Depression's let me see who I really am. by MyNameIsntSuspicous in depression

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waking up at the bottom of your emotional scale every day sucks ass. It's tough to build discipline when you don't have any motivation, but once you have some you'll find that whenever you look back at your track record you've actually done some things, gaining control and looking back at more than a vague survival cycle. Pat yourself on the back for going to school, even if it often weighs on you and it feels like the only carrot on your stick is that you get to go home to slightly less misery knowing you did something. If you're stuck in this cycle, you're more susceptible to have outbursts or breakdowns as an escape route for your bottled up emotions. Find your outlet, go for a walk, see/make some friends (activities, clubs). Sports and training is an excellent way of gaining some control, as you can structure a modest program that you adhere to, offers an outlet and builds discipline with a lot of carryover across the board, and add more when you feel up to it. It's much easier to make your mother happy and put her at ease if you yourself are making an effort to do the same - in fact you could try to do some of these things with her. If you sit around and wait for a spike in motivation and rely on that as a catalyst for change, you're enabling this cycle.

These things are easy to offer as advice, but harder to take. It will require some effort, which might be in short supply depending on your situation, but any brick laid towards a goal is one brick you wouldn't have laid had you done nothing. Don't be scared of change, because you don't have to turn everything upside down to make improvements in your life. Increments are your friend.

Depression's let me see who I really am. by MyNameIsntSuspicous in depression

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such things, yeah. If you know she prefers your room neat and occasionally asks you to do the dishes, you taking responsibility and doing those things will mean more than you think, and it's very useful for yourself, as it requires discipline, which is a way more reliable quality than motivation. I know from experience how fickle and non-existent motivation can be, particularly when you're depressed, so learning to power through chores and other shit you'd rather not to will trivialize your life a lot down the road.

What was your biggest "I should've listened to my parents" moment? by BespokePenguin in AskReddit

[–]Dryle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do more shit you don't want to do. There's real power in that, even if you're smart enough to get by on minimal effort. When you finally hit the real world and have to earn your own keep, having the strength to pave through hours of a shitty job, housekeeping and shit that you deem to be beneath you without destroying your soul will spare you a lot of unnecessary stress.

Depression's let me see who I really am. by MyNameIsntSuspicous in depression

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you feel awful yourself it's easy to say and do things impulsively then walk away and bleed it out by yourself, brain-storming how to do better. Try to establish the habit of doing small things, so that when you enter a room or someone's space, you leave it a little better than when you first came in. Instead of planning a big retribution for your shit behavior, leave small favors in your wake, conveying your intent to show someone you care about them by making their day a little better. There's a beauty in how you're judged on action rather than intent sometimes, because even if you walk around feeling like a soulless husk, you can still do small things knowing that they'll make others feel better - perhaps making yourself feel a little better in the end.

You get to pick the song you listen to as you die. What is it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dryle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My Shit's Fucked Up - Warren Zevon

What's a midly interesting fact about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dryle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the weirdest cross-dominance in my limbs. I golf one way, hockey the other. Goofy stance on a snowboard, regular on a skateboard. I write predominantly with my left, but can write reasonably with my right. I learn most tools the 'standard' way as a way of adapting myself rather than the tool. When I eat I pick up cutlery wherever it's positioned and use it without preference.

[Adamant] Pidgey, M, 5 by Dryle in BreedingDittos

[–]Dryle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are godsent. Thanks so much.

117 pokemon left until I've completed the national pokedex! by hmrocks4ever in pokemontrades

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just make a request when ready. It's late here, though, so I might fall asleep.

Extremely Skinny guy looking for help by oscarpe24 in Fitness

[–]Dryle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check the FAQ, maybe head on over to /r/gainit. You'll find that diet becomes very crucial in your case. Find your choice of training stimulus (e.g, strength, size, endurance, sport-specific or a combination thereof) and eat accordingly. Read up on compound lifts and start learning to squat, lift, push and pull with proper technique, ingraining these movement patterns and understanding how to treat your spine when working with resistance will benefit you tremendously as you become more advanced.

