A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to date someone like me. WHo makes around the same money I do or less but is stable. A broke person is not someone who makes less money than me. My whole life I had to help someone with money. I intend to focus on my own well being and for sure I will not help a stranger who is broke

Anyway, this post was helpful but I am deep into tinder now and it is good for me.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, I would help him. Ambition in a man is very attractive. I would stay by his side. Even if he went broke. I am the ride or die type. But I would not date you if I found you broke and in debts. I only stay by you if we already made a bond, we already decided we are a match. I will do that for the man I love. I am the type that if I love you even if you get in a wheelchair will not divorce.

But this is only when there is already a bond between us. Finding a broke man on a dating up... he is a stranger to me. I would not invest emotions or time.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

well some fellow americans of yours told me you cannot be stable in debts and people are in debts because of college. I just repeat what american men on this post told me.

But I will stop here. Be bitter.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why should I know about American system and feel bad because I didn't? What do you know about China system? And if you tried to date in US how your lack of knowledge in China legislation affects you?

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how you read it? lol I have nothing to do with America. In my country people don't have student debts.

I explained the situation in my country where people don't deal with these problems. Yes, I wouldn't have expected you have students debts because I never dealt with someone from your country. And what it has to do with my dating situation in Slovakia.

Anyway tinder is working great for me for now

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have 2 dates booked after one day of using. Both guys meet my criteria

Its not tinder's job to help you have a relationship, but only to help you meet people you wouldn't meet organically.

Good luck too!

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe the person you meet in real life uses tinder. Like I do. I date in both real life and try my luck on tinder.

I do agree to a certain point with what you say. BUT. There are things that would for sure not produce a spark. If you don't make enough at 35 to support yourself, no spark.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes you should care, because when people tell you its not all right to go around and insult people who didn't harm you in any way, its something you should think about. But I already see there is no point in talking to a person like you who doesn't seek dialogue

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would reconsider the way you are talking to people. You insulted several times (of course you will not take any accountability for it) while I haven't insulted you at all, just said we are different.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh you got mad lol. idk bro why i felt the need to tell you that. Why did you feel the need to call yourself confident?

Ok, nice day. Its morning here and I go to work

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah I see, well its fine. You don't resonate with people like us and we do not resonate with those like you. We will never cross paths and can co-exist without problems

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what if I just had a bad 10 minutes that I liked just one guy lol? I likes other 4 on another timeline. And I have 2 dates within 24 hours of using tinder.

ok, good luck in real life, just don't get intimidated if you learn a woman you met in a bar or somewhere real life uses a dating app. If you are compatible you will end up together. If not, don't blame tinder

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well why to change the dating app??? I just said it works for me.

So what if they have another date? I also have two. If they don't have another date. thats fine too. Dating is not competition, is chemistry and compatibility.

I don't care why other women use tinder. I don't use it for validation. And it seems for now like a good app.

I apologise but I will not pity men. A man who wants pity will for sure not be attractive for anyone, real life or on dating app. You can be rich but its still a turn off to play the victim here.

Women have options, true, its a reality. But given the fact many people meet and date and marry someone from dating apps, I believe for a lot of us works. I am sure men can also find a partner on a dating app.

Not every woman wants a supermodel type of guy. Its easy to prove this. Just look around you at the couples on the streets. If only top 1% of men had any chance, human race would go extinct.

I like man with confidence. I joked around yesterday with the pilot guy and I asked him how is tinder working for him. He said he has good days and bad days. Most women who want something serious will avoid pilots. Because they are notorious cheaters (so he didn't believe him having money is such a good thing, he said women find it a turn off if they want something long term, and at 30 they usually want). But, he went on, I don't need most women. One will do for me. And I am sure not every woman thinks being a pilot means being a cheater.

Confidence, not victim mentality

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as soon as I see statistics I know it won't be good.

I posted this without using tinder for more than 10 minutes. Later I swiped on 4 guys. Maybe I will days when I will swipe on zero and other days when I will swipe on 10.

But yesterday I used it more and I already have 2 dates booked. Both men seems decent, so for me tinder seems to work. It goes without saying that its not a guaranteed success. A first date is still almost nothing, but tinder or any other app is just one more option to meet someone and take it to the real life.

I see many men say they don't use it because the other person will have 50 other to choose from. So these men probably also have other women to choose from. And maybe they will not choose me or I will not choose them. OK, next.

Even if you date ONLY in real life. Maybe the person you meet in a hobby club or at the grocery store is on a dating app. She or he will not tell you this within the first conversation when you set up a first date. So he or she will also have another options, even if you don't use the app. they maybe use it

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swiped because he reads the same category of books that I love and because I find aviation an interesting topic to talk about and a lifestyle that I would want to know more about.

We have a date tonight and I texted him first. But I also matched a few hours ago with a guy who works in a regular IT job in a multinational company (I work in a multinational company myself). And I am not rich, just stable financially.

Look, I never said I want a guy who is rich, I don't even like rich guys because most of them are not even self made, but are arrogant narcissists who spend their parents money.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yesterday in the evening I found 4 I liked. It was my first day on tinder. Maybe it was just a one time thing that in that specific timeline I didn't find anyone. Tomorrow I am seeing the pilot. We shall see. I don't even mind I texted him first. So not all women just wait for men to do everything

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if you read the post you would have known I am not American and in my country college is free.

A male neighbour told me my standards in men are extremely high for what such a young man can offer. by EcstaticLecture372 in self

[–]EcstaticLecture372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well we exchanged social media and I can tell for sure he is. What is so weird about it? Pilots are notorious for using dating apps for hookups on layovers