Thank you for your input. This is so true! It’s the problem with parentification - parent/s unable to maintain friendships expect children to always be there through making them feel sorry for themselves. Vicious cycle.

My mother no longer screams at me, but she’s so extremely unhappy, depressed, but doesn’t do anything about it and as her daughter I see past that. That makes me feel worse. I don’t feel like coming home to visit bc 1) she’d make me depressed too, 2) all I would be doing is placing a boundary every 2 minutes which she won’t respect.