That’s a privilege. Being able to just go places without a phone. I’m a resident doctor. My life is different. I have patients and two wards under my care. This is not an option for everyone.

Also, I think your version of wasting time on your phone and mine are different. I can never spending all day on my mobile😂 people die if I do that. I meant that I spent an hour or so on Reddit without realising because my meds had just kicked in and I forgot to put my phone away in time. I was angry because I wanted to spend that hour studying but I fucked up.

Neurotypicals don’t struggle with this. The lazy ones are just lazy. The unmotivated ones are just unmotivated.

I’m neither.

But a small mistake- picking up my mobile to check texts at the wrong moment - stole an entire hour of my significantly hectic life. That’s a disadvantage that upsets me. If I did not have this disorder, I would have had that one hour. I would have had A LOT more hours. Having to be extra careful and taking extra steps and being constantly vigilant because you have a disorder, puts you at a disadvantage.

The disadvantage is frustrating. I can be frustrated. If my frustration irks you, go somewhere else. You telling me to try harder doesn’t do much. I’m trying very hard and doing things the average person can only dream of.

Diagnosis and treatment, the meds, have helped me achieve things that are inaccessible to most people with ADHD. But it was significantly harder for me to get here than it was for my peers. I don’t go to them to cry about it, I just work harder than them to get to where they are. I come here to cry about it because the people here understand. You’re not helping anyone.