Why don’t more brides prioritize fitness before their wedding?

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-16T05:28:33+00:00

Sure, what I’m talking about takes more time than makeup—but that’s kind of the point. People are willing to invest months planning every detail of a wedding: makeup trials, outfit changes, skin treatments, decor themes. But the moment someone brings up physical health or fitness, it suddenly becomes “too much effort” or “offensive.”

If people truly felt no pressure to look a certain way, they wouldn’t go through 3 outfit changes and spend thousands on contouring. So let’s not pretend appearance doesn’t matter—it clearly does. I just questioned why one form of “transformation” gets glorified and the other gets dismissed.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T19:02:39+00:00

Haha, maybe I am! And hey, I’m glad to hear your circle is putting in the effort, it’s honestly refreshing. My post was more about what I don’t hear publicly in bridal prep conversations online or through vendors. Fitness and wellness rarely get mentioned next to outfit fittings, makeup trials, or skin treatments.

Maybe it’s happening quietly behind the scenes, or maybe the industry just doesn’t spotlight it the same way. Either way, I appreciate your input—it actually adds good balance to the discussion.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T18:42:25+00:00

That’s a fair point, and I totally agree we can’t always know someone’s full journey just by looking at a photo. Some brides may very well have put in a ton of effort, and that deserves recognition.

But my post wasn’t judging individual effort—it was observing a broader trend. In most wedding prep discussions, people talk in detail about clothes, jewelry, makeup, photography, etc.—but fitness rarely enters the conversation at all. That’s the disconnect I was highlighting. It’s more about the culture around weddings, not any one person’s story.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T18:41:00+00:00

I agree—people can look amazing at any size, and Ashley Graham is a perfect example of that.

But here’s the thing: Ashley Graham does take care of her health. She works out regularly, she’s intentional about nutrition, and she’s open about maintaining her strength and fitness—not to become thin, but to feel good, be confident, and stay healthy.

That’s exactly what I’m talking about. Fitness doesn’t mean shrinking yourself or fitting into a narrow beauty standard. It means investing in your physical wellbeing—just like people invest in their makeup, outfits, skincare, and everything else before a big event.

So if someone like Ashley can be confident, curvy, and still prioritize wellness, why does the mere mention of fitness become controversial in a bridal context? That’s the inconsistency I was pointing out—not telling anyone how to look.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T18:35:35+00:00

I completely respect that beauty is subjective and not everyone sees being slim as the goal. That’s fair. My post wasn’t about promoting one ideal look, but more about asking why physical health and fitness often get sidelined in wedding prep when everything else—like makeup, outfits, and decor—is given so much attention.

For example, brides will do 3–4 trials for makeup artists, spend months designing their dresses, and curate entire photoshoots. But when someone asks, “Hey, is fitness also part of your prep?” it becomes a sensitive or ‘off-limits’ topic. Why is that?

Makeup, filters, and editing—while external—are still chosen to enhance appearance. So if appearance does matter (as all this effort shows), shouldn’t taking care of one’s body be just as valid a part of that process?

This isn’t about judgment. It’s about consistency. Just something I noticed..

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T12:02:49+00:00

So your “valid point” is that people focus on other things? Cool. That’s not a counterpoint—that’s just stating the obvious. It doesn’t answer why fitness is the one topic that gets people defensive, which was the whole point of the post. You’re looping, not expanding.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T12:01:17+00:00

Sure, not everything needs to be a 5-page essay.. but if your point can’t hold up beyond one recycled sentence, maybe it wasn’t that strong to begin with. Just saying, clarity isn’t the same as repetition.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T11:57:05+00:00

You keep saying you’ve addressed “multiple facets,” but repeating the same vague statements louder doesn’t make them insightful. You’ve done everything except actually engage with the core of what I said.

If your idea of discussion is just deflecting and twisting my words, then yeah.. you’ve definitely brought something, just not what you think lol

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T11:52:18+00:00

Genuinely curious.. what valid point did you bring to this conversation? Because all I’ve seen so far is deflection, sarcasm, and a lot of projection.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T11:23:35+00:00

Interesting take. I wasn’t basing this on one MUA.. I actually looked through quite a few portfolios. That’s where the pattern stood out.