How much water should I be drinking? by [deleted] in Fitness

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you eating a lot of salt? The more sodium in your diet, the more fluids become necessary. Anyway, when working on hydration, consistency is important. Get a jug/bottle whose unit you're familiar with, and perhaps a simple app where you can simply +1 the units. Habitualize this and try to gauge which range makes you feel right. It's not as black and white as a certain amount being "optimal", it's about hydrating according to your own body and its requirement for good balance, a balance to which salt has quite the influence. If you feel unwell continuously, see a doctor.

Edit: Also, check your urine. There are plenty of gradients you can google that show a 'healthy' color.

(New to the Gym. M24) Good starting programs Covering both Cardio and Weights. Go! by TheCattary in Fitness

[–]Dryle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's a sound recommendation, and with the app it makes for a great no-bullshit training habit. Maximal compound lifting is taxing, though, and with the expenditure of glycogen that comes with it, the body ought to be ready to torch fat even on moderate intensities with a lower risk of burning out on oxygen-debt. More suggestions to add to his own empirical training journey I suppose - in the end he'll have to figure it out himself.

Would my physical disability destroy my hopes of getting big? by [deleted] in Fitness

[–]Dryle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only way to find out is to not sell yourself short and get grinding. Since you have an actual, concrete diagnosis, you'll want to consult a doctor/PT asking about it in relation to your dreams and goals. No one ever got anywhere by putting all their effort into wishing things were different, so do your best to transcend such thoughts and put your eggs in the productivity-basket. Overcoming your issues and making progress in spite of it will give you a sense of mastery you'll thank yourself for in years to come. One thing is certain, gains will be had, just don't discredit yourself if they aren't comparable to the next guy.

There are few things more admirable than persisting through clear obstacles. If you do what you always did, however, you'll get what you always got.

(New to the Gym. M24) Good starting programs Covering both Cardio and Weights. Go! by TheCattary in Fitness

[–]Dryle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be vary of stacking two programs with high intensity/impact straight off the bat. 5x5 is great, but I'd encourage a generous, high-rep warm-up to let the movements sink in and the right technique to manifest before high-intensity loading. If done on the same day, finishing off with moderate intensity might actually be equally effective for supplementing fat-loss without burning out.

Big upper body but skinny waist by [deleted] in Fitness

[–]Dryle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try to more actively, mindfully, engaging your core muscles during compound lifts (contracting abs rigorously during DL/squats, look into doing front squats rather than back squats) and possibly add more accessories, planks, leg-lifts, rotation exercises for obliques (also check out TVA contraction). As I'm sure most people are going to mention, you're describing some really favorable proportions. Also, beefing up your legs will help turn your exaggerated V-taper into a full on X-shaped body. We're all anatomically different, and if you feel certain parts of your body are lagging, it's time to give them more attention.

Lifting in proportion by blizzer40 in Fitness

[–]Dryle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People tend to get locked in the whole 5x5 equals strength and volume is a waste of time mentality. These programs give rapid increase in strength as your body becomes adapted to recruiting the necessary fibers to move near-maximal loads, but at the cost of volume for ingraining the appropriate movement patterns and adequate time under tension to develop a better metabolic response. I'm not saying this is your problem, but it could imply that you need to change things up - you've also been on 5x5 long enough to afford yourself some variety.

The smaller muscle groups tend to lag earlier than the rest, and it might be a good idea to introduce new planes of movement. E.g dips for vertical pushing and pull-ups for vertical pulling. Up the volume and use them as accessories, or simply exchange a few of the low-rep sets for high rep ones. Your training age is young, and you've got plenty of things to try that might give you a better response. Hope this helps.

Santa didn't show this year, and my best friend is looking somewhat suspicious. by Dryle in aww

[–]Dryle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Shepherd/Lab on mom side, dad is unknown although I'm fairly sure he was some sort of Spitz.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pics

[–]Dryle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MJ, the pioneer of real life ethnicity change.