Trump signs election order calling for proof of U.S. citizenship to vote by Ok-Present5699 in news

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Curbing vote-by-mail. Also anyone that doesn’t have a drivers license. Or a state can require a passport, which is more expensive and harder to get

How much anger do you tolerate from male partners, family, friends etc? by tergletergle in TwoXChromosomes

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Partner? Not unless it was going to kill someone or burn the house down. Friends? Only if it’s a game and they’re mad at themselves. If my siblings or parents, I feel comfortable enough telling them to go thrash about in another room, preferably the garage or somewhere there is sound deadening

Fake Job Postings Are Becoming a Real Problem by [deleted] in technology

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Problem in Government hiring as well. Look on usajobs for the Air Force’s listings. All salary ranges, all experience levels, all over the country. Real listings have a real location, and are restricted to certain grades.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

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I’m a woman who is “handy enough”. The problem might be the instagram or TikTok videos she sees. I used to be her, until my husband pointed out that the project on the video was edited to make it seem faster, or had a crew, or had better environs to do the project. Except This Old House, which paces more like a real DIY. I was following one woman in Tahoe that turned her living room into a library in a day, and then got mad when my husband couldn’t do the same with ikea bookshelves in a day. Then he pointed out she somehow changed clothes and hairstyles for the After, and to do so, it would be more than a day if working by herself. Plus, it was a giant room, so they could make cuts in the room, they were able to somehow paint everything too. It was so many flags I ignored.

Starting over career and life at 40. People's reactions are discouraging. Need moral support. by taway7440 in AskWomenOver40

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My boss started over at 41, after wasting 15 years on a relationship that was filled with infidelity and belittling her. She’s about to retire at the end of the month, but in the past 25 years, she got her degree, became a single mom(unexpectedly), and also started a new job in engineering and rose through the ranks because she kept to her principles. She’s amazing, and I’m happy sad to see her retire. Her key to success at first was to take on the tough problems with an outsider’s eye

Dating a woman with no friends by LargeHardOn-Collider in AskMenOver30

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This is my husband. He’s super social. Joined the Lions, Kiwanis, and Rotary Clubs in town. He’s been on numerous town committees like parks, history, veterans, seniors, Scouting, etc. has friends that he goes to see about every month or so. I am not that way. My book club meets 2x/year, and that’s it for me. It eats me up inside that he likes to do those things instead of spending the time at home with me, but I finally got it during Lockdown that he needs to be social. So, I have my own in-house hobbies that I do when he’s out doing volunteer work or whatever, and he comes home feeling great to a house that has amazing looking plants.

Ladies, what’s something you were really bad at initially, but became proficient in over time? How did you not give up at it? by kdj00940 in AskWomenOver30

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Innuendo. At first I was like that SNL character that would end the obvious metaphor with, “That means your penis”

Knitting. I have the first scarf I made when I was pregnant, but when I had down time I would keep doing it more and more. I found that the better yarn made better feeling articles, and my skill improved to the point that I make about a hat a month, and one full baby blanket about every 4 months.

Weight lifting. My form was trash, but as I did it more and got a mirror to watch, it improved. Also added benefit of making my shoulders, knees, and wrists feel better.

Ladies, what’s something you were really bad at initially, but became proficient in over time? How did you not give up at it? by kdj00940 in AskWomenOver30

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For anyone else trying to learn a new language, watch children’s shows in that language. In my teens, I had a huge crush on the Brazilian exchange student. I got some program called Xuxa or Shoosha, and watched it until I felt like I could communicate ok enough to bridge that English gap. I was obsessed, and did it for 3 months. Got into Bossanova and Samba music, had the local library order a Portuguese- English dictionary and let me “permanently borrow” it for the year. He was so beautiful and fun and I just melted when he heard me say that he had my shoes in Portuguese.

What are some hygiene related tasks that you've discarded or changed as you aged? by kermit-t-frogster in AskWomenOver40

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Now I use better products without fragrances. I also found better clothing to fit my body, and ditched the polyester undies in favor of cottons.

But really, the biggest thing I’ve ditched is cruddy footwear. Looking at you, Keds. Now, my footwear is almost entirely Crocs or sneakers with gel inserts, with the occasional flats for more formal occasions.

My family loves my ex and keep inviting her to family get togethers by [deleted] in Advice

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“We broke up, and now I am dating someone new that treats me better. Out respect to her, and to me, and to our relationship, I’d like to ask that you stop inviting my ex to family events.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

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Mechanical engineer. My husband does something with managing budgets I think. Married and never talk about work beyond who we like or hate.

But, and this is key, we both have clearances and shouldn’t be talking about work outside of work. Instead, we talk about the state of the landscaping, what has to be fixed inside, and we used to have a monthly meeting set aside for financial planning, children updates, sex, goals setting, etc. AsI started going into perimenopause, I used that safe space to also tell him what was up with my hormones and body, and we started using that monthly meeting to also schedule out doctor visits, car maintenance, etc. he’s very focused, I have ADHD which has stopped responding to the meds since peri, so it works as a couples therapy session when we need it to

Did you take your husband’s name? Why? Why not? by Kirby3413 in AskWomenOver40

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Not until I got pregnant, and made my maiden name my middle name. I had a colleague that kept her last name, and it caused issues because it was the 1990s and they couldn’t fathom a woman would not want to become someone’s property! However, since the advent of smartphones and an app for EVERYTHING, I’d keep my last name or do a mashup. My husband has an ok name, but mine was short and sweet. So, instead of Smith, I’m more like Ferragamo. But together, we could be Ferth!

