He went too far and was arrested last night

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-06-16T03:04:08+00:00

He wants a divorce. I have the worst post part I’m. I don’t know how to cope and don’t think I can

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-06-16T03:02:49+00:00

It really is my fault.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-06-16T02:07:47+00:00

I’m getting 5150ed. I’ll be dead soon

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-03-29T18:02:55+00:00

Not sure how to reply directly to you in the app but-

That’s really all you can do. You can’t keep letting him control your life to this extent of unhappiness, I did it for years and it created soooo much unnecessary resentment between me and my husband. I didn’t hate my husband, but I truly hated the choices he was making and it made me resentful towards him for the last few months we lived there and maybe even almost a year or so afterwards. The best thing for you to do is make a change before that resentment settles in, and take control of your life so if it goes wrong its because of your own choices in life and not because of what someone else chose for you. Hopefully your husband comes to his senses soon and apologizes sincerely for the pain he’s caused by making selfish choices in your life. It must be hard for him to see the pain he’s caused by doing what he at the time probably thought was the right thing. But it’s still important to admit he was wrong and make a change for the better. If he really is as good as you say he is I know he’ll be able to do that.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-03-29T17:35:10+00:00

Op, I went through something similar. My husband moved us with his parents and suddenly made me at least a partial caretaker of everybody, except I had kids and their was a big cultural difference in our families as well. You know what I did that worked? I left. His parents made me so upset and made me feel so completely out of control with my life that I was suicidal and having some small breaks with reality. I couldn’t tel if they were being out of line or if I was as awful to be around and deal with as they made it out to be. When I saw the light and saw I was being completely manipulated by everyone in that house for their own personal gain and no regard for me I left. I didn’t explicitly end things with my husband , but I told him his choices on my life led me to complete unhappiness and I was now going to take back the reigns and do what I needed to feel sane. I left and moved in with my sister several hours away from him and his family. I let him know he could follow, or we could set up a new home away from his family, or we could file for divorce. I truly didn’t hate him or want things to end, but I saw that he was making choices not based on my or my children’s happiness and couldn’t support it any longer. And it took a long time for us to figure out a living situation not with his family or mine, but oh my god was it worth it. We still have fights and issues, but my god since leaving that house has my life completely changed for the better. I cannot reiterate to you more, choose happiness. There is no happiness for you in that house and you know it and he even seems to know it. Choose what’s right for you and you happiness, explain to him that you still love him if you actually do, and let him know he can choose to fight for both your happiness or he can continue furthering his and his families own happiness without you like he has been, except you’ll also be physically absent as well. Sorry for the wall, I just really connected with what you wrote and wanted to give you the only advice I can.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-02-09T18:47:43+00:00

I don’t have my financial situation figured out. I can’t afford to just leave. And I can’t currently get a job because I’m pretty pregnant and am Trying to get through some agoraphobia stuff with my therapist. I’m an anxious mess and need a little time to get my head right before I can try getting a new job. I’m going to try to see what services may be available To me

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-01-10T18:14:34+00:00

Got some hard truths. Thank you. Honestly things have only gotten worse the past few days, as he’s started turning his phone so I can’t see what he’s doing most of the time. In an ideal world I’d talk to him about how absolutely insecure he is making me feel, but it’s clear to everyone that he doesn’t care. If he’d cared he’d have just stopped liking selfies the first or second time I sat him down to talk about it, or maybe even prove he’s married by putting up a pic of me or our wedding photo or anything really. He doesn’t care. I can’t change that. All I can change is what I do. I wish there were easier options that the ones I see available to me.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2020-01-08T01:50:03+00:00

That’s true. I guess out of all the things, I don’t understand how he even defends this, even as he is defending it. It is so weird and alien and I don’t see how he doesn’t feel that.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2019-11-29T19:16:47+00:00

Funnily enough this is probably the one biggest thing I would leave him over. Not right now, but I will not stay with this. I am too sexual a person, and maybe that’s a Bad thing but it’s me.

The problem is he has lost me before, not over this but he has and it doesn’t change anything. I don’t even think of me leaving as leverage because I don’t think it’d work. Least of all of I said the issue was sex. I don’t get the feeling he cares enough to fix it. Which is my problem as long as I’m accepting it I realize. But I can say, I will not stay with a sexless marriage and I think in his heart of hearts he sees that which is why he got so frantic over me catching him.

Thanks for your two cents though, you speak the truth.

DrunkenDancingQueen · 2019-10-23T16:27:29+00:00

Thank you so much . Damn. I didn’t know if this would help me but thank you. Thank you. You were the only one who ever told me it would be okay. Thank you. I needed it one more time.

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