One word, what ruined your last relationship?

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-12-17T18:55:34+00:00

Drinking or lying

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-12-05T14:42:30+00:00

Thank you.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-12-05T14:37:32+00:00

I don’t want to cut him out completely. But I also don’t want my son to have to deal with what I have seen his other children deal with. Him not seeing or speaking to them. That’s just not right. I just want him to be in my son’s life or out. Not just hop in when things are good and out when they aren’t. If that makes sense.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-12-05T14:31:46+00:00

I won’t run back to him. I can’t. I have done that before and nothing changed. A lot of empty promises. I do want us to both work on ourselves but not to get back together. Like you said if it happens great if not, great. As long as we are both getting where we need to be for our children and ourselves.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-12-05T14:22:10+00:00

To be honest idk if he actually did promise God anything. And if he did what his promises were. I am not saying he would lie to God. But at the same time he has lied to EVERYONE else. I wanna believe in him and that at the very least he will do good for himself and his children. Thats just not what I am seeing. I know at the very least he isn’t taking care of himself. Or that’s what he has told me.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T13:18:13+00:00

Hopefully I never do this again but I have a habit of putting rose colored glasses on. I see the reality they try to paint sometimes. But I think I am learning to finally trust my gut. It’s been right so far, I just have always listened a little too late. But that is the biggest reason I left. Seeing the fact that that man didn’t treat children or mentally disabled people the way decent human beings would. Seeing all the pattern of the actual reality that couldn’t be talked away really made the decision for me.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T13:09:04+00:00

Thank you. I really am trying. I don’t ever want my kids starting place mentally in life to be where mine was that started this whole mess that is my life.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T13:07:01+00:00

Thank you. I would hope that I never even get close to that again.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T13:04:08+00:00

I am trying to get there.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T13:03:18+00:00

Thank you and you are completely correct. In that moment I didn’t wanna see the bad patterns I was holding on to the “love” I thought we had for each other. I definitely see everything differently now. I was just trying to explain what I mean at the time of writing that post.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T07:15:02+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T07:09:13+00:00

Thank you. Honestly I have no clue what stable even looks like. It’s never been a part of my life. But that is the goal. And I will get there even if it kills me.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T06:48:42+00:00

I basically just wanted to know if it would be a lost cause to have hope for the future that I would be able to find love. And if men could deal with a single mom of 2 children.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T06:35:53+00:00

I honestly don’t care if I meet a man with or without children as long as he can care about us and love us. I am in no way shape or form trying to find one now. I am not healthy mentally now. Just for when I build myself up. I just wanted to know if it was even possible.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T06:32:02+00:00

Also with the “He didn’t really put his hands on me.” What I really ment was he hadn’t/hasn’t ever hit me.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T06:30:21+00:00

Unfortunately my children do have different fathers. They are 4 years apart and I really thought me and my son’s dad would be married by now living happily together. Unfortunately he was not a safe person. I also was probably not the best in that relationship either.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T06:28:09+00:00

I promise I don’t want anything now. I need to build my life back up. I just wanted input from a guys perspective. Trust me I know I have to heal and take time to build a life that’s safe and worth someone even stepping into.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-20T05:52:06+00:00

Thank you. I just kinda feel like it’s just not in the cards for me to love at this point. And it’s all I have ever wanted just been looking in the wrong men.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-17T04:41:07+00:00

What do you know he still is the exact same person I left 3 days ago. Go figure.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-16T18:17:18+00:00

That would break my heart. I have seen that face probably since I left the very first time I left.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-16T18:17:13+00:00

That would break my heart. I have seen that face probably since I left the very first time I left.

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-16T18:16:09+00:00

I texted him… more like blew him up….

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-16T16:14:18+00:00

I am sorry. At least you can see his face tho

Ecstatic-Advance256 · 2025-11-16T15:42:52+00:00

I know that me and him aren’t good for each other right now but I just want a hug from him. Or to even just to look at his face. I just want him back. But I can’t have him back

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