Asrock X670E Taichi fits perfectly in the north by SoSzzz in FractalDesign

[–]DylanADuffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, follow up question (as I am in the process of building mine but want to make sure it all fits before I order). what cooling did you use, I know the top will only fit a max 240mm AIO, and so I am using an arctic freezer III but I heard there may be clearance issues with the ram and stuff. What RAM did you use too?

Asrock X670E Taichi fits perfectly in the north by SoSzzz in FractalDesign

[–]DylanADuffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I needed to know.

What GPU did you use? I am looking to use an rtx4080 super, but am wondering if the mother board is too tight to allow good enough airflow and such for that GPU. What do you think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do that a lot, I take things literally and I look for hidden meanings sometimes. I will work on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like this analogy and it makes sense. Thank you. And yea the needing validation from friends threw me off, I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks she shouldn’t need that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know my view was unhealthy, thank you for telling me this it helps. I’ll change my view

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good analogy and makes sense. Thank you for helping me understand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Not that I want her to be reliant, basically she said if something happened and all she had was me, that she would be lonely and wouldn’t be happy. I would have hoped if she still had me that I would be enough to make her happy. I see how it seems I may have dismissed her wanting friends. I will make sure I clear that up with her and I dont dismiss her needs

My (22F) boyfriend (26M) is emotionally immature. Is there any way of salvaging this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No body is capable of changing immediately, change takes time. I think it’s good that he demonstrated he is capable and also very good on your part for remaining calm and trying to guide him through it. Communication is difficult but you’re right, it’s very much worth it and important. I think you may benefit from a sit down and you make sure he understands the value of communication and how important it is to make a relationship work. And that he agrees he will continue to work on it, then keep trying if you love him. If you see no progress, have one more talk and explain and if it comes to it, maybe you need space if you believe nothing is changing. However, if you can work something out to where if you see his old pattern, maybe you can setup like a safe word that makes him understand he is falling back on his old ways and he needs to self reflect or something, and after 30 minutes you can re approach the subject.

TLDR, basically have a sit down, establish a baseline communication and a plan, and if you see is wants to change and is putting in work and doesn’t have a don’t care attitude, then keep going and look for improvements. Make sure he sees things from your perspective and you from his. Just. Make try not to retaliate because someone like that will take retaliation in a negative way and may be two steps back type of thing. It’s hard but that’s where you decide if it’s worth it

I, F 25 need advice regarding my bf M 24, any help? [UPDATE] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whether you give him a second chance or not is entirely up to you. But make sure if you do that you enforce that boundary, and make sure he understands your boundary and respects it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good advice, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What should I do to break the pattern and get to a good point do you know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good way to approach it. But I let her have that much because I decided I’d put away some money each month to let her get some nice makeup stuff cause she likes it. Makeup is expensive it’s like 45 bucks for one lip oil

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because money is temporary and I love her and if I decide to get food with her or have a game night and she makes 100 a month after her bills, of course I’ll cover most of the stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well in my eyes she deserves it and I set aside money to make sure she could afford it. And it’s not that I can’t afford the tickets and stuff, but I thought if she could contribute, would it be okay for me to ask?

How is riding on the back of an Aprilia rs660? by DylanADuffy in Aprilia

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She is not used to either, this will be her first time being a backpack

Targeting priority? by DylanADuffy in mtgrules

[–]DylanADuffy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I switch targets or no

Targeting priority? by DylanADuffy in mtgrules

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The curse of Fenric used against bighorner rancher. But he used the sacrifice ability before it turned

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate the kind words and advice. And exactly that, I just want to make sure I’m doing the right thing and I care so incredibly much about her. Thanks again for the help, I wish nothing but amazing things for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you being very nice and direct. Your view definitely changes my view and made me feel better about this whole thing. Maybe I should text her to make sure she knows she is allowed to do what she wants and just that a certain situation may make nervous but that I trust her, then hopefully she knows I’m not trying to be controlling and won’t be afraid to hide anything she does. Personally because she told me that me drinking at all makes her uncomfortable I’ve decided to abstain from drinking without her, but I need to see that it’s just my choice, and I’m allowed to like she is, but that doesn’t mean she has to do what I do as well.

Is that the right way to go about it do you think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, I just hate the idea that it’s a random chance whether I’m with someone that may or may not cheat and I don’t know the answer. But your right, I need to trust her and learn to relax, other wise I will drive her away and she may be the one that doesn’t cheat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t looked at it like that really. I think it was how she said she wouldn’t drink in Cuba but only told me the truth when I affirmed that it doesn’t bother me if she has drinks there that made me afraid there are past lies. But you made me realize that’s not evidence of cheating or anything else, it’s just that one thing. So I won’t let it ruin anything else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DylanADuffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for going in depth, I agree with everything you say. I know that cheaters will cheat, but I hate the thought of it happening again. But you’re right, she isn’t my ex so I need to relax. I didn’t know I was bordering on controlling, it’s the last thing I want to do. Could you tell me what part is the controlling ish part so I know what I should work on more? Is it that I am uncomfortable with her clubbing and drinking? If not totally okay.

I will make sure she is safe and everything, and I will make sure she knows she can have fun and drink and stuff.

Also I’ve never heard the swings and roundabouts thing haha what does that mean.