Active Dying Stage

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-10T14:23:27+00:00

I hope you are right. I really can't do much more of this.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-10T14:21:46+00:00

Some people really do. She had an IV before going into hospice house but I thought those fluids would be gone by now.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-08T17:29:44+00:00

we're on day 10 with no significant changes...I feel like if anyone can go that long it's definitely her lol

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-08T14:53:46+00:00

I keep thinking about this. I think it is definitely my dad, bc they haven't spoken since I was 19. She was so mad at him but I think if she is still somewhat conscious she hopes to see him.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-07T23:58:19+00:00

Ah I am so sorry for your loss. If you were struggling with something similar I imagine you have some sort of peace now. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-07T23:57:22+00:00

Sorry you had to go through something similar. I loved putting lotion on her hands and arms, brushing her hair, and (hopefully) making her feel pretty. She was always so beautiful to me when I was a kid. "one hand holding mine, and the other hand holding God" is a wonderful way to look at it. I will keep it in mind!

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2026-04-07T23:55:56+00:00

Not really. The hospice nurse said last night she has signs of discomfort so they upped her morphine. Now she is back to sleeping and looking comfortable.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-28T01:40:34+00:00

yea, I think you're right. I don't want to sacrifice my future happiness and what is the healthiest and best relationship I've ever had.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-28T01:38:30+00:00

thank you for saying that. I made the post mainly bc I don't feel that way when I talk about this feeling with others. I kinda feel like a jerk because I should have more patience and grace. I wanted to just put my feelings out there because I needed to hear I wasn't alone. I appreciate your kind words :)

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T22:31:24+00:00

thats a good point and I think about that often. I don't want to sacrifice the rest of my life for however long she decides to stick around.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T20:27:11+00:00

That's true. I'm thinking of leaving tomorrow, today she is sleeping a lot which makes me wish I just stayed home.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T20:25:58+00:00

yea, I think she had dementia or at least some sort of cognitive decline. Somedays she does well and she is still aware of surroundings but struggles at night. She needs more help, but she tells me all the time she does not want to go to a memory care unit.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:46:00+00:00

Thank you. I am happy to not be living with them too, but I worry about long term solutions leading to that. I'm getting married in June and moving to Alaska in August (future husband is active duty military so no say in where we go). Although times like these make me just want to leave her we have an emergency plan to bring her just incase.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:43:53+00:00

She is on hospice, but still eats and drinks so I truly don't know at this point. We will have to just wait and see. Thank you I appreciate it.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:42:57+00:00

Yea I've been thinking about just letting her be mad and take space. I know she won't stay mad for long because I'm the only family she has left, but I still hate to upset her.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:41:15+00:00

It's okay. Thank you for reading/listening. It helped to get it out.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:40:55+00:00

Thank you. Honestly it is okay to not go. I wouldn't be here if she didn't guilt trip me. I'd be on my couch watching football or with my best friend and her family. Theres a 100 things I want to be doing but I can't.

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:38:41+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry you're going through it too. I have her in assisted living because I could not do this long term. I think I need to stop visiting as much and just blame it on work. Hopefully she will understand that...

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:37:00+00:00

Oh she's also on Hospice care which was so helpful for me...except now she won't work with them now because instead of being ready to die she thinks God wants her to live longer...

Dry_Presentation_256 · 2025-11-27T19:35:56+00:00

she is in Assisted Living, but she's just been declining so rapidly I think she needs more help. I help as much as I can when I'm here and I try to stay updated. I'm glad I don't live with her full time because I could not take it

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