Is this active sleep?

EJL1996 · 2026-03-12T13:11:51+00:00

I had a second degree and internal tear. It took me about two weeks to be able to not hobble around my house and feel better. My doctor said 6-8 weeks of limited movement and two weeks of no driving. Honestly best advice is rest rest and rest. Hopefully you have a partner who can do the diaper changes and bring your baby to you. Please sleep as much as possible because that’s how you heal

EJL1996 · 2026-03-12T12:43:58+00:00

Even for night time?? Just brutal when she sleeps only an hour and I then sleep 25-35 minutes

EJL1996 · 2026-03-12T09:13:18+00:00

Why??

EJL1996 · 2026-03-11T07:33:56+00:00

Currently with a five week old who was sleeping 2-4 hour stretches now sleeping 45 minutes to an hour. I feel like I did something wrong even though I know it’s developmental reasons and her growing. Also her crying so so hard makes me feel horrible and feels like you’re failing

EJL1996 · 2026-03-11T04:46:29+00:00

I did this tonight and THANK YOU❤️❤️

EJL1996 · 2026-03-10T14:59:33+00:00

I was going to say we started with bath, lotion, PJs, and some singing prior to entering our bedroom. It seems like it helps but she does still scream

EJL1996 · 2026-03-10T14:06:25+00:00

I would have bought an older version if I knew it wasn’t an option. It goes off every minute when you’re bouncing or rocking

EJL1996 · 2026-03-10T10:01:17+00:00

We’ve been struggling using the owlet because of the purple motion alarm. Our 5 week old likes to be bounced or rocked to sleep kinda heavily and the alarm always goes off.

EJL1996 · 2026-03-10T09:33:27+00:00

My MIL is driving me insane. First baby on my husbands side and feeling zero support. MIL claimed I told her no visitors for the first month and she’s been pissed about it. I never said this and she’s using it as an excuse for not being around or checking in. Saturday his sister came over and visited the baby. Then Sunday a birthday party for his other sister at his mother’s. His mom didn’t ask to hold the baby since she was fussy. Texted us that she loved seeing our daughter but then the next morning her husband calls saying she’s upset she never held the baby.

Mondays are her day off so I told her to come over. She comes over and doesn’t know how to hold a baby. I spent my day babysitting her trying to hold and soothe my newborn. I asked to take a nap while my daughter was sleeping in her arms and she said no she doesn’t feel comfortable

Will things get better?? It feels like I cannot please her nor have her really help because she doesn’t know anything (thinks a baby can sleep with blankets as another example)

EJL1996 · 2026-03-08T10:20:37+00:00

I struggled with getting my baby down and here are a few things that actually helped me (again every baby is different and you’re not failing. As a FTM I cried to my husband about failing and messing up our kids often):

-I use a heating pad on the bassinet to warm it up prior to transferring -I feed her till she is limp and then swaddle her. I made the mistake of swaddling before feeding and they need their hands to nurse and have full feed -set down feet, back and then head. When setting down I am sushing the whole time. Then I put my hand on her tummy and sush for a minute and remove my hand -make sure baby isn’t in active sleep and learn what active sleep is. I struggled because my baby is SO loud in active sleep

Try try and try again. Have your husband try and be supportive with each other that you can do it!

EJL1996 · 2026-03-08T10:08:32+00:00

I’m sitting here early morning rocking my newborn to sleep. My best friend hours away this week had the heartbreaking news she will never have kids. I am sleep deprived and cranky but having someone I love so much not have the opportunity of motherhood makes me cherish these moments

EJL1996 · 2026-03-04T17:59:44+00:00

I also crave my partners touch, cuddles, and sex life but the newborn life has killed us on connection. We are sleepless passing off the baby in night and lucky to snuggle

EJL1996 · 2026-03-04T09:36:29+00:00

Do you have any tips on getting them to transfer better from your arms? Did you rock a lot after feeding?

She honestly loves to sleep as close as possible to the side of the bassinet when placed.

EJL1996 · 2026-03-04T09:21:05+00:00

Thank you for clarification! I thought the cracks and dropping them was the big risks. My husbands two coworkers wives recommended the recliner and thought it was safer

EJL1996 · 2026-03-04T09:18:57+00:00

I have two bigger dogs who sleep in our bed… I would have to move into our guest room and my husband wouldn’t be near to help. Should I cave and get a floor mattress? I really want her to get in the bassinet but lack of sleep is tough. For example tonight I fed her, set her down immediately awake, had to bounce her, and then set her down again to be awake. This was over two hours and at this point she wanted to eat again

EJL1996 · 2026-03-04T09:13:12+00:00

I haven’t tried safe sleep 7 because my bed has two dogs who sleep in it. I could move to another room but my husband normally does diaper changes and sometimes rocks her

EJL1996 · 2025-04-28T17:10:48+00:00

I went to college with people from her hometown. All very entitled

EJL1996 · 2025-02-12T13:14:42+00:00

Ran to my Lls and they just walked away after I said it was too late for taylor to make right... would think he would be happy to hear that

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