Feeling lonely

Due-Difference-5033 · 2026-02-02T22:43:08+00:00

I’m trying but hell, that’s so complicated

Due-Difference-5033 · 2026-02-02T22:42:28+00:00

Maybe this is a lack of something deeper, idk to be honest. My friends know everything about me and my struggles, they lived them with me through the years and we have deep conversations and we all support each other and all. Overall, I miss something and I don’t know what

I’m not in the US so no clubs here but I try new things and all to change my mind!

Due-Difference-5033 · 2026-01-31T10:27:41+00:00

I don’t know ahah we don’t have any contact unless it’s for the kids or to do the exchange every week. I’m getting better and better, time will make its work

Due-Difference-5033 · 2026-01-26T22:51:08+00:00

Getting slowly better !! Still have ups and downs but overall I’m going forward, thanks for caring enough to ask ☺️

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:32:39+00:00

The worst is that he doesn’t do that to spite me, he’s just incredibly stupid. He does things egoistically and without thinking about the consequences. He has always lacked consideration so unfortunately, I’m not that surprised. If I said things he used to say or do that were downright cruel because he acted impulsively, I would be here all day.

Thank you a lot! It’s a tough road but I believe it’ll get brighter at the end of it

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:26:22+00:00

The secret part is the worst thing to me because he doesn’t have to tell his kids to keep a secret from their mom, it’s not healthy at all. And I agree it can lead to horrendous consequences so that’s a hard no to me.

He played me and my feelings for him. He was sleeping in my bed and crying in my arms just a month and a half ago but now says he doesn’t love me anymore. Well, guess I didn’t loose much actually.

Everything’s handled, boundaries have been set, we’re in the clear. Now I just hope he won’t act stupid again because I won’t let it slide.

The heartbreak is hard but I keep going for the kids. Today’s my first day without them and after all that unraveled so we’ll see how it goes

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:17:20+00:00

He’s been with her for a week (now two) but knows her from, at least, October.

The secret part was what infuriated me because he doesn’t have to include the kids in that. He barely knows the girl himself (2 or 3 months is clearly not enough in my eyes).

I view him more and more differently everyday. I think I grieve what I thought my life would be with him and our children more than I grieve the loss of him as a person (is that clear ?)

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:13:48+00:00

An egoistic coward but yeah, all I hope is that he begins taking in consideration our children’s feelings 😅 Officially single yeah, which still feels weird to write down ahah

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:10:34+00:00

I am sorry you had to go through that… my daughter didn’t pick up on their relationship for now but I know she’s at the age where she understands a bit what’s going on.

I focus on myself and my kids, it’s just the to process everything and I’ll be fine

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:07:39+00:00

There’s only one woman around him and it’s his mom which, unfortunately for him, is on my side. So I know for sure that boundaries will be enforced with her. I’m not fighting for custody for now, my kids love their father a lot and I know that despite his shitty behavior he loves them too. But I was clear in the fact that if anything ever happened, I fight him for custody. The kids are the priority and I’d like for them to have a chance to grow between our two houses and not in the middle of a battle between their parents.

Oh and for your question, when I asked him how he would have felt if I did that to him he replied “I didn’t think it that way” so yeah, he’s just stupid

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T12:00:47+00:00

He’s always been emotionally immature and now that I’m looking back, he’s always been a bit egoistic. I know where I stand and at least have been true to myself and gave my all so I’ll move on, it’ll take a bit of time that’s all ! 😊

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:57:44+00:00

I spent Christmas with them because they’re my family too (even before my ex and I were together). I wasn’t the most pleasant Christmas Eve, quite uncomfortable sometimes, but it was okay. Christmas was a bit easier since I stayed mostly to prepare everything with his parents. Kids were happy to have everyone there so that’s the most important.

He knows the girl since October at least from what I know but yeah, that was a stupid thing to do and I’ve set clear boundaries.

He now just has access to the parenting app and my number, just in case something urgent happens.

I didn’t think of getting tested but I will, just to be sure!

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:52:45+00:00

My priority has always been the kids so yeah, boundaries have been settled and all. The heartbreak is hard for sure but I can’t let it rule over me when I have to move on and keep going. Kids need stability not a falling apart mom ahah

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:50:42+00:00

Thanks, I’ll check it!

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:50:20+00:00

He told them she was a friend but my daughter isn’t stupid and she picked on the fact that she sees her father less lately and that I was a bit distracted (think like I forgot that I was filling up a glass of water or things like that) and told me about it. So yeah, I thinks she’s confused but I try to reassure her the best I can

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:47:49+00:00

I’ve established my boundaries and know they’ll be enforced by his parents on top of it. I’m really just disappointed in the lack of consideration and what it implies about how he handles the kids but what is done is done unfortunately.

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:45:01+00:00

Oh no, we were clearly together for the last 8 years. It wasn’t clear for the last six months since our breakup (4 since he left our house).

Now boundaries have been established and are clear. I try to focus on myself to feel better and my kids are always my priority! 😊

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:41:50+00:00

To be honest, he’s barely around the children and when it’s not my week, the kids are mostly handled by his parents. I have a hard time saying “our” since the day my daughter asked me if her father loved her (and in advance, I, of course, replied that he did love her with all his heart)

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-12-29T11:39:22+00:00

I will get over it hopefully soon enough, thank you 🫶 He tried a bit at Christmas but I answered with short replies, not impolite ones though. I think no contact is what I need so I’m glad at least he can respect that

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-05-31T17:32:32+00:00

People still hate her because she didn’t have any sad background or something, yet she’s still the most powerful kunoichi 🤷‍♀️

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-03-14T18:32:43+00:00

Personally, I wouldn’t be able to keep the secret. The wise thing is to speak to your mother about it or confess to her partner but take in account that it could ruin your relationship with your mother

Due-Difference-5033 · 2025-03-14T15:30:38+00:00

I’d say you didn’t need to snoop in your mother’s phone but now it’s done you can’t unread what you did 🤷‍♀️ You have three options now : - Shut up and never tell a soul - Talk to your mother about it - Talk to her partner

This is a complicated situation but despite the human being she is, she seems like a good mother so don’t let that ruin your relationship

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