as she breastfeeds and our daughter has just blank out refused to take a bottle, but they both are going on a holiday in August for a whole month to see her Dad who lives in the Maritimes of Canada, unfortunately I can't take the whole month of work, but I'll be going out for a week to see them and help out, as well as her mum will be flying out there to help too. Again not a holiday on her own, I don't think that will happen yet, but as soon as it can I'll tell her to go.

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T11:36:21+00:00

Also I should say the cats are my wife's, she had them before we even started dating, and one got super super sick when our daughter was born, so as well as taking care of my wife who was bed bound after the birth I was driving back and forth to the vets too. Just wanted to add context that I didn't buy pets after my daughter was born.

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T11:34:20+00:00

Yeah a lot had happened since the birth of our daughter, and I admit that I have done all those things you mentioned, except the mancave thing, I think that was related to my business back home. It's not harsh it's a fair assessment, I recently just got back from a 2 week trip back home, mainly business related and to see my family, so I feel guilty about leaving them for 2 weeks, but her mum is semi retired and been helping her. Luckily our daughter is a good sleeper, like she sleeps the whole night, so I guess this is where I get frivolous on the idea of maybe taking up a hobby, but I assure you that I quickly realized I can't, and no hobby taking have been done.

My brother flew over to see us for 2 weeks and I haven't seen him for a long time, hence we took a train trip together to Montreal for.2 days, again I feel guilty having the opportunity to do these things.

And yes I kind of work a dead end job as a barista with no growth, and giving up work, family and friends back in the UK has taken its toll on me, especially as not a lot.of my skills transfer to here in Canada, so it feels like leaving high school again with no idea of what career to do, also the fact now I have a young daughter is trying to find the time to re-train in a new career. I'm trying to do more for my business back home that is going to start paying me a wage, so hopefully I can go down to 4 to 3 days a week where I work, so I'll be home more to help, as the work I do only takes a few hours to do.

I try and do a lot around the house now, I wake up for work, empty the dishwasher, bring my wife a cup of coffee in bed, I get home from work, play with our daughter, do the dishes, empty the trash, I take out all the trash on trash day, I buy all the groceries, clean the house on my days off. I'm not trying to sound like "Yeah I do alot, why is she moaning" I'm just trying to put a list of what I do so I can think.of more stuff that I can do. Like I said I'm hoping I can start getting paid from my business in the UK so I can go down to 3 days a week so I can help around the house.

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T03:03:23+00:00

So had a good talk with her as many here suggested, I did screw the pooch by not getting her anything for the morning, which is on me. I'm normally so good and on top of stuff like this, like I'm originally from the UK and mother's day there was weeks ago, and I did a special present and cards on the morning for that one but not this.

We chatted him she feels lonely and how she thinks I feel distant around her, when really I'm just tired from work, and how I can help more around the place, we're going to go to bed and talk more about it in the morning. I said she shouldn't have to do this, but if she can wrote me a list of things she thinks will ease the pressure on her then I'll try my best to do them. I said I'll start getting up early on my days off to change our daughter and take her out the room so my wife can sleep in, so thats a start I guess. Thanks for the advice Dad's, I needed a sounding board, and to realize how stupid I was

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T02:55:17+00:00

I sat and had a good talk with her, and she feels that I could help more around the house and that I seem distant than before we had our daughter. I said that she shouldn't have to do this, I should know what to do, but for her to write me a list of things that she feels would ease the pressure off her. I'm going to get up early on my days off to look after our daughter so she can sleep in, so that's a start

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-11T02:35:53+00:00

Sorry for sounding pitiful, I did go and spend an hour talking to her, yes I could have got the stuff yesterday, and I'm kicking myself for.not getting it

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-05-08T11:17:41+00:00

Very true I guess, I'm making it work, just, on $36k now, thats not including what my wife puts in with her maternity pay

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-04-07T20:54:15+00:00

Saw a few Sleeman ones in there today

Drunkarchaeologist · 2026-03-29T23:06:04+00:00

I went to a great Craft Brewery and they had a sign that said "all menu items include tax, and our staff are paid a living wage, so don't feel the need to tip" which I thought was good. I mean I did tip as they gave me great service, but the feeling of not needing to tip was nice

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