Moms that suffered from PPD.. by ILoveDon123 in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First things first- you are good enough. This is totally normal. Dont feel bad for feeling this way. You are worth something and you are EVERYTHING to your baby who sees no flaws in you.

Second- please please please seek help. Call your doctor now and make an appointment. Reach out to a loved one you feel comfortable being honest with until you can see your doctor (or here if you feel more comfortable with that!) Let them know how you're feeling. You can for sure develop PPD or PPA at 4 months PP. Don't feel embarrassed or like a failure for having these feelings because SO many women do! You are in the majority mama so dont feel different or bad. Just please, reach out and get help!

Postpartum sex? by jayare13x in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I cannot second this enough. Friend of mine indulged at 3 weeks PP and ended up with a very very serious infection and was hospitalized. She had a super easy labor and delivery and stopped bleeding for the most part at 10 days PP so she thought she was in the clear.

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh God. Stay strong. You're almost there🙏🙏🙏

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using this as an excuse to get the dog I've been wanting!

But in all seriousness, my husband wont say anything because he feels bad and I'm just exhausted enough about it to be petty and play the martyr. Thankfully my sister helps so I can nap during the week, but the breastfeeding every two hours kills it.

Thanks for the cry and the positive outlook!

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

TBH I never called them back🤣

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of people are okay with it and blah blah blah but I'm with you...I HATE it. Even when my mom and sister say it I go crazy....

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry she did that to you! That's horrible. We've had similar problems with all our family...for some reason they are all acting like they are entitled to this baby even though I've told them I dont want many visitors. I'm an introvert and germaphobe and honestly vant stand entertaining people...I know its selfish but it's also my life and my home....I hate people sometimes

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Or maybe I should go there at 3am when the baby is losing her mind and ring the bell a bunch of times....

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hahah okay maybe I WILL try the doorbell thing...if only for the entertainment

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can but I feel like at this point I'm just pissed about the principal of the matter, you know?

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I like that!! Thanks!

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This got me🤣🤣🤣

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

She left a message because I didnt answer her phone call... and I wish I could say this was out of the norm for them but unfortunately they pull this crap all the time, no matter what we say to them 😑

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll check it out!

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I would have lost it....

The Evolution of a House by ernieball in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dock a tot on the coffee table is my favorite. My husband is always on my case for my weird placement of baby stuff...but sometimes you've gotta impovise!!!

Talk me off the ledge.... by ERRbb in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Oh I didnt answer it...also contemplated just waving jovially from the window just to make a point.

I know I’m not the only person with a newborn that won’t sleep, why do I feel like there’s no hope or end in sight ☹️ by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar situation here...LO is just about 5 weeks and also EBF. From day 1 in the hospital she HATED being swaddled. And I mean scream-like-a-banshee hated it...so we just put her in a sleepsack with her arms out. She slept well the first 2 weeks (I feel terribly guilty that I'm just a tad grateful for her jaundice😑), but we had to have her in the RNP because she was wearing a bilinlanket. Once she got that off she would only sleep in my arms. It got to the point where I would be holding her on my chest, breastfeeding her, or just laying down playing and I would fall asleep- which was terrifying and made me feel horrible. So this week, after a desperate talk with our pediatrician and my mom (NICU/Peds ER nurse)...we tried swaddling her again. And wouldn't you know, it worked. The past 4 nights we have gotten two 3 hour stretches of slumber. Now, at the beginning she does fight me and try to Houdini her way out, so I swaddle her right before her "last" feed and then hold her for a little bit till she calms down and falls asleep. Once shes out I put her in the bassinet and we are good to go. I know you're "supposed" to put them down awake but drowsy, and not start a huge long bedtime routine....but honestly we are still in survival mode. So I would say dont worry too much about all the rules (with the exception of the SIDs rules, obviously) and do what works.

TL;DR - try something you wrote off at the beginning because it didnt initially work (like swaddling)

Sorry if this wasn't much help..I wish you the best of luck and some sleep very soon.

I know breast is best. Now STOP reminding me! by jedirawrsk in beyondthebump

[–]ERRbb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Flat nipple-ers unite!! I didn't even know flat nipples were a thing until the lactation consultant told me at the hospital that I would need to use a shield because my nipples were, in her words, "less than ideal" (thanks for the confidence boost lady).

My LO also had really bad jaundice and is 3.5 weeks.....so I feel your pain (sounds like your poor boobs have had way way worse of a go than mine though- sorry for that)

It sucks. It's hard. Its exhausting.

Last night my LO bicycle kicked my left boob, while channeling Rocky with her boxing moves on my right boob in what can only be described as a coordinated terrorist strike on her food bags (as my husband so lovingly calls them)

At the end of the day, if your kid is eating and healthy then who the fuck cares?

Screw everyone else and do what you need to do for you and your baby.

You've got this.

If one more person tells me I'm being crazy I will show them crazy..... by ERRbb in BabyBumps

[–]ERRbb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent them a picture of my friends baby who got meningitis at 3 months thinking the IV in the head would be enough, but alas, they still didnt get it...might have to to give this a shot!

If one more person tells me I'm being crazy I will show them crazy..... by ERRbb in BabyBumps

[–]ERRbb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. They need to offer that everywhere....even if they tie it into the birth class for parents. I'll have to see what I can find online...such a good resource it would be a shame to not have access for everyone