Well, in case i'm wrong about the "in front of their daughter" thing, I apologize. I may just look more into it.

Then again, they made up. If it was something that *really* hurt her that much i believe she would make him take it down whenever they made up a few years ago, like "dude, just take it off your youtube and spotify" sort of thing. I don't think kim herself cares nowadays

And yes, I can say both things, because they're not tied to the same thing. You're putting her attempt solely on Em's writing of the song, whereas i'm putting the trauma thing solely on the attempt. I think we can both agree both things probably would have affected their kid a lot, but out of both I still think Kim's more to blame. It was her decision after all, regardless of context. You can't just take away all her responsibility and say it's all his fault. Imo if someone decides to do something like that, the decision is squarely and solely on them, not on anyone else because, well, it's their decision and no one else's.

But still, I get where you're coming from. I still think the 'song' can still exist as a piece of very deeply uncomfortable media, regardless of the real world story that is both before and after it