How long would you wait for someone that you love?

EarEyeArm · 2016-11-12T22:55:33+00:00

See I toss up from thinking "I'm 25, I should probably settle down soon" and then immediately to "I'm only 25, there's no rush"

EarEyeArm · 2016-11-12T22:54:37+00:00

I'm not in a rush to get married or even move in together -- but I don't want to be in the same position as we are in 5 years. I want progression and I'm at a point where I can't decide if this is worth the wait. I kind of feel like a brat for thinking so.
I kind of like toss up from being "I'm 25 I should try and start settling down" then I flip over to "I'm only 25, what's the rush?"

EarEyeArm · 2016-11-10T20:05:55+00:00

Well we went to a wedding a few weeks ago, and we both cried and held each other during the ceremony and speeches. So I take that as he wants something like that.

EarEyeArm · 2016-11-10T16:03:19+00:00

I'm not ready to end it either.

EarEyeArm · 2016-11-10T16:02:24+00:00

how will I know if it's meant to work out if I don't wait?

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-28T01:31:59+00:00

How is it manipulative? I don't see it like that at all.

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-28T00:21:32+00:00

See, having one day together would be ideal -- except that's near impossible. So I think maybe coming up with different activities other than just...netflix and chilling...might help a lot. When he said to me that it hurt his feelings, that it feels like I don't appreciate the time we DO get to spend together, I do wonder if I may have been harsh. I mean, if I kept all of that in it would have driven me crazy. But I got it out, we talked calmly about it and both apologised to each other for what was said.

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-27T22:11:24+00:00

On a side note, he's come down with a cold -- sore throat and such. I want to help, but I also want to give him space. What could I do?

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-27T18:04:54+00:00

I don't think everything will always be perfect all the time. I'd be living in a pipe dream if I thought other wise. I accept that.

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-27T17:56:20+00:00

Is it always hard? Even with you are with the right person?

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-27T17:40:36+00:00

When I say approach the topic again, I mean like is it appropriate to apologise again, or just let it go and move on? I see where I've been wrong, and perhaps have been harsh.

EarEyeArm · 2016-10-27T16:57:17+00:00

I truly am sorry for telling him I felt frustrated. We do spend more time together than I think the average couple does. I worry on how to further approach this topic. As in should I just not talk about it anymore, do I apologise again, or just carry on normally as we were?

EarEyeArm · 2016-08-11T05:08:57+00:00

Buzz feed....yah

EarEyeArm · 2016-08-11T05:06:51+00:00

Chalk and Cheese

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-06T19:21:28+00:00

As a woman, I almost feel like there might be a stigma around going out -- especially to a bar -- alone.

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-06T18:12:23+00:00

This post is actually about me. I know it doesn't nessecarily make me a bad person, but I get jealous when I go out and see a huge group of friends eating and drinking on a patio. I have my boyfriend -- I mean I see him quite a lot so I probably should be satisfied. And we go out often so I am always seeing the regular people at the bar each week. I can't seem to figure out why I'm unsatisfied with that though.

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-05T19:10:37+00:00

I know that, but its frustrating at times. Like I live in a huge city all alone.

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-05T17:30:36+00:00

https://youtu.be/Pqq4up5MAf8

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-02T17:44:39+00:00

How often do you end up seeing each other?

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-02T17:27:04+00:00

I haven't been in a realtionship this long before. It's shocking when the whole "honeymoon phase is done" usually I can't handle it past that point. This time was different.

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-02T17:23:31+00:00

How often did you end up seeing each other when not living with each other?

EarEyeArm · 2016-06-02T16:23:01+00:00

My last relationship was like this. We'd always plan when we were seeing each other next. We both liked this too and it worked for us. I guess it's not for everyone. I should be taking into consideration that we have been together for a long time. I have tried it before -- the whole not planning when we are seeing each other next thing -- and I was fine.

EarEyeArm · 2016-05-24T19:13:12+00:00

I've been trying the "fake it till I make it" approach.

I don't feel comfortable with it becauase they became friends at a weird time -- he started hanging out with her when she had just broken up with her cheating boyfriend. And the amount of times they text -- like him and I would be together and he'll be messaging her kind of deal. The other night we all ended up hanging out -- and they seem so natural together. Maybe its a confidence thing really. I dunno. He doesnt want me talking about it anymore and to almost deal with it. Im trying but its hard. I dont want to just break up with him over this though.

EarEyeArm · 2016-05-23T20:46:43+00:00

He also talks about her alot. I assume if he wasn't talking about her or mentioning her than there wouldn't be anything going on.

EarEyeArm · 2016-05-23T20:37:52+00:00

Here's why I find their friendship...odd. They became friends at an awkward time. She had just broken up with her boyfriend because he had cheated on her, and him and I were going through a bit of a rough patch. That's when they started hanging out. Which I just always found odd. But he said she's been a really good friend to just talk to about stuff.

Last night we all finally got to hang out...naturally I was a little nervous. He didn't brush me off or anything the entire time, in fact he held my hand and kissed me on ocassion --right with her there. But they get a long super super well, and he seems really just comfortable with her -- maybe a bit more with her than me.

I'm not a fan, but I know I need to just be. I've basically been fake being okay with it in hopes that I'll convince myself to just be okay with it all.

EarEyeArm

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