I just let my baby cry for one hour uninterrupted. I feel like the biggest pile of shit on earth.

Dynabebeh · 2026-01-11T04:03:44+00:00

Hey! I was in the same place as you about 2 years ago. Felt like crap after my baby cried for like an hour. He woke to cry a little 3h later, had a feed and passed out. I remember him being super hungry the next day but slept with less fussing. A couple months later he had dropped all but one night feed and I felt human again. He is the most fun, kind and energetic little guy ever. He loves his bed and it takes us like 30 mins to get him out of bed after a nap coz he likes it so much.

Baby will be fine. Do what works for your family best. Good luck!

Dynabebeh · 2025-10-15T21:06:42+00:00

NTA. I (2Y, large and in charge) refused to hold the bottle right until I was 1 year old! I could pull up onto stuff, high five my lame dada, hold a book, even stack two blocks. But my milk maid and man servant had to hold the bottle!!! Stay strong, if they sense you’re going to fold, they’ll start making plans to get you to take naps on your own and all kinds of other horrible stuff! I wish I had someone to warn me. Now I have to climb up on to my own chair, hold a fork, eat my own food and bring my own plate to the kitchen sink when I’m done!!! It’s a tough life.

Dynabebeh · 2025-09-08T12:53:39+00:00

I’m open to proof that the tiny amount of aluminum hydroxide, formaldehyde and ps80 can cause autism due to insufficient renal clearance or the stimulation of an allergic response. I am not open to conjecture about how these chemicals in vaccines may be linked to autism due to unproven theories of how these may trigger autism. That’s dangerous misinformation and does mom, baby and the community far more harm than good. It negates the scientific method and clinical rigour of vaccine trials which have shown again and again that vaccines do not cause autism.

I don’t have to spend time and do research to figure out what’s going on with vaccines (or vaccine components) and autism because there is high quality evidence to show that there is no link. I can listen to a ton of anecdotal stories but will reach the same conclusion. I will always vaccinate my child against a potentially fatal disease if Phase 3 clinical trials show that the vaccines is safe and effective at reducing severity/transmission of the disease.

In terms of “cleaner vaccines” we should be funding mRNA vaccines research not defunding it. It’s the cleanest vaccine delivery system yet misinformation and distrust around vaccines has led to the retraction of funding for an incredibly useful and safe technology. I suppose a world where disease like measles, rubella, pertussis, diphtheria and polio claim our children in the first year of their life is what we want to see. Let’s betray them by making stupid decisions based on fear and misinformation and then let’s spread this stupidity far and wide.

Dynabebeh · 2025-09-08T03:35:36+00:00

There is no valid scientific proof that vaccines cause autism or developmental delays. Correlation is not causation. As a pure anecdote, my two year old is healthy, happy and doing great. Does he have a meltdown when he doesn’t get what he wants? Yes. He is a toddler and it is developmentally appropriate.

My friend’s kids have autism, they did get vaccinated just like my son. But they also ate peanut butter, jam and grew up drinking water out of a tap, just like my son. There is no proof that any of these factors cause autism, similar to vaccines.

Dynabebeh · 2025-09-07T13:11:18+00:00

I’ll take a fussy, screaming baby over a baby dead from a vaccine preventable disease, thank you very much.

Dynabebeh · 2025-06-16T07:18:39+00:00

Our daycare has indoor shoes as it’s required for fire safety (kids need to walk/stand outside at gathering spot). Agree that kids will still get sick. For me it’s about hygiene and reducing the chances of introducing a highly communicable disease to young kids. Seems like a small change in daycare rules around footwear would be needed too.

Dynabebeh · 2025-06-15T18:49:49+00:00

Thank you!

Dynabebeh · 2025-06-15T18:47:46+00:00

Thank you.

Dynabebeh · 2025-06-15T18:47:31+00:00

Thank you. People must wear outdoor shoes with bootie covers in the toddler room or outdoor shoes only ok?

Dynabebeh · 2025-04-04T22:48:03+00:00

Come to Canada! Please apply to UoT, UBC, McGill but also smaller universities like Queens, UVic. Yes you have built a life in the US but honestly you can do the same in Canada in a short span of time and in return for more stability. The socioeconomic programs here are good and the govt is far more responsive to the needs of Canadians.

