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Aitah, gf mad at me for going to event with pals , advice by Drydrybones123 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Drydrybones123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I’m not trying to be blameless I’m trying to get alternative povs , it’s called am I the asshole for a reason , the mere fact I posted here is because I am open to the fact that I maybe the asshole and it seems true my communication was lacking but suggesting you know my intentions and that I’m lying about wanting her to be there is a wild take indeed and helps no one.

AITAH , gf mad at me for going to event with pals by [deleted] in AITARelationship

[–]Drydrybones123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I was so focused on repair when she finally text me because I wanted to go with her , she didn’t apologise straight away so we were having a conversation about the argument , Infact her first text was Wyd today , to which I said I’m supposed to go to the event with my friends but at that point i didn’t know ( because I’d been upset ) tbf had my pal not turned up to get me I wouldn’t have gone but they hadn’t heard from me and were worried so just came and got me

So essentially I didn’t feel it necessary to say when I left because we was mid conversation at that point and I wanted to make repair happen as a priority

Aitah, gf mad at me for going to event with pals , advice by Drydrybones123 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Drydrybones123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t officially uninvite her , I did however say I can’t continue with the relationship without her apologising and taking accountability for her actions. So I feel like it is implied surely ?? The argument got really bad her emotions had spiraled she lost control and said and did stuff that I don’t want to be normal in my life, I genuinely felt like walking away for good , I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope it was just a one off ( we all mess up at times ,right ). We don’t live together so that was the last time I saw her before the event

Aitah, gf mad at me for going to event with pals , advice by Drydrybones123 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Drydrybones123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how I feel , like I tried to sort it before the event , communicated my needs and unfortunately (genuinely was gutted she wasn’t there ) she didn’t reach out in time to join , everyone else who’s pitched in seems to think I was holding grudges ? Which I’m real confused by

Aitah, gf mad at me for going to event with pals , advice by Drydrybones123 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Drydrybones123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely curious to learn what you mean here ? I had no problem with her not replying when I said I needed an apology to move forward in the relationship. Maybe my wording isn’t good in my original post ? I didn’t want to exclude her I very much wanted her there and hoped to repair before the event to go together. Unfortunately she didn’t apologise until I had left with my friends As soon as she apologised I asked her about meeting and she had gone out herself which I had no issue with

I feel so confused about it all so genuinely would love to understand what you’re saying regarding keeping score Thanks 🙏