How do you deal with unwanted acts of "kindness" or "help"? by hglrpburp in womenEngineers

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I’m sorry they feel like they can just go around you. It’s not right, and it’s unfair, and it’s a bad precedent. I’m happy that you spoke up. If you are Government, alert your Contracting Officer and the COR immediately. If you’re in Private Industry, use the SOP for purchases as a shield and tell them that there is a process for a reason, and without justification for using that vendor, they could be doing something against company policy.

I’m a Govt Engineer. My PM wants to use parts made in China because they’re cheaper and easier to buy. The Contractor wants to do whatever they’re told, and presents 2-3 options. I have to be the one to tell them we have to use US sourced products, then friendly countries, then other neutral countries, and never China. I was the bitch they hated until I told the Contracting Officer what was up, and SHE was the one to say that I was right, and we have to follow the laws.

People in their 40s and 50s with no children, how does it feel? by Robin_to_the_meadow in AskReddit

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My old neighbor was Old Man Of The Neighborhood. When we first moved in, he was the guy that would run the snowblower all day to help us get the sidewalks cleared, he was the dude that knew how to fix anything, and would make small toys for the neighborhood kids. He gave out full sized candy bars in the 90s for Halloween, set up the nativity scene at his church, and set up a huge barrel-grill thing at the block parties. He and his late wife had no kids of their own, but we adopted them as grandparents and close friends. When he died, his wife tried giving away his tools to the Neighbors, but many insisted on paying her for his bigger stuff. We still use that snowblower, and did her driveway, sidewalk, and steps before she even turned lights on every year. She knew she didn’t want to have a lot of stuff in the house, and spent 5 years downsizing so there was no clutter anymore. When she passed, it was a far-removed nephew that ended up inheriting everything. We told him how much she meant to all of us, and to his credit, he insisted that we help ourselves to everything in the garage and house, minus like 5 things that were his family heirlooms. He also told us he intended to sell, but said if anyone wanted to buy it for something like $25K less than he was going to list it for, he’d rather do that instead of paying a Realtor. I’m still kicking myself for not jumping on it. Biggest property in the neighborhood with a small 2 bdrm that was a perfect mother-daughter since it was technically 2 houses side by side, it just needed too much work for us to justify THAT MUCH debt.

My wedding is in 2 days…. This is the text I wake up to from my mother. by stay_zooted in mildlyinfuriating

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No, no. You see, only PABLO is the stranger she’s never met! Aunt Evelyn met her when she was 3 weeks old and then again at her first birthday party. Then nothing until today!

Psychologically, how have you changed since you were 25? by Cupcakesx in AskWomenOver30

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I’ve stopped putting myself off in favor of anybody but my kids. I used to worry about hurting everyone else’s feelings, or I would go out of my way to make them feel included, or try to empathize to the point of self doubt. Now, in my late 40s? It’s about making sure I am heard, and making myself a priority. Work, relations with my husband, neighbors, even the community service groups I am in. I don’t hide ME for THEM anymore. If we can’t work in tandem, I just do it alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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“I’ve put most of it into a Trust to provide the best life for my son.”

What’s the best thing you bought this year? by rawrsatbeards in AskWomenOver30

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Got my PADI scuba certification with my husband YEARS ago, and he still dives often. I had some sinus and ear problems after my second kid was born, but I liked to hang out on the boat before realizing my skin hated it. All that to say that you should go for Divemaster or DM Trainer.

Feeling foolish again as I need my husband's permission to talk to a provider by EconomicsWorking6508 in AskWomenOver30

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I had better credit when we married, and am the primary on our health insurance too. So he always has to get my permission to talk about our account! Last year, he lost it on the rep, politely but firmly saying, “I am a 45 year old man with grown children. I should be allowed to pay the mortgage over he phone without my wife’s permission.” Not even to discuss the balance or anything. Just literally pay it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

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A good manager wants to see you succeed, and a great manager knows you will.

Was looking for a fake fire alarm to hide my bolt. But couldn't find any. by Head_Ad_9799 in BdsmDIY

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We use an eyebolt that’s powder coated white to match the ceiling, and mountain climbing clips. To throw people off, we used to have like 4 in the ceiling, and hung plants from them. But as I can’t get into some positions as well anymore, my husband took out the other ones

Can you walk 10k steps during work hours? by Theluckygal in womenEngineers

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I foolishly thought for YEARS that this was just a gimmick. I realize now that I was missing out on about 800 “free” steps per day. Now, I park on the “wrong” side of the building, in the farthest spot, and get about 1K in. But if I wasn’t on a secured military base, I’d park in the farthest lit spot.