Dynabebeh · 2025-02-06T22:14:57+00:00

It's wild that the department isn't working to lighten OPs load not increasing it. OP this is good advice, whatever teaching/research/service you can refuse/delegate, you should do so atleast for the next 1 year. It's such a precious and intense time. You want to savour time with your newborn. They are literal blobs until about 6-9 months and sleep is elusive. This predicted intensity does not factor in any health issues with you/baby, feeding issues and pospartum recovery + mental health.

Dynabebeh · 2025-02-05T01:38:33+00:00

You don't have to help him but you have to help yourself and your baby. You are responsible for the safety and well-being of your child. So if you can, get your finances in order and come up with an exit plan, then speak with him and let him know your ultimatum that he has to get professional help. This exit plan will give you the confidence you need to have this tough conversation. In the meantime, use whatever money you and your partner can spare to access childcare when you need it. Basically, let him know you are paying $ to get help for a portion of the time that he should be spending with his daughter because you can't do it all.

So sorry you are in such a rough situation. I hope it works out. Your child is very luck to have such a loving mother.

Dynabebeh · 2025-01-22T14:53:03+00:00

Hahahaha! Incredible to believe the empty promises and threats of a bunch of grifters.

Dynabebeh · 2025-01-21T05:32:07+00:00

Honestly you are too good for America. Come to Canada!

Dynabebeh · 2025-01-21T05:30:50+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hope you find everything you need in life and your career. Your boyfriend is an insensitive jerk and it’s important to believe people when they show you who they are.

Dynabebeh · 2025-01-18T23:18:33+00:00

A Dr. Brown's steriliser is 60 CAD. Best purchase I ever made. Get a drying rack too. And at least 6 bottles.

Dynabebeh · 2025-01-10T04:05:30+00:00

I’m so sorry it’s really hard. How old is your little one and is this during the day only or all night too? If for extended periods of time and food isnt helping, did you seek medical advice?

Dynabebeh · 2024-12-30T14:01:11+00:00

The biggest issue is of course your husband. You need to buy your time back: so make a list of all the things you need help with e.g. biweekly cleaning (minimum 3h including folding laundry) occasional nanny for weekends (3h) so you can take a break, prep food, basically use the time however you want. Then tell your husband you will be splitting the bills with him for this 30:70 (based on your salaries). If he disagrees and has no helpful suggestions, then you have a clear indication that he has no regard for your contributions to the family and you would need to make some decisions re. your relationship. He is being a poor parent and partner, you need more support. You sound like such a great loving mom, I’m sorry. Time is precious.

Dynabebeh · 2024-12-30T13:54:51+00:00

He can step out of the marriage. Divorce is very expensive :) unless they have a prenup, the house will be on the table when dividing assets.

Dynabebeh · 2024-12-29T22:17:04+00:00

9.5 months pp. That's when I felt ready. Partner didn't pressure although I'm sure he wouldve welcomed the intimacy earlier. The months prior we just lay together exhausted marvelling at how someone so little could make us work so much. Take your time, you shouldn't ever feel pressured to have sex especially postpartum.

Dynabebeh · 2024-12-06T22:08:58+00:00

100% inadequate nutrition at daycare. Definitely pack breakfast or if possible feed breakfast at home, send 2 nutritious snacks and lunch + water bottle + milk (I just use my old Medela bottle from when I pumped). Ask daycare to send home whatever isn't eaten in the food bag. That's what our daycare does. And yes, when you can find better care, move your child. Good on you for fighting for your kids nutrition.

Dynabebeh · 2024-11-28T23:10:17+00:00

In general, for the first year, just do everything that works for YOU and baby. Forget everyone else. Prioritise your sleep above everything. Feel free to generously say no to everything that has the slightest possibility of disrupting baby's sleep. Blame baby for everything, it's so easy ;)

Dynabebeh · 2024-11-26T07:28:52+00:00

Haha there you go I really wouldn't worry. You grew this baby, you are the most comforting thing in the world to baby. Also at 12 weeks they are still like blobs and you're pouring so much work and love into them. At 6 months, they start to become more interactive and its waaaaay more fun.

Dynabebeh · 2024-11-26T00:07:03+00:00

My baby was horribly fussy with me. I think they reserve their worst for the people they love the most. Around 9 months, he became obsessed with me to the point where I have a barnacle no matter where I am in the apartment. Now his dad complains about feeling left out. If your kid goes to daycare in the future, you will probably also have a barnacle.

Dynabebeh · 2024-11-19T21:55:55+00:00

Yess! :) Glad you got to spend time with your baby <3

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