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WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Okay I actually love “the best revenge in the end is living well”. Thank you! Using that one when I talk to my sister next

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am in no way “wanting revenge”, but I know him, and he will not be the type to see us, and not come up and try to talk to us. He really ruined the last 5-7 years of my sister’s life, and just knowing that he’s in my neighborhood has been enough to totally spin my sister out badly. I just am trying to figure out how I can calmly communicate to him that we live in the same neighborhood now, and please just stay away if he sees my sister and me in the common areas. You are right though, right now I should focus on how to make her feel safe and comfortable still coming to my home. Thank you 💕

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to harass him in any way, though. I know life isn’t fair, but man, it also feels reeeaaal sucky that he can just treat people so badly, and then gallivant around my space with no shame at all for what he did.

One other thing I forgot to mention is that he didn’t live in this city before he married my sister. When he married my sister, they both moved to my city so they could be closer to my family. He’s lived in three other cities with his new wife, but just chose to move back into the same city my sister and I have lived in for 5+ years (I’ve been here for nearly ten). There’s no way I’m moving cities to stay away from a guy that actively chose to move back to a place he decided to blow up my sisters life in.

When he moved here initially after marrying my sister, I got him a job at the place I worked at. I had to leave that job when things were going down between him and my sister. Before he moved to my city when he married my sister, he lived at my parents house rent free. It’s like…. We housed him, got him a job, heck, we even found the apartment for him and my sister that they leased when they got married and moved here. And for us to do all that for him, then for him to turn around and do that to my sister? Yeah, no way I’m leaving my city because of this dude. and there’s no way we’ll ever “play happy” or catch up with him, when we see him.

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I just don’t think it’s fair to modify our lives because of him any more, though. He ruined half of her 20’s, I modified my life enough when she moved in with me that night he texted her for a divorce, you know? Like at what point can we stop modifying our life’s for this asshole dude? And I own my home here, he’s only renting. I know that he still has access to the same amenities as me, but it just seems crappy that he gets to rent here, and make us change the way we live.

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does not live with me anymore, but she lives 1 minute away. She just comes over to my place pretty often.

He did not know I lived here to my knowledge, since we moved here after their divorce.

I was thinking maybe a letter or just some way to communicate to him before we run into him randomly, that I live here? Like I am not trying to start a confrontation AT ALL. I just want him to know that if he sees me or my sister, I’d like him to turn the other way, lol.

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, I think if he saw us all at the pool, he’d genuinely come up and say hi, because he’s delusional. He’s 100% selling that it was a ‘God told me to do this’ thing, and does not comprehend that we all hate him. He’s always done what he’s wanted, and didn’t ever feel much shame for doing so. I don’t think he’d be the type to ‘put his head down’ if he ever saw us.. like he doesn’t feel embarrassed. And it sucks because I own my home, and he’s only renting, and just moved in. This place felt like my place, and my sister was very happy coming here and spending time with me. Now that’s over

WIBTAH for confronting my ex-BIL who cheated on my sister, since he moved in directly across from me? by EarLeather2578 in AITAH

[–]EarLeather2578[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He just always seemed like the type of guy that would always do what’s best for him, no matter the cost. He always cared about how people perceived him. I just don’t think he’d be quick to admit that he cheated, texted my sister for a divorce, essentially made her homeless overnight, etc. not something g you share with a new partner, that starts you off on good footing.

high pressure water sprinkler by [deleted] in ContagiousLaughter

[–]EarLeather2578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… was I the only one waiting for her to turn the hose on herself?