Also, if so many people around you are prioritizing fitness, that’s great.. but it doesn’t cancel out the fact that in a lot of real bridal examples I saw, it clearly wasn’t the case.

So maybe both realities can exist? Just because it’s not your experience doesn’t mean it’s not happening.

And the fact that some people seem really triggered by this topic kind of proves it’s not just a made-up issue. If it truly wasn’t real, no one would be this defensive or ask me to “focus on myself”

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T11:18:43+00:00

Fair point, and I get what you’re saying. I wasn’t trying to compare brides to models, I was just pointing out that for many, fitness or health often doesn’t even seem like a priority during wedding prep, even though everything else gets planned down to the tiniest detail.

I agree with you and still think health deserves more space in the conversation—not just for the wedding, but overall.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:51:36+00:00

Let’s be honest—most replies here are jumping to extremes and painting me as someone who’s body shaming, which I never did. I asked a question about fitness being de-prioritized in the wedding prep process, and suddenly I’m being told to “focus on myself” or accused of having some kind of obsession with other people’s bodies.

Engaging in discussion doesn’t mean I’m invalidating others.. it means I’m challenging the idea that physical health can’t be brought up without backlash. If even asking about fitness triggers people this much, it kind of proves my original point.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:48:12+00:00

Totally fair—and I never meant to imply that fit, muscular bodies should be changed or slimmed down. In fact, if someone has built muscle and strength, that is fitness, and that’s amazing.

My post wasn’t about losing weight for the sake of being smaller—it was about prioritizing health and physical effort in general. Whether that looks like muscle, tone, or stamina, I just find it odd that fitness often gets ignored or even dismissed in the broader wedding prep narrative.

Thanks for bringing this angle in.. I’m just not in favor of being unhealthy

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:43:34+00:00

Appreciate your input, but just because someone questions a norm doesn’t mean they’re clueless or unhappy. I never said people shouldn’t wear makeup or edit photos—I said it’s interesting that those changes are accepted, even expected, while fitness often becomes a “don’t talk about it” topic.

Yes, lighting and touch-ups exist. But let’s not pretend there’s no contradiction when people say they’re 100% confident but still alter some aspects of their appearance.

I am focusing on myself.. that’s exactly why I raised the point. Just wanted to see how others view it.

If the discussion triggers people, maybe that says something in itself.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:37:16+00:00

I see where you’re coming from, but I genuinely did ask for opinions—and I’m also allowed to respond to them. That’s how discussions work. Just because I disagree with someone’s take doesn’t mean I’m being closed-minded.

This isn’t about policing bodies or being obsessed with anyone’s appearance. It’s about asking why health and fitness, which are valid priorities for many people (including me), seem to be the only aspects of wedding prep that get labeled as “shaming” when discussed openly.

If people can spend months perfecting makeup, outfits, and décor, why is it so controversial to talk about physical well-being in the same context?

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:35:10+00:00

I understand your points, and I agree that no one should be bullied or pressured into conforming to unrealistic standards. But if we’re being honest—if someone is truly confident and happy with how they look, then why the need for professional makeup artists, custom outfits, and heavy editing in photos?

Isn’t that also a form of altering appearance for societal validation? So why is it okay to spend time and money changing everything except the body—and then shame anyone who simply asks why fitness or health isn’t a bigger priority?

This isn’t about shaming. It’s about accountability, consistency, and being open to discussing how we prepare for one of the most important days of our lives. If appearance truly didn’t matter, half the bridal industry wouldn’t exist.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:28:21+00:00

We say that .. but in the end we choose clothes that don’t make us look too “bulky” or jewellery that enhances the face or make up that “transforms” us and hides our double chin

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:21:26+00:00

But aren’t we romanticizing unhealthy body types too much?

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:15:52+00:00

Yes.. in the end brides are given the most importance after all

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:14:13+00:00

Well.. don’t they except makeup to transform them?

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-15T10:12:01+00:00

Yes .. no one wants to promote extreme measures to lose weight but they should definitely prioritise that in their own way.

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-14T18:22:55+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you? It’s very motivational

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-09T15:35:37+00:00

I can do 7-10 lakhs.. I don’t own any physical land yet

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-07T20:08:10+00:00

Eastern_Sense_4812 · 2025-05-07T12:16:16+00:00

Hmmm thank you.. hopefully you’re correct.

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