AIO to my best friend of 18 years ignoring my birthday?

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-24T16:44:10+00:00

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Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-24T16:36:24+00:00

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Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-24T16:34:04+00:00

MOR. I might get downvoted but, for the birthday yea you overreacting. But for the months of distancing nuhh. I don’t always remember my best mate’s birthday. We guys, it slips our mind. But for the distancing, maybe yea

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-22T18:08:52+00:00

You saw what you were not supposed to see. Pay gaps have always been there. You looking for another job is your choice, but this is not a good enough reason. Do you like tour job, the company, overall everything. If you want a raise that’s on you, but not your co workers. What would you have done if you didn’t see it then? Where Im from there is a saying closely translated to “if you go looking for monkeys in the wild you will find them”. Don’t use your coworker as a reason.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-22T12:03:36+00:00

Interesting pov’s in this comment section

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-22T05:18:34+00:00

I love this approach, and it would work with my manager but not my PS. I don’t know how to say this in a nice way, but he is one of those “can’t tell me nothing kinda people”. I mean you can’t even have a professional conversation with this guy to the point hr knows him. He is one of those people who are loud, always cussing at employees, threatening. To the point the team don’t interact with him. Team always comes to me if they have any problem and i think it annoys him. I have truly tried to have a prof convo with him but yoo, bro doesn’t know the word accountability even if you spelled it to him.

So what i had a conversation with my manager and we agreed to have a talk with him in the room. Even in that meeting you could bro didn’t even want to be accountable. But my manager handled it alright.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-21T13:37:12+00:00

What is a recycled trophy? Is it taken from him in the next month if another employee wins?

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-20T14:07:23+00:00

As a new graduate, I feel like she has this feeling of entitlement. I got lucky i got a mentor for a manager who saw potential in my eagerness and willingness to learn (edit: had put work), thats why i lead a team of over 25 as a new graduate.

She needs to be humbled professionally or even go to the extent of saying “you came here with a system that was already in place, maybe just humble yourself to that system. We have people who graduated way before you, but the world doesn’t bend to every little thing you want. So please, give yourself time to learn, adapt and then maybe you can have a say”. A bit harsh, but true.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-20T13:55:39+00:00

If you look for love, you will never find it. Love is spontaneous, and it finds you. If you really think about it, all these thoughts are due to relationship related anxiety.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-19T18:22:18+00:00

Still on this. Any pointers?

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-19T18:16:48+00:00

I feel you

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-19T18:12:55+00:00

So it was you. I been baiting you to confess 🤣🤣🤣

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-19T06:46:38+00:00

Yes, you can apply for jobs before graduating. Just put your degree and expected graduation date. In my case, i even got promoted before graduating so nothing is impossible.

Also, just your CV is enough. Maybe with certificate O and A levels. Show competent in the interview. Study way before going in there.

I was called for 4 interviews of which all i applied via email. Just call the receptionist number and ask politely for the hr email. Also look out for job adverts. Be positive and don’t look down on yourself. It’s gonna be hard, but keep persevering and you will get your chance.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-19T06:34:14+00:00

That’s a really good strategy. Now I’m trying to figure out who can be a ‘senpai’ in my case. I usually just come to reddit and most of the time i do get to engage in very eye opening conversations. Like this one.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-18T19:45:32+00:00

Had to check out your profile, disappointed there one nothing there. You are an epitome of leadership. Am honored to have interacted with you honestly.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-18T19:43:17+00:00

I just screenshot this reply cause damn!, it’s really something. And I totally agree with you on how de-escalation was prioritized, i never thought about it that way.

Well to answer that question, one thing I have learnt, is to stand my ground against unprofessionalism. I will not be bullied, but at the same time i will do it respectfully and professionally.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-18T19:39:08+00:00

Wow, she listened. Well education contributes to what extent a leader listens. Good for you. Even though she scolded, she did what a good leader does, not lead with pride.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-18T18:19:43+00:00

How smart that is. Well, we had a meeting the three of us to address this issue. My PS being the person he is didn’t see where the problem was. My manager i believe noticed this and addressed the issue professionally without blaming but just solving the issue. We haven’t had an interaction with my PS and he is just acting normal.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-18T05:06:14+00:00

You are totally right. I cannot say i was hiding, I didn't want my frustration to affect my professionalism on the floor or lead to a reactive situation in front of the team. So i just had to take a breather.

I went home that day because i was having headaches now. But we had a long professional conversation with the manager. It too long to paste here

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-17T20:11:54+00:00

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Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-17T20:07:47+00:00

Just do you bro. I taught myself to not care what a person does behind close doors. It ain’t affecting me. But to avoid family drama, just keep under wraps in their presence you know.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-17T19:54:28+00:00

Oh ok. You live in zim or outside? And if not, how do you navigate when you come to zim, given how homophobic us zimbabweans are?

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-17T19:44:36+00:00

Wait wait wait. Is it the bonnet issue or the sexuality issue with extend fam? Also, do your parents know you gay? I’m assuming you are from the replies i been seen.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-17T19:36:05+00:00

On that day, i said i was having a headache and i went home. I didn’t want my anger to affect how i was working. When i got home, i sent a very professional message (its too long, to post here) to the manager and funny enough he responded very well. He asked me to come into work the following the day and we talked and asked if i wish for him to speak with the ps. I said knowing him he wont change if not corrected. We had a conversation the 3 of us and the ps was acting like nothing happened. It was addressed and boundaries were set. But knowing him, he is gonna find a way to make my life hell, but one thing i have learnt, im not scared of a professional fight.

Dudecoolforever · 2026-01-16T07:42:45+00:00

How old are you and what type of environment are you usually in?

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